I matched with a guy on bumble a two weeks ago we started off well, by being open and honest about our past relationships. Then the conversation started being sexual when he initiated it, I accepted. We did 3 sexting sessions and it left me feeling very empty emotionally. However yesterday when I reached out to him asking that I would like to get to know him better and the sexting has left me feeling emotionally empty. He agreed but revealed he is talking to a couple of girls but not dating anyone yet. So I mentioned would could stop texting if he starts to date any of the girl and becomes intimate with them because it would only hurt me. He agreed to be open. And even said that "we started sexting within 2 weeks of chatting" which made me feel bad and I felt like I'm being judged. Also he seems disinterested while chatting with me now as his replies are after an hour. Unlike the sexting where he was very much attentive and replying at the same time. And he also doesn't care or even bother to validate my feelings but calls himself "empathetic".
Women are seen as the gatekeepers of everything sexual so a man will likely judge you, even if he is also taking part. But at the core of the issue here is that the sex is meaningless. You said 'I mentioned would could stop texting if he starts to date any of the girl and becomes intimate with them...'
You are expecting him to have meaningless sex with another woman so are prepared to cease contact. Thus what do you expect him to do regarding you?
The void you've been feeling cannot be filled by any of this.
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Sexting is stupid. I used to be into it, but it just seems like childās play now. Plus, they can have access to your photos now. Or it leaves out the fun on guessing how hot they are underneath their clothes. For me, itās sex or nothing now. But anyways, just ignore him if heās gonna act that way. Thereās plenty of guys who wonāt hurt you
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He's a bad person with the sole purpose of satisfying himself sexually. Your soul means nothing to him. It's very sad. I hope you don't talk to him again.
Seems like a fuckboy. You can have free non-committed sex if you want to but use protection and don't cone here later to whine that the fuckboy is a fuckboy.
That guy makes you feel bad. You should move on.
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