I've been talking to him for a little more than a week and I had one date with him. I haven't told him I have a kid yet because I'm trying to see if he's serious. But I dont know should I just tell him anyways regardless if were serious or not?
Well you already fucked up because you chose to not tell him you had a kid already , so don’t be surprised if he says good bye to you for not being honest with him , I dated a girl that didn’t mention to me that she had a kid already and just assumed I will be ok with it once her and I got closer I was actually upset at her for keeping that a secret from me and ended up not seeing her anymore because of that , not bra cause of the child , mainly because she wasn’t honest with me from the start , So you are playing with fire by you not being honest Honesty is a huge attraction to most people and sadly most people have a hard time being honest When you learn to be honest with people it makes it easier for that other person to be honest with you , when you keep secrets from someone you are interested in , you are only hurting yourself because the truth will eventually shine and again don’t be surprised when that person decides they no longer want anything to do with you because you weren’t honest , I am a single father as well , My kids are
My prized possessions, if a girl can’t accept
Me or the fact that I have kids then she isn’t the girl for me , I am completely honest to a girl I am interested in the only thing I tell her is she will not meet my kids until I feel she is on it for the long haul because my kids mean the world to me , I choose not to blind side anyone , being honest within yourself and to others is going to help you find someone that feels comfortable not be honest with you , holding lies and secrets from someone is only going to hurt you in the long run
I would wait till you go out on the first date and bring your baby with you. Teach the baby to point at whomever is nearest when you say "who's your daddy"!
May as well have some fun.😂
Don't mind me, just being a dumbass.
asap. if he doesn't want to date someone with a kid, you are wasting his time and it's pretty rude.
you won't know if someone is serious on the first date. you won't know until at least a few months. and you cannot keep that a secret for months on end. that's just rude.
thought i'd give my answer tho now i see the update.
The sooner the better. It'd suck for both of you to invest a lot of time and effort only for the fundamental incompatability of kids or no kids to fuck it up later.
Plus being honest is a good foundation for your relationship.
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In the talking stage. He should be able to make the choice to either continue dating, or chose to seek another partner.
Personally, If someone waited to "test" me if I am serious. Regardless if I were serious about her, I would see that as mad disrespect, wish her the best, hope she finds what she is looking for then block and ghost her. I do not have time to play preschool games.
No need to reveal this before or on a first date. Not only do you not know if it's going anywhere, but there are crazy people out there. Once it looks like it has potential, then you should reveal this.
Soon. Don't want to waste a lot of time if that's a deal-breaker for him. That way you can quickly find someone else if he's not interested.
He ought to know. Most important thing is that he shouldn't meet the kid till it's properly serious. You don't know this guy, takes time to trust him and build that relationship
always tell him after you give him head for the 1st time
So you are 'trying to see if he is serious' through lying by ommission. Yeah, you are trash.
TELL HIM RIGHT THIS SECOND!!!
You have got to be kidding me. Some people.
u Early tends to be a good point as many men have it as a thing they don't want
You should tell him early on because it may be a dealbreaker for him and there is no point in wasting any time. Also just to be blunt that is a weird way to test someone is serious about you.
This is like basic stuff , kinda like knowing your name lol.. he should know that by the first time talking to each other..
I was going to say the sooner the better, but you already did - so that works.
right at the beginning when his desire for you is highest
I say wait a bit till you know or feel things might get more romantic.
If he sees you as a liar you will find that hard to fix.
I would have told him already if I were you.
You should have told him right away
The sooner the better.
tell him next time you talk to him.
Before the first date
I think it's best to tell him early.
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