Have you ever been in a dilemma thinking if a person is a red flag or not because you’re too attracted to them and you don’t know what to think/do?

[Pinay_ako]

[DaveJord]

@Pinay_ako This is a math question honestly. So yes, as a man the hottiness factor and Red Flag factor off set things.

I will be 100% honest with you... there times when you meet a person and you just know in the long run, they are not good or right for you. But there is this sexual energy about them. So like guys say women always go for the bad guys, I will sum these women up as the bad girls.

Like physically you are so attracted to them it is electric, but personality wise you know they are no good for you. So you kind of tell them from time to time, hey I do not like it when you say this or that... but you do not push it too hard because they are bad girls, which is the same as crazy women. You never want to spark a crazy they will go off like nobody's business... but they fuck like a dream.

So, this when you as the man start doing the math. How bad do you really think this Red FLAG is and how long can you play it off until you cannot take it anymore. So, the time it takes for you totally be turned off by this person is equivalent to how good the sex is, or how physically attractive in general she is.

More times than not, hot sexy woman with great personalities is married by the age of 30, they had they pick of the litter, and they choose wisely. But just because you see a man with a hot sexy man, do not be fooled into believe that is a happy man. I mean he might be, or he might just be really good at math. Being the value of sexy is far more important than anything else... so he is not going anyway, be he is not really happy about it.

Then there is the guys like me, who will let a sexy woman abuse me a little emotionally. until I get bored with the sexy, and after giving some marginal oppurtunity improve, which the bad girls will never do, I will break it off. But its worth it depending on the math... how many times did I get great sex before it came crashing down?

And that is the thing with the bad girls, you know going in it will never last, but it will be one hell of a ride until the end, so enjoy every momment while it last, becaue you know it won't.

And you don't even feel bad about it, because she is a bad girl, or crazy chick... so you are only taking what she is overing you, and that is sex. Because she does not really care about you. If she did she would not treat you poorly, which is what they do all time and they never learn any better.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I've been there. Don't over think it. Listen to what you're gut feeling is telling you. Put everything else on the side and do what your gut tells you to do.
When I listened to my heart and my head, I made the wrong choice every time.

[dynamicyandere]

I like this answer and agree. Gut check is everything. I’ve always regretting going against my gut when I found out my gut was right about someone all along.

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[Pinay_ako]

You’re very welcome

[TipsyFr]

Yes a woman I know finds me attractive and physically completely my type, she’s my leg day gym buddy and during sessions we get along great. She’s a hairdresser and I know she’s good at acting nice, she’ll say Hi to people we meet and when they walk away she’s like ohhh I hate her bla-bla-bla. Sometimes we’re talking and I know whatever I say she’ll agree but I can tell when she’s playing if I push a bit more I can see her get agravated and eventually she’ll snap on something completely different. To me this is a red flag I think honesty is too important especially if you fall in love you stop seeing these things. I can also be very good at manipulating myself into thinking maybe I’m overthinking this or she’s like this now but I’m sure she would be different if we started dating. It’s easy to be hesitant when she’s in a touchy light flirting mood. ✌️

[haana]

i had and i ignored all red flags. Tried to convince myself that nobody’s perfect, i can still be happy with him. Love may be blind and you can’t see clearly but your families and friends can see right through him/her. Don’t ignore their advice. And now i learned that there’s big difference between stupidity and love

[Lisa021]

If you are in a dilemma yourself and are not sure whether you like someone or what to do about the feelings, consider talking and consulting with friends, family or a professional therapist who may be able to provide useful advice and support. Emotional issues often require personal reflection and thoughtfulness, and professional advice and support can help you better understand your feelings and make decisions.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not really. I've made the unfortunate choice to ignore red flags because I thought other traits outweighed those red flags, but I never had any doubt about whether the danger signs were there.

[ObscuredBeyond]

There's this gal that works at Wendy's. I feel all kinds of things for her; but I already know she'd be nothing but trouble.

[provokeesmokee]

N... no.

Liking someone isn't a red flag for me.

[JosyJosy]

Been there. But with someone a friend is dating. I hear bad things about her and I would have ended it already, but he stays and I wonder why.

[Minahh]

Yes I've been in that situation... old me would be like let's see how red this flag gets... new me is like no one is worth my time unless they give me peace

[exitseven]

Yes, sometimes I used to think with the little head.

[Anonymous]

If they’re too attractive and a red flag. Just fuck them. They’re not for the long term

[the_sinner]

I try to put the attraction aside and focus on my gut feelings. If they really have red flags then I just break my own heart and stop pursuing that person.

[TallAnon]

I think many guys know of the hot vs crazy scale. If she's really hot and she's not setting shit on fire in your bedroom.. You can fix her..

[dolemite58]

of course, that’s part of being a guy is having on your rose colored glasses that cover up how much of a psycho she is 😂

[Fuentes]

I ain't gon a date them so It wouldn't matter lol

[jimmy2]

Yes not if you have to think about hard, hard then no is the answer

[justabuddy]

Yeah... lots of thought and consideration required. The trick is to be honest with yourself.

[Minahh]

Definitely it's all about to do with authenticity... and it takes work on yourself

[Thumper2thump]

omg i think im there

[Andres77]

Time and background checks are your friend.

[Christoff92]

Yes. Basically attitude and a very utterly one.

[Ava1993]

Well for me it’s how they treat the wait staff.