What do guys want in a girl and what are big red flags to you?

Question

I've tried the religious dating apps and not much luck. All the guys want to talk to me. I'm hot I know but no one stays long term. :( It always lasts 2 months exactly. I know it has to be something in my personality or guys want to try and see if they can find something better I don't know. I'm sweet and sexy. What are you guys looking for and things that scream red flag and make you leave?

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

Mainly I want a partner in crime a girl I can develop an emotional bond with and experience and share life with. I´m Christian so I´d prefer to date another Christian but besides that I want a girl that likes to go out and experience something while not being hyperactive or going to the clubs every weekend. I like it if a girl is intelligent and is passionate about something, even if I don´t share that passion. I don´t have that many physical preferences besides I need to find her face attractive.

Big red flags for me is a girl that shows she doesn´t take me seriously. A girl that when we go out seems to check out other guys and evaluating her options. Other redflags to me are that she smokes (I´m a none smoker), she has piercings or are around her mouth, she´s into motorcycling (I nearly lost friends due to that), she has an opposite worldview, she shows me signs that she´s using me for something.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

No Thanks:

❌ Disrespect
❌ Disloyalty
❌ Dishonesty

❌ Poor Character
❌ Poor Ethics/Morals/Values
❌ Poor Communication
❌ Bad At Conflict Resolution
❌ Doesn’t Put In Effort
❌ Emotional Immaturity
❌ Never Apologizes
❌ Passive Aggressive
❌ Plays Mind Games
❌ No Accountability
❌ Poor Impulse Control
❌ Addictions Of Any Kind
❌ Self-Centeredness
❌ Lack Of Empathy
❌ Narcissism

Good Stuff:
✅ Femininity + Basically The Reverse Of The Red Flags

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Noticing that he’s dishonest, I am very honest and expect the same from the men who want to date me,

If he’s hiding things or being dishonest, I don’t have time for that. I am not going to be anybody’s plan B and if someone doesn’t realize I deserve the truth, then bye bye, he can find his equal quite easily, world is full with dishonest men or women,

He’s NOT my match though. I am better off without such people.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What do guys want in a girl? I will forego the easy x-rated response. I want a girl who is kind, gentle, feminine, loyal, not arrogant, and intelligent. And I found her.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think one of the big red flags guys around your age have is dating someone longer than 2 months. That's about the time period they give up on a girl if they aren't getting out of the relationship what they feel their owed (sexual-wise). Most guys your age don't want to date a girl any longer than a few months at a time because it ties them down.

It's not a red flag that you deserve, it's all on them. Unfortunately you get the sh^t end of the stick on that arrangement, which is what you've obviously been experiencing.

So in short, don't let these guys that tend to behave like make you any less sweet and sexy. There are plenty of guys out there that want a longer relationship than a couple of months at a time with the right girl.

havingfun2023 · Answer

Baggage, offspring, previous partners, moves around a lot.
Anyways. Extroverted and Loud person. Lol

Anyways mind if I ask politely, if you say you know you're hot, surely are these men getting bored of 2 months exactly everytime because of something like a) they wanted something new, e. g. to date a natural blonde or a natural brunette or redhead or b) they wanted to look at a different body feature on another new chick or C) something else physically they got bored of.
I for one have struggled with telling myself I like big tits, yet however I feel like even if I was a guy who could easily attract hot women like that, i sometimes wonder whether I'd get bored easily. Even if the physical and emotional connections were great, I think maybe I am not designed for relationships lol, and yet, I'm single all this time anyhow and ongoing. 😊😊😊
Ah well, anyways bed time 😀

Fireguy17 · Answer

Wants:
a great personality, someone who isn't all full of themselves, independent, has some common interests with each other, gregarious, educated, likes animals, is kind to others, career minded.
Dislikes:
just another pretty face, they are a dime a dozen. I figured out that I have to actually like the person I am with.
Looks change over time, dumb is forever.
Endless selfies, not as prevalent with older women, someone who has matured, again an age thing, fake boobs, smoker, drugs, drinks too much, on their phone all day long, rude, full of themselves, fish lips, no ambition, thinks the world owes them something, bad driver, no personality at all...

CaliAttorneyGuy · Answer

Unless the guy is a player and just wants sex, most guys are not that complicated and just want intimacy, loyalty, similar interests (don’t have to have identical interests), as little drama as possible, etc. Some possible red flags could be if she’s not over an ex who is still around and trying to get back with her, ghosting and other mind games beyond the initial dating stage, etc.

YourExLover69 · Answer

I don't ghost anyone.

For strong relationship efforts should be made from both sides. There should be passion and spark from both sides. Both should be honest and listening to each other.

Red flags in a girl would be if she is cheating, lies, racist, smokes, do drugs, talks and flirts with lot of guys, unhygienic.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Ya don't need to know mine as will all be opposite to you anyway, as a Major red flag to me is religion. Which pretty much says it all about the key differences and don't really apply to any good advice.

Pegases · Answer

Not an exhaustive list:

-No female friends

-Low self esteem

-Nudity or very revealing pictures anywhere on the internet.

-Multiple kids with different men

-Any form of sex work

-Modern Day feminist beliefs

chrissykerdock · Answer

guys want either blowjobs, vagina or anal... maybe 1% are actually looking for a girl to date... but sex rules over everything it seems.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically she just has to be a decent human being. And I've read enough profiles by now that I can deduce that pretty much just by reading a woman's profile if she is. Women who aren't quality human beings try to hide thier true nature, but they really can't. Thier true ickyness betrays them.

exitseven · Answer

Red flags are if she has a bunch of guy friends and some of them she used to have sex with. If she uses drugs and if she drives a beat up Camaro wit hthe front passengers seat is filled up with fast food wrappers.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Are you a good woman? Are you pure? Do you stand up for yourself? Do you commit? Do you honor your commitments? Have you fucked too many guys? Can you be trusted around the opposite gender? To name a few.

soe11 · Answer

My dear don't sales yourself، using religious to gain pleasure. Gifted brain is to be used, eyes to sight, so in short to focus on yourself, your beautiful flower, honey bee will follow you.

Anonymous · Answer

The only one who can really answer that question are the men who dated you. You got to get them to give you the honest truth. They are not ready to settle if it is to "See what else is out there".

bowenw · Answer

A controlling personality is a red flag for me. I also don't like it if someone resorts to name calling during fights. Of course things like lying are a big problem.

Nifrayu · Answer

I preferably want someone none religious, but religion by itself is not an instant deal breaker.  Some red flags are smokimg, short temper, selfish tendencies and poor communication skills.

jojoiwiwbwjo · Answer

Depends on the stage in life. Maybe a friend, maybe sex, maybe a mother to his kids, maybe all the above or any combination of two.

inhua · Answer

guys want consistency, respect, loyalty and emotional control

spartan55 · Answer

Maybe your complete lack of humility is the prohlem.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Being down to earth, kind, understanding, low body count, intelligent, sweet and good natured. Plus tolerant of our hobbies. And good with kids, no drugs , little alcohol and a job.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

red flags = bad breath, stinky feet, loud voice, always checking your mobile while out on a date, burping and farting in public thinking no one noticed, and skid marks in your undies

Anonymous · Answer

Intelligence especially financial Attractiveness is a plus Independence Red flags Liberal, tee-total, clingy, low intelligence, bad with money

BigDog1989 · Answer

The most important is that she be loyal. If she cheats, that's the last straw for me

hbkfan · Answer

Major red flag is when a girl constantly ask for money even after she claimed to have a job

Christoff92 · Answer

Honesty and personal traits. Red flag? Utterly bad Attitude 🫤

Anonymous · Answer

pair of tits and a vaginahole. Redflag would be an adam's apple

MJtheCoach · Answer

I just wanna sleep with a lot women with low body counts

lazermazer · Answer

Send me that religious dating app, never heard of it before.

msc545 · Answer

Personality disorders mean I will never bother.

jimmy2 · Answer

I did that too in fact found many scammers them found a lair and she was using her Senior and she told me try my teacher and found love

eagle1951 · Answer

honestly i've beeen out of the dating thing so long i have no idea whats going on

Kelly6 · Answer

long term is hard to find now

slatyb · Answer

Intelligence and lack of beliefs without evidence.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Traditional values basically

DreamLife7 · Answer

You're 26 hun , you're not a girl grow up.

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