Why do most guys want girls so much better looking and at least 10 to 20 years younger than themselves? Why don't they date the ones equal to them?

[Babygirl_S]

[ohsheeT]

When I was way younger 16 17 18 I enjoyed being around older women they were 10 times more fun they knew what they wanted and they weren't afraid to experience or to explore.. now that I've gotten older. There are still some of those women are rounded that aren't afraid to explore and experience..
But for some reason there are younger girls they like to be with older guys and they too like to go out and experience and explore and they love challenges and there's just something beautiful about that
It doesn't mean that you have to date or become boyfriend girlfriend or be even in a relationship it just has something to do with who they are maturity and what they're looking for in life is the same way I was when I was younger.

I love to be active I love to interact with people and I enjoy being with people that enjoy the same things that I like are at least willing to go for it and experience something new

[molonski2]

Attraction is about reproduction , it may be reproduction in the subconscious but that's what it is all about , men are fertile there entire lives , take me as an example there would be absolutely NO WAY , I would go out with someone who was not at least 20 years younger , unless she was some crazy glamour queen in great shape , who was not staring menopause down the throat.

And , I have plenty of choice so with that not being a remote problem , of course I'm going to take out the younger fertile woman.

[Apple1996]

Men should only be going for women that are roughly the same age as them. The ones that go younger tend to do that because they didn't get to date women that age when they were younger. It's a sad cope tbh

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the laugh. Men that date younger women do it because they can. And they dated women their age when they were younger.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna they do it because their maturity and mental side are delayed. A person's perception of beauty should naturally change overtime/with age. Usually this happens from trauma that's why I'm saying it's a cope

[Avicenna]

Actually, what happens is that as you age, younger women are still attractive you (and more attractive than women over, say, 45). That doesn't mean we don't find women our age attractive at all, but it does mean that women in their 20s and 30s are still more attractive to us.

Whatever else you think it is isn't applicable to all men. What I just told you generally is and is the more accurate explanation.

[Avicenna]

Men are hardwired to be attracted to women who appear fertile. And that's going to be women who appear to be young.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna beauty is more then physical tho so it's also that. Most men are shallow and cannot see that side.
And everyone is attracted to fertility for both men and women. There's a reason why cougars go after young men lol

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna they are also fucked but that's a different story. Watched milf manor and that made me question a lot of things about life

[Avicenna]

LOL, yeah, sure, cougars want to be knocked up by young guys with no income. When I was 18-19, I banged a few of them, but they sure as hell didn't want more kids. Nor did I want to knock them up.

[Avicenna]

You really should write fantasy novels, Apple.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna not for kids for the sex. Fertility indicators can still be sexy to people even when they don't want kids

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna and ehhh I got pregnant by a 17 year old with no income lol. It worked put fine. Our natural instincts care more about sex rather then income

[Avicenna]

It worked out because he was able to join the military and willing to take on the responsibility of being a father. For many women, that doesn't happen. And you weren't a 40-year-old cougar who already had kids. Furthermore, no one thinks men are anywhere near their peak attractiveness around age 17.

In the real world, the average age of men becoming fathers for the first time is, what, around 30? That should tell you something.

[Avicenna]

If that many young men were banging cougars, they wouldn't be complaining about not having a girlfriend and admitting when polled that they aren't having sex.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna my husband didn't join till a few years later. So I was the only one providing for my son.

Average first time age of mothers are around late 20s-early 30s. Same as men. It's more to do with how we live nowadays. A few 100 years ago everyone was dead at 30-40 so they had to have babies sooner then that. Our society goes against nature. I personally would never allow a man over the age of 29 to get me pregnant because of the risks.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna it's not even just young men. It's all men. They aren't having sex because women actually have standards now 😂 anyways nah my cousin that's 38 is having a baby with her boyfriend that's 23 so women are our their being cougars for sure

[Avicenna]

Sounds like a fairy tale to me. But keep deluding yourself.

As to hubby, you're telling me that he initially didn't pay any child support/support the two of you?

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna no way I would not have made him pay child support. We were raising our son together so no reason for that

[Avicenna]

OK, that's fine, but did you both have income?
by the way, I'm not being critical, I'm trying to understand what you did. I think it's great that you have a big family, but I think you're underestimating how much the military backstopped your family.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna neither of us had income lol he eventually got a job awhile later. Was working hard as shit back then pulling in overtime he was making a lot tbh

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna true but we probably would have had a big family even if he wasn't in the military

[Avicenna]

Then I don't understand why he joined the military.

I am glad I wasn't married with kids when I was in.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna he joined because its his dream to go to war. Which he has been deployed to combat zones multiple times so kind of came true

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna it's better to be married with kids so you have a family to support you. The single guys struggle because of not having anyone

[Avicenna]

Well, it sure didn't seem that way to me. Looked like the married guys had to worry about their wives cheating, especially during deployments.

In my case, I would have either brought a Korean woman to Germany, in which case she wouldn't have had much of a support system or had a German wife pissed off at me for not being around (I know this because the European women I dated complained about deployments and field exercises). And don't even get me started on being stationed in Korea with a wife stateside.

Not having anyone wasn't a problem, ever. Now, I wasn't stationed at Campbell, Hood, or some other place in a boring area where the women were chasing military dudes for their steady paychecks.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna all depends on the women. Me and my sister in laws don't mind being alone but we are use to it from growing up military.
Some of these women do turn on red lights on deployments. If you know what they means lol
And hood ain't boring. I lived there for a few years. It was exciting being in fear of getting murdered everytime I went out 😂

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna I'm pcsing in a month and literally sad that I won't be somewhere ghetto 🥺

[Avicenna]

I am so glad I was never permanent party stateside. Hood is the last place after Drum I would have wanted to be stationed.

I know exactly what you mean about the red light

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna living in the places you listed are extremely beneficial for people that want to go to schooling. They have the funding. Living overseas is not a good idea for people that want to be successful. We turned down Italy to live here at bragg a few years ago. Best decision ever for my husband. My brother in law is in Hawaii and they are treating him so badly, most likely won't rank up because of living there

[Avicenna]

That wasn't an issue when I was in because I was in an understrength MOS.
I'd never turn down Italy (Darby?) for Bragg. Hell no. I could have learned Italian then.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna they basically never deploy and have not to many schools. It's literally pointless being there. My husband has had 4 deployments and gone to a lot of school (I think 15 or 20) being here at bragg. Ranked up multiple times. It was well worth it for his career

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna my husband also has a understrength mos. That's why we can choose where we move. They are desperate

[Avicenna]

Bragg not deploying? That wasn't the case when I was in. And I was Airborne qualified, so I had additional reason not to go there.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna nah Italy rarely deploys and yeah my hubby is airborne

[Avicenna]

To me, its a no-brainer. And look at all the great places you can visit in and near Italy.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna not like he gets leave anyways to travel. Besides baby leave (which he went back to a work a month early from that) he hasn't had leave in like 2.5 years

[Avicenna]

That's insane. How many days of leave do they let you carry these days?

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna I'm not even sure. There was a covid allowance letting them have more days then normal. I think right now he has 160 day

[Avicenna]

That's crazy. I left the service with 90 days of terminal leave.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna yeah they get more leave days for being deployed. He's gone right now so just racking up more days. I've told him to sell them but apparently it's not a lot of money

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't sell them either. More leave days now for being deployed? That would have been nice to have when I was in.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna how many years were you in?

[Avicenna]

Six...

[Adaeva]

They want what they want just as women want what they want.

[rebeliouse]

what do u want @adaeva

[jahaims]

Rebelious is a pedophile

[rebeliouse]

@jahaims didn't notice age!

[rebeliouse]

plus wasn't a loaded question she might want a school exercise book didn't say anything sexual

[Adaeva]

@rebeliouse When I marry, I want an exceptionally attractive young man, near my age that is very intelligent and athletic. I do not date boys more than one or two years older and I will not date men that are more than three, four, or in rare cases five years older.

[rebeliouse]

@adaeva
if you want an attractive young man that is intelligent and athletic are you the same are you intelligent attractive and athletic?

[Adaeva]

@rebeliouse I believe that I am.

[rebeliouse]

so if u have things to offer then im sure you will get what you want in return

[rebeliouse]

shame u dont want love

[Adaeva]

@jahaims Sexual attraction to adolescent girls does not make a pedophile. Google and find out.

[Adaeva]

@rebeliouse Regardless of what love, when the time comes, I'll be an excellent wife.

[rebeliouse]

so u dont mind been in a marriage with no love?

[Adaeva]

@rebeliouse What is love between a man and a woman? Is it sexual attraction and fulfilling one's needs and wants?

[rebeliouse]

so love is just sex?

[Avicenna]

Uh, that is what happens in the real world. If anything, the average man might be more likely to date a woman most people would say is somewhat less attractive than him.

Now, everyone has some ideal that most of us don't expect to get. Most people are more realistic than you think.

[serious]

Simple because men are more visual as compared to women. For a man a woman has to be good looking/beautiful.

That being said, there are always exceptions because some men don't care about outer beauty/age etc and only want a woman with good personality.

[inhua]

not entirely true. men and women are equally visual but they respond differently to differently visuals

big boobs and flawless skin are turns on for men. they do nothing for women

whereas tall height and wide shoulders are a turn on for women. they do nothing for men

[Berethor]

It's because women consider the fairer sex, so there is higher beauty standards for women.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/HAr7yUlM0Po

[aditya1998]

How is this even true? Usually it's the other way around. I can see that you're upset about something from your other questions but don't let that blind you from the statistical reality. Most men marry below their expectations. When I was a kid I too thought that one day I will marry a fashion model. But now I see that even women who are shorter than me, more physically unattractive than me, earn less than a quarter as much as I do don't want to marry me.

[MasterButtram919]

Looks matter more to guys dumbass. Girls are more interested in what a guy does. If he's a boss and he slings the meat cleaver like a pussy slayer, then bitches don't care what he looks like. Maybe at first only because those hoes worry to much about what other think, but them personally don't give a shit about it. Only his dick and his wallet and usually in that order. Duu

[glimmershimmer]

Personally i thinks it because 1. They look young and beautiful 2. They don’t have much experience sexually 3. Makes them feel younger 4. Women their age have Been there done that and get boring

[rebeliouse]

why dont women that are older get boring why dont they try and mix it up and do stuff?

[stratford]

This is a big generalisation. There are plenty of guys who will only date more mature ladies who have more experience in the world.

[Guardian45]

I don't know. But why to girls want guys so much better looking and at least 10 to 20 years older than themselves? Why don't they date the ones equal to them?

[Ironic_Method]

I date women of all (legal) ages. Sometimes younger, sometimes older.

[aditya1998]

I would never even date or marry someone more than 3 years younger than me. Even 5 years gap seems creepy.

[Keene13]

I just prefer my women younger, like early 20s.

[msc545]

Why not try to do the best we can? Women always go forthe talest, best looking, richest guy.

[KostasKouvalis]

We want to feel young again

[TallAnon]

Begging the question

[BLP11520]

Hi Sheena