Would you tell someone you started dating, your past relationships, if it was bad?

[Horror_lover92]

So I recently met this guy that I have been talking to for a good 2 weeks now. We went out on 2 dates so far and I feel a connection with him. Sometimes I notice when he stares at me, like he's questioning something and I know it's because of how I act at times. My last relationship, I was " hidden " couldn't hold hands in public, he would freak out and get mad if I surprise him at work. Went to places that he knew no one will run into him. So now that I'm with the new guy, I will get scared. Like today, we planned a lunch date, ( he had to work but I didn't ) he told me to meet him at his job. I walked inside to find him and when I did, I noticed his co worker near him. He was really happy to see me and even said hi and gave me a cute nickname to me really loud and motioned to come to him but I got nervous and freaked out, I ended up walking away and he had to come to me. So when we were leaving out I kept my distance pretending to be looking at stuff so he would continue to walk back towards me. I don't want him to think I'm weird, but I just never know if it's okay to talk about past relationships or your ex to someone you want to be with.

[kylee2437]

From my experiences, it’s not really a good idea. I get some bad dating experiences can be traumatic , but you aren’t allowing yourself a fresh start when you are constantly bringing up past dating history, especially this early on. It’s trauma dumping

[Horror_lover92]

Thank you, I gave myself some time, to be single, worked on myself, confidence, mentally and felt ready to date again. I honestly don't know what happened, especially since he's pretty much what I want in a relationship, a part of me is excited but I also get scared. I'm hoping it will go away soon because I don't want him to think I'm being embarrassed to be with him.

[kylee2437]

I think it’s normal to feel scared! Dating is scary but it’s also exciting especially when you meet someone that makes you want to love again. I totally get it. Take it day by day and just make sure he’s consistent and do the same for him

[bowenw]

I don't think it would hurt to tell him that you had to stay hidden in your last relationship so it will take you a while to get used to not having to worry about doing that now, so please excuse any strange behavior.

[Horror_lover92]

Thank you, I will tell him on our next date. I know he will understand and will even help me. He's just that type of guy. I just didn't know, how to tell him and if I should.

[bowenw]

if you believe the behavior you are exhibiting because of your previous relationship is noticeable, I would tell him.

[eagle1951]

sure

[Horror_lover92]

I just never really know, when it came to that, at times I will hear how some people hate when they hear about someone ex boyfriend/girlfriend. So I don't want to feel annoying if I keep telling him about how my ex treated me.