If you were betrayed once, how long would it take to get over the sadness?

[JoannaSmith36]

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It never really goes, it’s a wound that leaves a hole in your heart,

But you move on, forgive them and learn to love again.

But betrayal is probably one of the most horrible things you could experience in life.

It will shake your whole understanding of love,

When you love someone, more than anyone and anything in the world, when he’s your whole universe and a person who promised to always protect you and your heart and then he ends up stabbing it,

he could as well kill you and maybe that would be more painless,

It doesn’t make any difference honestly, betrayal is like killing a person, turning her whole world upside down.

But it’s a valuable lesson.

And a very important step to become a stronger person.

You learn the real face of humans,

you also learn that YOU are your own hero and you can trust yourself, and you don’t need anybody else for being happy,

you are your biggest love.

and noone can take it away from you.

You’ll be okay.

But before then, you’ll experience a living hell, and remember “That, too, shall pass.”

When you reach the bottom, there’s only one way: UP!

[electromagnetic]

I don’t think it goes away honestly. There is always that looming feeling that’s there.
From personal experience, I used to date this due that would disappear for weeks on end, the longest being 2 months. The delulu in me really that it was normal. Turned out he had 3 other girls in different parts of the province that he was in relationships with.
I've gotten past the aspect of him but not the ghosting. It effected me for a long time when I got into my newer relationship. It took a lot of communication from my part to say this was my trauma. Now even with good friends, if they disappear for a while, I tend to write them off which is unhealthy I know but I cannot get myself off of the experience.

[Angelo75]

Oh gosh.

It WILL change you. Don't get me wrong. It's not the end of the world.
But even when you have moved on, you never forget that moment that you lost your "innocence".

It will make you stronger though.

Hang in there. /hugs

[Meropatrick]

I learned Something early in life. Betrayel does exist and i should not be like fainting when i see it. Some people are honest Some are pathological at betraying others. So I should expect to meet both. And learn to cope with it.

[sage2021]

I thought my life would be better off without him, but for years I hung in there and put up with him hurting me over and over again.
And just when I was done, the next day he suddenly died. So, instead of getting over him, I am up early in the morning crying and GaGging. I hurt so bad I think my heart will explode. 💔

[Guardian45]

Aww. My Condolences on your loss.

[sage2021]

@Guardian45
Thank you for your kind words 🌺🙂

[DermalPunch]

Sadly, I don't think I have ever gotten over the countless amounts of betrayal I have experienced. Friends, family, schools administration, work colleagues and romantic partners. I just carry on and am sadly a lot more guarded than I want to be.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Quite easily for me but the friendship is most likely over.

It's better to discard traitors.

[DizzyDesii]

I can get over sadness in the same day or week. But total forgiveness can take about 3-4 years

[OfMiceandMen]

It took me about 6-8 months or so. It hurt pretty bad for awhile, but eventually you have to chalk it up to learning experience and move on.

[RedInnocent68]

It never goes away completely, but you do stop thinking about it unless you’re reminded or triggered.

[lildkman1090]

I still hurt and it’s been almost 5 years but it’s better this way

[FreyaRed]

Not long, this is a possibility I never reject and I'm prepared to.

[Nikki1989]

Not long. Only weak people struggle with betrayal.

[AmeerX]

If I cry about it then I am weak and If you forget about it then you are heartless 🤣

[Lokiion]

@AmeerX heartless? I would say more so realistic plus theirs no point in crying about it whats crying going to change?

[AmeerX]

@Lokiion just a figure of speech lokiion. I don't look back after betrayal

[FunkyMonkee]

The INITIAL sadness? Might be a couple weeks or so. It depends on how badly I was hurt by it.

[SolitarySolace]

I was betrayed three times. Still haven't gotten over it and it's been almost 9 years sense the last one

[jeffend888]

Once? You’re lucky.

I’ve been betrayed by numerous people, numerous times for numerous reasons spanning back numerous years.

[noohair]

It is different for each person and each relationship. When the ego of a man is broken, it does not fix well.

[jb2622]

Depends on how bad but I'd say fairly quick feelings wise. You never forget thought.

[Mansearching]

Wouldn't be sad. Just move on. Wouldn't trust who/whom betrayed me.

[Myfurt]

Don't think I'll ever get over it. It's always in the back of my mind. Chose to stay with her cause of the kids, yet it's a new kind of torture...

[jahaims]

Betrayal doesn't even invoke sadness in me anymore. Mostly disappointed and pity.

[Sasha0426]

It doesn’t take me long. However, it will teach me to never trust that person again.

[Lokiion]

Maybe an hour or 2 it’s definitely not gonna take more then a day

[Lokiion]

Wouldn’t be sad or upset either matter of fact it wouldn’t even take that long I would just move on nothing to cry about

[LiamJHayden]

Romantically? A day at most.

Best friend? Years.