I’m actually surprised that the women didn’t side with her more on this. I heard a group of girls around your age, state that 50 would be too high but 30 was ok. I’m like wtf. Anyways this conversation usually heads towards the why do guys have high numbers and are studs but women are called sluts. I’ll tell you my opinion. And I’m not putting down the author of this discussion. I don’t know your story or the reason behind your past. But let’s be honest here. Women in general can have sex with who ever whenever wherever for the majority of the time. And I can give many examples to prove that., but for us men we have to put in the work. I don’t care if he’s a 10 or a 2 it’s all relative or relevant either way we have to put in the time and at any given moment no matter how well he’s doing he’s says the wrong thing , bam she’s gone and on to the next. But what pisses a guy off about these hi or equivalent body counts is when the females are talking trash saying men don’t have game. Coming from someone that only needs to open her legs. You get it I don’t need to continue but I think I captured the labeling part of body count.
thinking about your girl with all these guys is is a whole different discussion. For this topic honesty is not the best policy. Always have a lower number than the guy.
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If you're 23 and you've fucked 18 different guys I'm sure there's a name/title for that that's somehow fallen out of use: "Slut"
I'd use the same word to describe him if his number was the same by the way.
Studies have shown less than 5% of people with a history that high manage to have a successful long term relationship. And that's by the age of 30.
Assuming you waited until 18 to start that's 18 guys in five years. Sixty months. That's an average relationship length of 3.33333 months per relationship. I'm guessing actual length was much less.
That's why your date looked shocked. If you apply the three month rule every time, that means around one week of sex per "partner" (in the loosest sense of the word) then you moved on to the next guy.
For most quality men we don't expect a girl of 23 to have a history of partners longer than an average porn "actress", certainly not enough to warrant her using the term "body count" to describe it. We won't buy a used 5 year old car with that many previous owners because the implication is it's defective, but you tell us you're shocked he's shocked you've fucked 18 different guys in just 5 or maybe 6 years?
Really?
Really?
Geez...
Because it’s high. It’s good that you were honest, but he’s probably doing some math.
Let’s say you’ve been sexually active since you were 16 (age of consent in a lot of states, and you dated all 18 men for an equal amount of time with no periods of singleness in between. In the 7 years between age 16 to 23, all of those relationships would have lasted less than 5 months.
Because that's considered a lot by many, at your age.
Do you even know all their names?
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He was shocked because he didn’t realize that you were a slut
I'm shocked that this was even a topic of discussion on a date.
Most guys 18-29 in new surveys aren't having any kind of sexual life. Most guys want a deep meaningful relationship, its not special to him the same way it was for your first. Just because there a guy at 22 doesn't mean he's fucked more than you. He probably thought more highly of you, but now is probably having his doubts. There are many, many, many older guys here and in real life who are just barely getting by we are pissed about this kind of shit. Most men probably have zero body count, they want something exclusive with a woman. Men feel like if if they date the women, sleep with her they are in effect dating and fucking all of the previous guys in her life.
I'm 26 now and the number doesn't shock me since my own body count is not far off.
But at 22 I was a virgin and someone with 18 bodies would've definitely been a shock to me.
Good on you for being honest but you need to understand: we all face consequences for our actions. There is no undoing what's been done in this case so you better be prepared to turn off a lot of guysIt’s pretty high - the average body count for a woman in the USA is 7 - 9, whereas for a man it is 6 - 8. Women with high body counts in my experience are usually nothing but drama, mind games, attention whore seeking, unpredictable, etc. What the studies have shown is that women with high body counts are more likely to cheat, break up, and divorce.
Has no one had a problem with this before? I could be that this guy was shocked because he wanted a more serious relationship and the previous guys weren't shocked because they just wanted to hit it and quit it with you so they didn't care about your mileage.
Because you are 18 and have like triple the lifetime average. So for any age it's a lot, but at your age it's super high. You might think "everyone is doing that" but they aren't.
I mean I'd be shocked too tbh. I think being shocked at that number for your age should be normalized.
I've had sex with 2 girls and received oral from 5 and I'm 30 years old. A body count of 18 by 23 is nuts. You really got around. I would probably leave you if I was in his shoes
Those are high numbers, and he knows that all 18 of those guys didn't have to wine and dine you so the guy feels like this:
18? What is wrong with you? Why can't you make it work and last with one guy. 18? it is like you trade in dicks every 4 months.
Because you're actually an 18-24 year old male pretending to be a woman on GAG, that's why.
That's honestly a lot for your age. I'm 31 and have only been with two guys and I feel bad about that.
2 typical reasons. 1 cause your body count is high. 2 cause he didn't think you could pull so many men XD
I’m a 33 year old man and mine isn’t even a quarter of that.
Maybe he thinks that having a body count of 18 at age 23 makes you a whore or a slut, and he was misled by your innocent appearance.
18 is a big body count and you are only 23 and that makes it worse.
If I were to judge from this site, I'd assume that 95%+ of people randomly talk about body counts on dates.
More proof it's easier for a woman. But yeah that seems like a lot in a short period of time. Why do many? Was it a pump and dump situation?
He definitely didn't think you were to type to let go for the football team..
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