We met late Sept, saw/dated/hooked up most of Aug. Last two weeks asked for meet ups were blown off, and texts excuses were made. I let it go as she’d retext and engage in convo. Almost like a dopamine hit for me. Beginning of this week after she confirmed a date with me last for a date. On our FaceTime call there was a lot of sexual tension, and lots of showing things that could be done after our date.
Date night I went in for the kiss and she went for cheek, hasn’t happened before. Went along with the vibe, and convo was good as dinner. She talked a lot about her week, and wanted me to talk but I really don’t have much to say when I can sense a vibe is off so I initiated more convo to do with how’d she’s feeling. Told me how she’s going through a lot with fam death and mixed emotions. After long dinner I was driving her home I asked her about her mixed emotions she mentioned. She said we moved things way too fast to begin with and she’s got past trauma from other guys who fuck her and leave. I assured her I understand and wasn’t those men. Otherwise I wouldn’t still be here. We went into her place and she was basically ready to send me off with cookies, and I asked jokingly “you’re gunna send me off with milk and cookies, and we could be having fun relaxing and watching a movie” she said no. I even tickled her a bit and got more upset. My que to leave. Just as I opened the door she thanked me for dinner, said she’s going through mixed emotions and it’s nothing to do with me, and that she was ready to hit me when I was pushing too hard. I apologized and said thanks for communicating that with me. As I left she have me a proper kiss and said bye. I like this girl a lot but she’s clearly not ready for anything serious, I at least wanna hookup and have fun with her to see where things could go in the future. I’ve got her goodies she send me home with but I’m seriously debating not reaching out till she does. But also I don’t wanna just have phone convos.
Date night I went in for the kiss and she went for cheek, hasn’t happened before. Went along with the vibe, and convo was good as dinner. She talked a lot about her week, and wanted me to talk but I really don’t have much to say when I can sense a vibe is off so I initiated more convo to do with how’d she’s feeling. Told me how she’s going through a lot with fam death and mixed emotions. After long dinner I was driving her home I asked her about her mixed emotions she mentioned. She said we moved things way too fast to begin with and she’s got past trauma from other guys who fuck her and leave. I assured her I understand and wasn’t those men. Otherwise I wouldn’t still be here. We went into her place and she was basically ready to send me off with cookies, and I asked jokingly “you’re gunna send me off with milk and cookies, and we could be having fun relaxing and watching a movie” she said no. I even tickled her a bit and got more upset. My que to leave. Just as I opened the door she thanked me for dinner, said she’s going through mixed emotions and it’s nothing to do with me, and that she was ready to hit me when I was pushing too hard. I apologized and said thanks for communicating that with me. As I left she have me a proper kiss and said bye. I like this girl a lot but she’s clearly not ready for anything serious, I at least wanna hookup and have fun with her to see where things could go in the future. I’ve got her goodies she send me home with but I’m seriously debating not reaching out till she does. But also I don’t wanna just have phone convos.
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Just end things u guys are at different points she stated she has a fear of u leaving after getting sex and u want to transition this into hooking up blood thats literally what she has now stated she dont want yes she might have opened the door already to sex but it's clear from what's she has described she has a past of habits that have left her to getting fucked and dumped which she is now trying to chamge
Yea totally get what you mean. I think I meant more along the lines of I actual really want to start something serious with her hence asking her out on multiple occasions but having sex coming to a halt is a no no. Totally understand how she feels but I don’t wanna be the guy she just dates, or be the guy she just fucks either. The package would be the goal!
Which is completely reasonable to want I just feel she ain't in the right heads pace for it all maybe sit down with her have a real talk and decide from their lay shit out and what u both want long term
Yea she’s definitely not. Which she explained clearly and that it’s really nothing to do with me. Told her I just wanna go on dates and have fun. Keep it simple while we get back to knowing each other. I almost think things are too serious and needs to go back to having fun. Cuz we were doing that, but more in group settings. Which she didn’t like cuz we’re both very outgoing
Sounds like she's trying to decide between you and another guy right now man. Women typically have 2 speeds, fast and stop. Do you have confirmation that there's actually been a death? Because women are above playing that card as an excuse.
Yea her grandma died! Posted about it and had long talks with her family. No doubt about that, if theyres another guy/guys in the picture. That I can’t confirm. But it does suck receiving mixed signals towards how great I am but then not wanting to hookup or continue with how it was a few weeks ago
Well only you can decide whether she's worth the wait for then man. If you are willing to wait for her I would set a timeline (obviously not verbally to her. But in your head). And if she's not healed then I'd be moving on. Just my opinion. She might NOT come out of this. And you don't want to be that chump.
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