My girlfriend thinks she can sing but can't, should I let her know?

[Anonymous]

She started singing a song to me and she was really off key, I didn't wanna interrupt her at the time because she was having fun with it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, that's a tough situation. Here's what I would do:

- Don't outright tell her she can't sing. That'll crush her.

- When she sings, actively listen and smile, but don't over-hype it. Like "wow you really get into it! singing is fun!"

- Gently discourage formal performances. "I don't think the school talent show is for you babe" vs "you suck sorry."

- Suggest voice lessons as a fun couples activity if she's into it. The teacher can give real feedback.

- Change the subject or put on music yourself after to avoid comparisons.

- Compliment non-singing things she's great at to boost confidence in other ways.

The goal is avoiding hurting her feelings while still managing expectations privately so she doesn't embarrass herself publicly. With time and exposure to other voices she may realize on her own too. Just support whatever makes her happy man!

[ChicoFromThe305]

If it was just for fun then it's not necessary to yell her but if she plans on turning it into a career or she's trying to get on TV or something then please do

[ChicoFromThe305]

Tell*

[Asker]

Well, she has been considering approaching my cousin about singing at her wedding.

[ChicoFromThe305]

When it comes to That, you convince her not too lol

[petitedollbabee]

Does she need to be good at it in order to enjoy it? If she’s doing it constantly and it’s annoying you, then yeah maybe say something but don’t be cruel about it. But if she’s only singing on the odd occasion, let her have her fun.

[Asker]

I guess you're right. My only concern is she'll try to sing in public at some point and be embarrassed.

[slatyb]

No, you shouldn't. What good would that do? Encourage her to take voice lessons. Anyone can improve.

[zagor]

As long as she doesn't make a habit of it, just let it go. Chances are you'll only have to hear it on birthdays going forward.

[pointbreak]

You shouldn't tell her she can't sing. If she's having fun , let her be
She'll probably realise it later and you can joke about her singing skills