How do I convince my 31 year old friend to break up with her creepy 38 year old boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Huge age gaps never work. I don't understand why this 38 year old men isn't dating a woman his own age. This relationship makes me feel uncomfortable the guy is super old fornmy friend. My friend should be dating a 28-32 year old guys that have more in common. I mean he is from a different generation it's weird. I told my friend about it I even try introducing my single guy friends who are ages 29 and 31 perfect for her. This 38 year old couldbtake advantage of her easy to control her. How ca I make this relationship end? This is an extremely huge super age gap. Its not right. And why isn't he with a woman his own age?

[OlderAndWiser]

It doesn't matter whether it makes you feel weird. It's not your relationship. Would YOU break up with your boyfriend if your friend thought your boyfriend was weird or wrong for her?

Seven years is not an enormous age gap with her being 31. My girlfriend is 9 years younger than me and we are engaged. If she was 18 and he was 25, that would be a bit more weird.

Why do you think you should be in charge of your friend's happiness? Believe it or not, what makes you happy is not necessarily what makes her happy, and if she follow your advice, she may end up feeling miserable and blaming you.

Know where that road leads?

[JustinTheGreat]

She’s a grown ass woman…

I don’t see anything wrong with a 31 and 38 year old being together. You’re acting as if it’s a 20 year age gap with this huge power dynamic. If your friend was 21, I’d understand where you’re coming from.

A 7 year age gap when you’re 21 is different because you mature so much throughout your 20s. A 21 year old and a 28 year old are in two completely different stages of life.
but a 7 year age gap while you’re in your 30s is hardly anything. There’s not gonna be some huge difference in maturity or where they’re at in life. So I don’t see the issue.

[Anonymous]

You need some serious help. Your friend as you said is 31. You claim a 7 year age gap is huge, when it's not. So you think just because he is 38 he would take advantage of her. Um, are you naive. Don't you think 28 years old can also take advantage of women. Get some help. If you were a true friend, you wouldn't be trying to break them up

[Asker]

The one that needs help is you.
A 28 year old has a lot more things in common with a 31 year old.

I am a true friend I don't support thin relationship. That is a huge huge age gap.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you are an idiot because others also think you are stupid for thinking their age gap is huge

[Jazzy54]

Honestly, it’s not that big of an age gap. Anyway, you can’t convince a 31 year old to do anything. She’s an adult. If she’s not being abused or in any other type of danger, please step aside. Only help when she asks for it. Otherwise, mind your business.

[SnowedIn]

Judge much? 7 years is neither huge nor a reason for them to break up. If there are legit reasons, fine, but you not liking the age gap isn't one of them.

Also, I hope you're not as controlling in all your relationships as you seem to be with this one.

[ShesRad80]

so dramatic, its extremely super huge age gap? are you sure you aren't jealous? if she was 18 and him would be a huge age gap but their problem. you can't do it- if anything you will end up making her cut you out of her life

[Anonymous]

7 years is a huge age gap, sure if ones a teen and the other can legally drink but 31 and 38 is not a huge gap

My mother's friend has a gap of 28 years with her sorta ex-husband
I'm in my 20's and have bought drinks for women double my age before

[Asker]

So you have 45 year old woman friends?

[Opinion Owner]

Those are the women I tried to date my female friends are mostly retired

[Asker]

How old are you?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm 25

[jeffend888]

There's so many things wrong with this post.

The only thing that is correct in this post is that huge age gaps never work - you are infinitely correct.

However, 38 and 31 is not a huge age gap. 38 dating 31 is creepy and could take advantage of her? Ok.

You're taking to the internet to end someone else's relationship? You do realize this is absolutely, positively, unequivocally none of your business right?

[Asker]

It is my business! A 29 YEAR OLD MEN WOULD BE PERFECT FOR HER!
AND SHEBWOULD HAVE MORE YHINGS IN COMMON.
It is wrong for men yiur age to even be socializing to 30 year old woman.

[jeffend888]

You clearly need to get a family of your own.

[Asker]

I have 4 cats thank you very much.

[jeffend888]

I rest my case.

[Asker]

What is that supposed to mean?

[zagor]

Different generation? Yeah, a lot of 7 year olds have kids...

I hope this is a troll, because it is one to the stupidest postings I have seen here. 7 years is a big gap if the younger one is 16. Not in the 30's. This is not a significant gap at all. This is a huge case of MYOFB.

[kakaling]

Do you both like the same food, the same movies, the same books, the same chair, the school, the same subject, the same country, the same color, the same minister, the same parent, the same child, the same pet, the same guy?

You both are different individuals, you are being possessive of your friend right now.

[sheikalana]

You can't convince people to do such thing. Is not your business. They don't even have that much of an age gap. Mind your own business please.

[NamerOfStars]

Isn't it funny how jealous people never realize how stupid it makes them look?

[Staximus]

Are you serious? Is this a troll question? Your friend is in her 30's, like him. She's not 18. 7 years is not a big age gap for adult people, especially past 30. You must be a special kind of stupid 🤡🤡🤡

[jahaims]

You are projecting your value system on to a friend.

[Truthatanycost]

Maybe you feel jealous...

[Shamalien]

This has got to be a troll