The other day my boyfriend asked me if I would be mad if he hung out with people and did things while I was preoccupied. I said “no as long as you’re not hanging out with other girls without me because I know you wouldn’t like it if I hung out with other guys without you.” and he said he wouldn’t care as long as he trusted them (meaning his brother and a few his close friends) and so I said “okay then you can’t hangout with girls unless i trust them.” and he argued with me saying that there’s a difference between him hanging out with girls and me hanging out with guys (because it’s more likely that a guy will try to take advantage of me). I still feel like if you don’t want me doing it then you shouldn’t do it to me. It also makes me uncomfortable that one of his friends is a girl who has made it known to him that she wants to sleep with him (yes i’ve told him it makes me uncomfortable). He also rarely tells me about these friends that are girls and never invites me to meet them nor do they seem to inquire about me. am i wrong for this? am i being crazy? is there a reason he seems so insistent on hanging out with his friends that are girls without me?
Y'all both are being a little controlling tbh. Like I get not allowing a double standard of behavior, because that would be unhealthy, but I'd also argue that the standard of not hanging out with the opposite sex except under certain conditions really shouldn't be present at all. It sounds like neither of you actually trusts the other all that much, which is really something you should work on/address between the two of you.
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He said he doesn’t care, but no matter the case, you can’t dictate what company he keeps. If you trust him then you need to embrace that 100%, not half ass it as long as he’s being monitored. If the man was gonna cheat there’s nothing you can do to stop it, so why create an issue where there isn’t one?
I'll love it if I had girlfriend that thinks like you, we will be compatible.
I don't know your boyfriend, you should know him better, how he dated you, how he socializes, I can't really tell what he is unless I can see it myself.
I never drink, smoke, gamble, no piercing, no tattoos, nothing can influence me, I am a very secure person.
See if he has any signs of influence on him. Then you can judge him better.
The long and the short of it is that if you have no trust then you have no relationship so the point is moot.
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he's a walking red flag
- ''It also makes me uncomfortable that one of his friends is a girl who has made it known to him that she wants to sleep with him (yes i’ve told him it makes me uncomfortable)''
- ''He also rarely tells me about these friends that are girls and never invites me to meet them nor do they seem to inquire about me''
Im sorry but it think he's most likely to cheat on u , your rltp won't last long
comere, daddy needs to have a talk with you about the birds and the bees
It's a bit different for guys and gals honey bunny.
Guys can get away with this, but you cannot, do you understand? say YES DADDY I THINK I UNDERSTAND NOW
I don't do double standards, so you both can or neither can
Simple, it's the same rules for both of you.
If you trust each other then it doesn't matter
If you don't trust each other then get out of the relationship - it's toxic.What's good for the goose is good for the gander
All Is Fair In Love And War.
You are both immature. If you can't trust your partner then they shouldn't be your partner
Well yeah he is being a hyprocrite
Sounds fair to me.
fair enough.. you are not doing anything wrong
no that’s fair
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