Hey Guys, How do you make it clear you want to stay acquaintances when someone is interested in you, without being rude?

[Anonymous]

I know that I could just block or ghost him, but that's a weak move and only, if at all, a last resort. And I fear that the way I express myself is either a bit too soft or harsh. After all being nice doesn't ever mean I want to sleep with you.
Any suggestions on how to find the right words?

[ohsheeT]

Well it kind of sounds like your friends so what you do is you looking in the eye and you talk to him like a friend be 100% honest lay it out there on the line and then it's his choice what he does next if he blows it he blows it then you're giving him the opportunity and you're showing him that you're a good person and you still want to be friends but you have to be honest and straight to the point

[ohsheeT]

I have more friends that are girls than I do guy friends and most of these girls are girls that I had interest in when we became friends but there comes a point in time where you have to be honest with yourself and with that person if we were to hook up and start going out and dating how long would it really last I mean we both know that it wouldn't work and it would just be to get a piece of ass so you have to wait it out you have to let him know what's more important piece of ass or a long-term friendship I always wanted to be a smart-ass and say I'll take the piece of ass but I never did do that and I have some very good friends just because we're both on the with each other

[Asker]

I'm seeing that assumption being made kinda in all/most of the replies. When I said acquaintance, I meant truthfully acquaintance. I barely know the guy, we were never friends. If a friend had a crush on me I wouldn't have the same issue. That happened once, as far as I know, and I'd like to think we handled it well.
Besides there is generally speaking no issue for me with guy and girl friends. The over all vibe and mindset just needs to match.
I have guy friends too and they are lovely.

[ohsheeT]

With your Question
And answer of your question and to me . . Your un stop able
I can see why this guy might like you I'm thinking to myself who is this girl
I love the way you
See and feel things are we following each other by any chance

[Avicenna]

Tell him what you like about him as a person but be firm and clear about why you are turning him down. If he's mature enough, he will understand.

[Asker]

Can you give me a for instance. I know that this might sound stupid, but I think I might miss the mark of being assertiveness after a while and become gradually... well ruder

[Iron_Man]

Never block or Ghost. Be kind and gentle and tell the guy you want to remain friends instead of being in a relationship. And obviously he can figure out no sexual relations.

[Asker]

I would only block or ghost if that person becomes extremely weird e. g. hostile.
But more importantly how do you make it clear what you want whilst being gentle? In my experience a certain firmness is necessary.

[Iron_Man]

You can be kind have a soft voice bring up certain things that are pleasant before but when you’re actually saying it, you can say it a little bit firm but not mean and don’t look to hard at him with your eyes

[Asker]

Okay. And what if the softness gets read as something else entirely?
And I don't like to make thing up. Particularly about boundaries and perception, that warps people's minds.

Kind (er): You're amazing, but I just don't feel that way about you, sorry.
(I'd categories that as a false since I have no idea wether not he is amazing)

Definitely more blah Version: Yeah sure you are like tall or whatever but I don't have any feelings for you.

Direct: I don't see us being anything more than acquaintances, because I have no interest in taking this any further.

[Iron_Man]

Use the kinder version but only if it feels that way in your heart

[stratford]

Tell him you like him as a friend.

[In_Trance]

Smh... yea ok