Why did she ask me to introduce her to my guy friends?

[Anonymous]

So I'm talking to this person (26 f and I'm 30 m) and we live many hours apart. We are definitely into eachother but I told her we can't have a relationship cause of the distance. We talk about a lot of things, like how our days are going, our friendships, family, hopes and dreams etc.

I'm having her visit me for a week in late October/early November, we planned this for a couple months. But thing is she asked if she can get to know my friends, like if I could introduce her and give her their numbers.

Most of my friends are dudes and they are single and do a lot of dating and hookups, not really relationship stuff, and I tell her all about this.

Why would she ask me to talk to them?

[kareenakapur]

yeah sounds like she's trying to get with them. bc like I want to get to know the guy I likes friends. But I say introduce me not their numbers. Getting their numbers is overboard

[Asker]

Yeah that's what I'm thinking too... it's kinda odd because we have plans to be intimate when she visits because we wanted eachother for so long

[kareenakapur]

yeah wtf thats weird. I guess its bc u said no to the relationship. Tbh i was in this before. Was lonely and wanted a guy. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship and then he got together w his ex. I asked him to introduce me to friends looking for a relationship lol. Guess she thought you might know people. I'd help her out tbh if you dont want her that is.

[Asker]

Well I do want her, I'd totally date her if she was living closer too, we have an amazing friendship and I'm super attracted to her

Thing is every guy friend I have that actually does relationships are in one except me, so all that's left is guys who do lots of hook ups, and she knows this, so yeah I'm thinking I could introduce her to one of them and they'd probably be able to meet her when she visits my next month

[kareenakapur]

oof thats an awk situation then oof

[Asker]

Yeah I don't know what to do :(

[kareenakapur]

dont introduce her to ur friends nope

[Asker]

That's probably the wisest thing to do! I was planning on taking her out for the night a couple times with all my friends but that could end badly if she decides she can hook up with one of them!!

[kareenakapur]

omg yeah def only take her out alone

[kareenakapur]

but dude if u want her then take her. No distance should matter. Make it work if she's a real one

[Asker]

Yeah I really like her and maybe I should just date her, I'm just bummed about living far apart and that I can't always be there for her and spend a lot of time together, but we talk every single day and have gotten really close, and I know she wants to date for sure

Do you think it's a bad sign she wanted me to hook her up with a guy friend basically?

[kareenakapur]

its not a good sign but doesn't mean she's not still interested in you. LIke i said guy i liked i told him to introduce me to his friends too. But bc he was moved on to his ex. LIt he did not want me. He didn't want me to have anyone else tho. Wanted me and his ex that bitch. But like even tho I asked to introduce me to his friends, I really would've been down for him if he just wanted me. He didn't want to introduce me tho. I was lowkey just sad and desperate to meet someone bc i lived in a small town. Hard to meet people. Maybe that's her case too that bc u said no to a relationships she's trying to see if she can get that with someone else, one of your friends bc she is sad and wants someone.

[Asker]

Yeah that could be it, but she knows she wouldn't be able to have a relationship with the single guys I know, if I set her up with one of them they'd probably just have a fling together maybe hook up some of the nights that she visits me or during the day when I'm busy, I asked her who she'd want to talk to and she said "I don't know you choose"

[kareenakapur]

eew thats a weird situation

[Asker]

Yeah I know right? How could I even choose? I think I gotta talk to her about it

[DarkWinterNights]

Meeting your friends is one thing. Wanting their numbers is freaking weird.

[Asker]

Yeah it complicates things for sure