Is it normal for a guy in his early 20’s (like me) to hardly ever talk to female peers of his age? Is it normal to not want to pursue or talk to them?

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What I’m saying is I hardly ever talk to women, but at the same time though I’m not really interested in talking to most guys either.

I’m friends with 2 guys that I hang out regularly with every week, and then I’m friends with a couple others as well that I see a bit less often.

However, aside from this Russian girl I see maybe once every couple weeks, there aren’t really any other females I ever talk to.

And I don’t really bother pursuing that Russian girl either because she has a boyfriend. So its more just a passing hello over lunch kind of thing when we cross paths.

Otherwise, there isn’t a single other female I ever talk to lol.

Anyway, all my guy friends are in the same boat as me its just I feel like most men in general still do talk to women though for whatever reason.

Its just in terms of where I’d rather invest my time, I feel like there’s many things I’d rather be doing than pursuing women, but at my age this seems like an unnatural thing for a guy to feel.

Most other guys my age seem to want to pursue women, but I just feel absolutely no inclination.

Anyway, I don’t care about getting laid or anything like that but I was more so just wondering, is it unusual for a man to just never bother talking to women?

I understand by not talking to women, I’m making it nearly impossible for myself to ever find a lifelong partner, but I’m still kinda debating whether or not I should worry that I’m not like the other guys. Or if they’re all just f*ckboys and I shouldn’t be concerned.

All I can say is, I’m friends with several guys of good moral caliber that want long term relationships, (not angry incels wanting to get laid) and they tend to be thinking and feeling the same way as me

So while it is possible that maybe a decent share of the guys actively pursuing women are decent people, at least in the back of my mind I tend to think of the more decent men as being the ones most similar to myself.

Paulalove98 · Accepted Answer

It’s your life and your preferences at the end of the day. Tbh before I met my fiancé (which he’s 18) I wasn’t specifically seeking or talking to 18 year olds we just came across one another and clicked, I was talking to people that were like 20, my age 24, someone who was 27 and so on yeah… but idkkk if it was just where I lived but it was hard to meet single men my age because most were already taken as in relationship, married, or have had kids which is crazy how fast my generation has rushed it and I know my relationship appeared sudden to my friends and family but I’m the happiest I’ve ever been with him despite our age difference but honestly I’m sure you’ll meet the right girl it may come as a surprise whether she’s 23, 21, or 26 I don’t know what your dating preferences is but you never know and it’s okay if you don’t always approach women either.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

My gosh crazy how times has changed in just one decade. I remember when I was young 19 year old me. I knew couples that would date for years highschool sweet hearts and couples would mostly likely end up married with the same person. I guess my generation millenial woman we were the last to be traditional. Now a days woman your age aren't traditional. I have a 22 year old sister I had to be really hard on her even th doctor told me my 22 year old sister has a mindset of a 15 year old. So no nothing wrong. You devide who you what to hang out. The thing is your an old soul and from what I see you have a mature mindset of a 39 year old guy. Your an old soul your situation is very common on people with old souls. I've been there before.

Level_With_Me · Accepted Answer

Of the guys and girl that you do talk to, are they all your age? Or are they older/younger, and by how much? And a lot of guys would like to pursue women for potential partners, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they do actually talk to a lot of women, nor that they talk to them often if at all anyway. For a lot of if not most people, there are often big mismatches between desire and reality. But if you're in college, it's best to just be able to focus on college rather than on the fickle nature of modern relationships. College is primarily for pursuing and acquiring the skills and education on offer anyway, especially since it's so expensive.

KrakenAttackin · Accepted Answer

Man, you are at that age where the girls your age are banging the fuck out of Chad Thundercock and his buddies. My advice is to keep working on your grind and move yourself forward.

23 year old girls ar waaayyy too flakey to be taken seriously. Just do your thing.

inhua · Answer

people are gonna say being "popular" and being a part of the "cool kids club" is normal they probably think celebrity lifestyles are normal too but they're not

Exterminatore · Answer

These days, yes.

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