I am a kinda guy that dont let the girl pay any bill.. but a lot of my friends telling me that i should be splitting the bill on first two dates at least.. whats your opinion?
Nope. If that’s the case I can continue to take myself out on dates. As soon as the guy is like let’s split I’m immediately disinterested, if you can’t afford it say that. I’ve been on dates before where a dude would order expensive stuff and I’m not splitting that if he’s going to masquerade as a provider/breadwinner stand on it. Or at least say you want a restaurant buddy to try this new expensive place or whatever I. e. a pop-up with a 7course tasting and $150 cover. I can understand that wanting that exposure, before a guy goes out of his way to ask me on a date. Only for me to feel like dude is sassy and I wasted my time. Before anyone gets bothered about my opinion more than likely I know what the restaurant is and looked at the menu. I like to make sure it’s not interfering with my dietary restrictions and I try a new restaurant in my area about once a week or so taking myself out on dates. I don’t like crap food and I can afford it, therefor I’d expect the guy I went on a date with to be able to do so. If he can’t he had no business asking me out because we’re not equally yolked.
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I would want to split it every date.
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I will offer to split if the bill is super pricey - I think a man is not benefitting when he has to pay an $100 tab for the same exact interaction as I got, however if you don’t care about grabbing the whole tab , why let your friends sabotage that? Your friends don’t have the upper hand in dating because many women still do find it a turn off for a man to not offer to pay first. Almost seems like they are giving you this advice so you end up not be successful while going on dates.
It’s nice of a guy to pay but he is not legally obligated and I always bring money in the event that he cannot afford to pay.
i expect a guy to pay for the first date. On first date, a guy is supposed to be on his BEST behavior. We all know first few dates should be the best a guy can ever be. If he wants the girl to split or pay, this is a preview of what the future relationship will be like.
Now, if a couple has been dating for a year or two, it is ok for a woman to pay for a man. Maybe few times.
But if you are on a first date, everyone knows you need to make a good first impression. A man who does not care about making a good first impression , is not worth dating.
i would split unless it's been communicated beforehand the expectations and such. some men think they own you if they buy dinner, but also any girl that straight up demands you should pay is a red flag for you to see.
I just always prefer to pay for what I order myself.
And it makes me uncomfortable if someone I barely knew was going to pay for me.
It's nice when you're in a relationship and they want to take you out.
If it's the firs dates it just feels like you owe them and are indepted to them or something.
And I don't want to feel like a financial burden either.I think it should depend on the opinion of both dating people. I prefer to pay for myself, especially in the initial stage of learning each other. I can imagine what a sour feeling it can leave if the date is a disaster and the guy must pay the full bill. At least I wouldn't like to find myself in such a situation.
if a guy asks me out i would expect him to pay for at least first date. It doesn't have to be anything to expensive. I would offer to pay on the second or third date. also if i asked a guy out i'd pay
I would be happy if the guy paid on the first date, but I can also pay for myself. Especially when I already believe that we won't meet again.
I can but not sure if he will be getting a second one
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