I met this guy on a dating app, we consistently talked almost everyday for about two weeks when he started saying we should go on a date. I planned a date for us and he seemed really excited about it, offering to pick me up and make it a whole day thing, but day of he texted me early in the morning saying he was sick and that if we was better by night we could do something. I never got a response until 5pm the next day though. He said he was sick so I didn’t think much of it, although he started becoming less available and would respond at 3 or 6am sometimes. We kept talking and he asked if I was free anytime throughout the next week. I told him Thursday or Friday or the weekend and he said maybe Friday. Friday came around, again I didn’t hear from him. So I asked if he still wanted to meet up at 9pm. 4pm rolled around the next day, still no response, so I told him he seemed busy and not all that interested so, basically, never mind. He told me he was just really busy and would probably be getting busier soon. We talked and had great banter for a total of almost a month, but anytime we talked about real plans he didn’t make a huge effort to plan anything. Did he just lose interest? He said he loved talking to me and we had a whole bunch of things we said we’d want to do together. Am I being too hard on him calling things off?
I called things off because of his slow replies and lack of planning. Was I too hard on him?
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1. He may already be in a relationship, feeling bored and not feeling loyal, looking for fun by flirting but not intending to follow through on any plans.
2. Another possibility is that he is just experiencing social anxiety, trying to convince himself to get out there and date, but when the time comes, he chickens out.
3. WHATEVER his excuse is, you are looking for someone to date, spend time together, and see if you might be compatible for a LTR. Whatever the reason may be, if he isn't available for a first date, he certainly isn't available for a LTR, so you are probably wasting your time with this guy.
Well it seems like he's not avaliable to date anyway. He even said he'd probably be getting even more busy. I mean he ain't even send a simple text about how he couldn't he just let you know the next day. I'd say just move on and find someone else or until he's not busy. Your choice
No you weren't too hard on him. Having strict boundaries that you enforce will make your life much simpler and successful.