Girls, Would you date a guy who’s got trauma from being a victim of domestic violence growing up?

[Anonymous]

it’s a hypothetical question

Would you date a guy who’s been the victim of domestic violence and is trying to turn his life around but he has PTSD. His PTSD is very minor and only arises in certain situations.
He is on the path to becoming more able bodied but it is taking time

He has a kind heart and knows how to support the one he loves through anything and he will be by your side despite his difficulties. He is not toxic or controlling at all

he's not wealthy but he isn’t broke either

just asking for fun

would you date this guy?

Yes

No

A guys heart is what matters most

[petitedollbabee]

Aslong as he has been through therapy or is currently in therapy, then yes I would. But if he’s never had professional help and he’s just tried to ‘deal with it on his own’ then probably not. Often when people try to work through severe trauma themselves, they end up picking up bad coping mechanisms, becoming self destructive or they just bottle it up, none of that is healthy.

[Asker]

Thank you for such a wise comment. I am glad that some people don’t bottle up their trauma and they seek help

[Anonymous]

Currently dating one, I don’t have any issues with his past trauma but he is still not “healed” from it. He’s very defensive, closed off, easily triggered, and it’s affecting our relationship. He’s a very nice guy overall but he doesn’t realize that he still has a lot to work on (esp his anger issues). He has worked on it on his own but it’s clear that he has a lot more to work on and he can’t do it alone…

[MemeSupreme]

kinda iffy on it and it's bc i have PTSD

if we both got it then that sounds REALLY messy lol bc its caused issues just for dudes I've been with who don't got it lmao