So I recently met this guy that I have been talking to for a good 2 weeks now. We went out on 2 dates so far and I feel a connection with him. Sometimes I notice when he stares at me, like he's questioning something and I know it's because of how I act at times. My last relationship, I was " hidden " couldn't hold hands in public, he would freak out and get mad if I surprise him at work. Went to places that he knew no one will run into him. So now that I'm with the new guy, I will get scared. Like today, we planned a lunch date, ( he had to work but I didn't ) he told me to meet him at his job. I walked inside to find him and when I did, I noticed his co worker near him. He was really happy to see me and even said hi and gave me a cute nickname to me really loud and motioned to come to him but I got nervous and freaked out, I ended up walking away and he had to come to me. So when we were leaving out I kept my distance pretending to be looking at stuff so he would continue to walk back towards me. I don't want him to think I'm weird, but I just never know if it's okay to talk about past relationships or your ex to someone you want to be with.
Would you tell someone you started dating, your past relationships, if it was bad?
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From my experiences, it’s not really a good idea. I get some bad dating experiences can be traumatic , but you aren’t allowing yourself a fresh start when you are constantly bringing up past dating history, especially this early on. It’s trauma dumping
Thank you, I gave myself some time, to be single, worked on myself, confidence, mentally and felt ready to date again. I honestly don't know what happened, especially since he's pretty much what I want in a relationship, a part of me is excited but I also get scared. I'm hoping it will go away soon because I don't want him to think I'm being embarrassed to be with him.
I think it’s normal to feel scared! Dating is scary but it’s also exciting especially when you meet someone that makes you want to love again. I totally get it. Take it day by day and just make sure he’s consistent and do the same for him
I don't think it would hurt to tell him that you had to stay hidden in your last relationship so it will take you a while to get used to not having to worry about doing that now, so please excuse any strange behavior.
Thank you, I will tell him on our next date. I know he will understand and will even help me. He's just that type of guy. I just didn't know, how to tell him and if I should.
if you believe the behavior you are exhibiting because of your previous relationship is noticeable, I would tell him.
sure
I just never really know, when it came to that, at times I will hear how some people hate when they hear about someone ex boyfriend/girlfriend. So I don't want to feel annoying if I keep telling him about how my ex treated me.