If you were betrayed once, how long would it take to get over the sadness?

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LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

It never really goes, it’s a wound that leaves a hole in your heart,

But you move on, forgive them and learn to love again.

But betrayal is probably one of the most horrible things you could experience in life.

It will shake your whole understanding of love,

When you love someone, more than anyone and anything in the world, when he’s your whole universe and a person who promised to always protect you and your heart and then he ends up stabbing it,

he could as well kill you and maybe that would be more painless,

It doesn’t make any difference honestly, betrayal is like killing a person, turning her whole world upside down.

But it’s a valuable lesson.

And a very important step to become a stronger person.

You learn the real face of humans,

you also learn that YOU are your own hero and you can trust yourself, and you don’t need anybody else for being happy,

you are your biggest love.

and noone can take it away from you.

You’ll be okay.

But before then, you’ll experience a living hell, and remember “That, too, shall pass.”

When you reach the bottom, there’s only one way: UP!

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it goes away honestly. There is always that looming feeling that’s there.
From personal experience, I used to date this due that would disappear for weeks on end, the longest being 2 months. The delulu in me really that it was normal. Turned out he had 3 other girls in different parts of the province that he was in relationships with.
I've gotten past the aspect of him but not the ghosting. It effected me for a long time when I got into my newer relationship. It took a lot of communication from my part to say this was my trauma. Now even with good friends, if they disappear for a while, I tend to write them off which is unhealthy I know but I cannot get myself off of the experience.

Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

Oh gosh.

It WILL change you. Don't get me wrong. It's not the end of the world.
But even when you have moved on, you never forget that moment that you lost your "innocence".

It will make you stronger though.

Hang in there. /hugs

Meropatrick · Accepted Answer

I learned Something early in life. Betrayel does exist and i should not be like fainting when i see it. Some people are honest Some are pathological at betraying others. So I should expect to meet both. And learn to cope with it.

sage2021 · Answer

I thought my life would be better off without him, but for years I hung in there and put up with him hurting me over and over again.
And just when I was done, the next day he suddenly died. So, instead of getting over him, I am up early in the morning crying and GaGging. I hurt so bad I think my heart will explode. 💔

DermalPunch · Answer

Sadly, I don't think I have ever gotten over the countless amounts of betrayal I have experienced. Friends, family, schools administration, work colleagues and romantic partners. I just carry on and am sadly a lot more guarded than I want to be.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Quite easily for me but the friendship is most likely over.  It's better to discard traitors.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I can get over sadness in the same day or week. But total forgiveness can take about 3-4 years

RedInnocent68 · Answer

It never goes away completely, but you do stop thinking about it unless you’re reminded or triggered.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It took me about 6-8 months or so. It hurt pretty bad for awhile, but eventually you have to chalk it up to learning experience and move on.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not long. Only weak people struggle with betrayal.

lildkman1090 · Answer

I still hurt and it’s been almost 5 years but it’s better this way

FreyaRed · Answer

Not long, this is a possibility I never reject and I'm prepared to.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I was betrayed three times. Still haven't gotten over it and it's been almost 9 years sense the last one

FunkyMonkee · Answer

The INITIAL sadness? Might be a couple weeks or so. It depends on how badly I was hurt by it.

jeffend888 · Answer

Once? You’re lucky.  I’ve been betrayed by numerous people, numerous times for numerous reasons spanning back numerous years.

jb2622 · Answer

Depends on how bad but I'd say fairly quick feelings wise. You never forget thought.

Mansearching · Answer

Wouldn't be sad. Just move on. Wouldn't trust who/whom betrayed me.

noohair · Answer

It is different for each person and each relationship. When the ego of a man is broken, it does not fix well.

Myfurt · Answer

Don't think I'll ever get over it. It's always in the back of my mind. Chose to stay with her cause of the kids, yet it's a new kind of torture...

jahaims · Answer

Betrayal doesn't even invoke sadness in me anymore. Mostly disappointed and pity.

Sasha0426 · Answer

It doesn’t take me long. However, it will teach me to never trust that person again.

Lokiion · Answer

Maybe an hour or 2 it’s definitely not gonna take more then a day

LiamJHayden · Answer

Romantically? A day at most. Best friend? Years.

Anonymous · Answer

Never. I don't trust any white girl in online world. They are quick to judge, show racism, cowards who block quickly.

Alex8736 · Answer

Not long if you cut them completely out of your life and keep moving forward

MaxUsefull · Answer

time heals everything... forgive whoever betrayed you, but don't want contact with that person anymore

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It won't take long but I'd never trust the person they betrayed me again

Magnoliaamaryllis · Answer

Well, What do you want to do? I think it is more important

Anonymous · Answer

I'm heartless. I don't trust people. So no point of betrayal in my case.

havingfun2023 · Answer

I moved on pretty quickly 😋🙂

Paris13 · Answer

Not Too LOng. Consider That Source. xxoo

HitsyHonesty · Answer

a few days or a week!

spartan55 · Answer

It wouldn't be sadness, it would be anger.

exitseven · Answer

Ask me in another 30 years.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Probably less than a week for me

Christoff92 · Answer

The same day. Her attitude was a stinker 😝

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Depends everyone is different

Guardian45 · Answer

A LONGASS TIME! I don't heal quickly!

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

U should be prepared for it

In_Trance · Answer

as long as you want it to

Anonymous · Answer

The last time? About a year.

Engin12 · Answer

Really short after I got my revenge

MissBoogus · Answer

Never 😭

BLP11520 · Answer

A few months for me

boyCrossdresser · Answer

took me a year

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