Absolutely not.
There are personal boundaries like sex, living together, making big changes in life/career that are fine to not do or limit before marriage, but the money aspect is particularly wack.
I'll bring up the same point that I mentioned in my other answer. Do you not spend money on your other loved ones? I don't know about you but if I had money, and when I did, I've spent very generously on others. From surprise birthday cake and pizza to even giving my best friend a few hundred dollars to enter college because she could not afford the admission fees, and it's not like I earned a lot, I'm just a broke college kid who was doing a minimum wage job in the summer. My boyfriend is saving up to take his parents on a trip with his money, he is also a student like me. That's what we do for people we care about when we don't even have a lot of money, hell yeah I'd be spending more on them if I could, I'd be happy to buy my mom and sister and besties more expensive stuff. Anyone who is stuck up with their money to the point that they stubbornly don't want to spend on their partner until they marry... that's just someone I don't find with dating to begin with.
Think of this from another angle, if a woman is generally very fashionable and likes wearing makeup and doing her hair and all but only around her partner she chooses to wear no makeup and plain clothes because he should love her the way she is naturally, if a person loves cooking and always cooks for other people but don't do it for their partner because they don't want to give their unmarried partner marriage treatment already... you will be weirded out.
Like literally no woman expects her rich boyfriend to just buy her a whole house or something, but if you're actively giving less than you can afford to then that is a huge red flag. Don't tell me that in that sense women should be giving sex with their partners, unless you have sex with your family and friends too and your perfect Thanksgiving dinner ends with a course of orgy.
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I don’t date people for their money or for what they’ll spend on me…. I have a job for that🤷♀️ maybe dating/relationships are failing because people (out at least people on GAG) are making it all about sex or money and finding/being with someone, being in a relationship, sharing your life with someone is about SO MUCH MORE than EITHER of those things… And until people REALLY get that, they’ll keep failing in finding love or real happiness… 🤷♀️
Not necessarily.
Let's say she wants to go on a trip so we plan out a road trip where we go somewhere a few days away and she's picking all these nice hotels and wants to drink at all nice places.
I understand not wanting to be taken advantage of but if she can't understand that she's putting me in a worse version of the situation she was trying to avoid by doing stuff like that, we'll that's a pretty big red flag for me.
I don't need her to pay my bills or buy me stuff just because I want it and can't afford it. It would be nice, but it's not something I would consider a mark for or against her whether she did it or not.
No because that would mean they are using me for something but they don´t show interest. I don´t care about expensive cars or other assests but for me paying on a date or bringing something on a date to contribute is something that shows the interest is mutual.
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I don’t date people for their money and have my own job so it makes no difference to me. However my boyfriend will pay for me when we go on trips since he can afford to and we’ve talked about it. If I had to pay for myself we wouldn’t be going on those trips together since I can’t afford it. Which would also be okay on my end. However he would rather us make those memories together and I give back in other ways. I think too many people get caught up on money, sex, etc. Sure it can be important but it isn’t the end all be all
i would never be able to use the money, lmao. massive fear of marriage. I don't know, i just think the second you’re told you have to do something, you’re not going to want to. marriage is a promise to stay together no matter what. i think i wouldn’t be able to commit to something i can’t leave. but sure, lmao, ill just use my own money.
I wouldn't want to date someone too rich. Private jet rich is something I'm just not into. It's gross and, in my values, wrong.
I also wouldn't want someone so money obsessed it becomes a gatekeep to their relationship.
I also wouldn't want that money spent on me. It's basically dirty money and my love can't be bought.
I do respect their view, but if they're too purse string-tight to date me, then they're simply too poor for me.As far as private jets go, thats a Lear 25. Theyre like 45 year old airframes. Basic avionics, fuel inefficient, noisy. You can buy one of those in the $150k to $450k range.
Personally, if i were rich, id go with dassault falcon.
Have some taste here, coach!
not even any birthday presents? kind of cold, don't you think? especially if the girl gets him gifts? it doesn't have to be expensive, jesus... i'm okay with $10 flowers, some chocolates, a home cooked meal... just has to show you care. which i guess that rich guy doesn't. so no, i wouldn't.
Couldn't say... I'm not attracted to rich women. I grew up around them and it turns me off. But I can see how men don't want to get too lavish with women before marriage. I actually try to hide my wealth from women if I date them because once they know about it you can't be sure if it is you or your money they are after. It is a major issue actually, it makes it hard to trust someone.
Hmmm.
Rich or not, I have my own money so I don’t need anyone to spend money on me. Anything I want, I usually get myself.But if that was a specific requirement then I’d pass. I don’t find it a big deal to pay for my significant other’s meal, buy him breakfast, bring him lunch, make him dinner, bring him stuff while he’s sick, or treat him on his birthday… To specifically require and nickel and dime me if I want medicine or a sandwich or something sounds petty. That makes it seem like some kind of transition and that they’re looking down on me as if they’re some prize just because they’re rich. Doesn’t seem like much of a relationship if that’s his priority.
Well simple act of dating costs SOME money. I'll spend on her what she spends on me. Won't even get me a Christmas present/card/something? Okay we can take a lot of trips to the park. As long as we alternate who is driving because I'm not paying for all the gas.
Crazy me says any man who wants to get married for me to spend their money, I’ll wait and waste time and if we don’t get married, I’ll hold him at pew pew point and demand compensation for my time wasted before we part ways.
Realistic me knows I don’t date for money. My partner had lint and ramen noodle wrappers in his pocket when I met him. I’m not materialistically driven.
Its very weird situation. Like why would they set that as a condition i think most rich people prefer the opposite. To date and not to marry in order to avoid someone going after their money. I would indeed ask them why
Depends on how much they spend on themselves. If they keep taking lavish vacations alone and buy a lot of adult toys (cars, boats, etc.) then I'd be pretty pissed. If they're not lavish with the money, then I don't mind. My parents are rich, among the richest 1% in the US. They're not lavish though. They are rich because they had good jobs and are good with money.
Is this supposed to be a bad thing? Some rich guy wants to marry me 😍
They sound useless.
And I'm not even a gold digger. I just don't get the point of having money but not spending a penny on your partner, waiting on the wedding bells to ring. Gag reflex activated.
I respect that at some point of life, most people want to get married. That's cool. But why would you gatekeep your money while dating? Is dating not important enough for you?
I don't care how much money someone has, and that isn't why I would date someone and I definitely wouldn't marry someone just for money.
Depends... if he is loyal I wouldn't care, but if he was so stingy not even to buy me a video game or something for my birthday than no LOL
Its not supposed to be about money but I’de say that stance is weird not spending any on someone. Just go about your rich life and include one more, it costs next to nothing really. I’de want to pay my own way though at my own level of affordability so that I stay grounded and can’t be manipulated.
Yeah, I wouldn't care if she spent any of it on me EVER! But honestly I don't see me ever being able to marry a rich woman. Not unless she had a Warren Buffet mentality towards money. Money to me is a tool, nothing more. And while I have my little splurges (everybody does). Thrift is just in my nature. I would need the woman I marry to be much the same way. And my guess if she's rich that's going to be unlikely.
If I did, I’d be seeing other men until we were married.
Yeah, her money is not my money and mine is not hers. I don't think some rich woman is going to date an old bum like me, though haha
Wish this was a poll! No time to sift through the answers. But I definitely would date her. I've dated many rich chicks than never spent shit on me more than maybe a dinner here and there.
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