How can you tell when you stop liking someone?

[laya34566666]

I started dating this guy a month ago. I was very nervous and excited at first but everything started moving too fast for me. He started hanging out with my friends and often at my house. He is a nice guy but his feelings are a lot stronger than mine and it feels overwhelming. Now I worry about seeing him, and I don't think I give the same energy back. I try to but it feels so unnatural. It's starting to gross me out. I have told him that I need more space and to take things slow but he is worried that I gonna leave. I can't seem to find a balance. I'm not sure of what to do, or whether I even like him anymore because every time I think of him it just stresses me out. Can't figure out how I feel. I am thinking maybe I'm just not ready for a relationship and should just call this whole thing off.

[Oliverlogan263]

That sounds really stressful. When it comes to knowing if you still like someone or not, here are some signs:

- You lose interest in hanging out and start looking for excuses not to see them.

- Conversation feels forced rather than natural and you run out of things to talk about.

- Instead of getting excited to see them, you start to feel annoyed or drained.

- Physical intimacy doesn't feel the same - you're not really into kissing or being intimate anymore.

- You start reminiscing about past relationships/hookups and miss being single/free.

- Friends and family can sense your discomfort around them now.

It seems like from what you described, you're hitting a lot of those points of distance and disconnect. The stress and pressure are also sign things moved too fast.

My advice would be to have an honest chat with him, let him know you got caught up in the moment but aren't feeling it long term. Suggest cutting things off romantically for now and maybe staying friends if you're both cool with that.

Focus on yourself for a bit before jumping back in. Seems like you need way more space to figure out what you really want. Hopefully dude will understand - better now than dragging it out!

[Nikki1989]

It sounds like the fire went out pretty quick here. Once that happens, you might as well call it quits and move on.

[JHAYES317]

If his feelings are a lot stronger than yours, take things slowly. If he isn’t ok with that, then you need to find someone on the same page.