Would confessing a lie to a guy change his view of me?

[Anonymous]

So I confessed that I lied to a guy. Does this change his view of me. Does it make it better or worse?

[D_Bone_Steak]

The reason you lied would make that determination.

Like, you telling a lie so you do not have to spend the weekend with your emotionally abusive Mother is something I could be more empathetic to than if you told me you lied to your boyfriend about sleeping at your friend's house so that you could have a 3some with two bi twink fem boys.

See what I mean... one lie is reasonable, the other would make people want to call you slurs.

[ProbablyClueless]

It would depend on a few things. I got into a situation like this with a woman I was talking with last year.

• What exactly did you lie about
• Why did you lie about it?
• Is there anything else you lied about?
• What's the truth?
• What reason do I have to believe that you won't continue lying to me in the future?

I had a woman tell me she hadn't been honest with me after we'd been talking (platonically) for 9-10 months online. We had finally met in person, and she commented her surprise that I was the person I represented myself to be. Even though she told me that she had lied, she never told me about what and made no effort to correct the record. It very bizarre.

[DermalPunch]

Yes, someone did this to me and it took them months and months to get back into my tolerable graces.

[SecretSinners]

it really depends if guy loves u enough he will understand

[pickles77]

That’s up to him but I would not lie again. If it’s a pattern it shows that you lack integrity and he can’t trust you. I have this happen with a girl I really liked. I don’t know why she had to keep lying. I would have viewed her better if she was up front about making the wrong decisions but it’s worse when you know better and you do it anyway

[Guido]

It may depend on what the lie was about. If it was about something personal that you were not willing to share yet then probably ok bit in general, men want honesty in order to build trust it's good that you confessed and hope he can get past the lie.

[robhazelnut]

Trying to read a mind is beyond me. If I were in his shoes, I'd admire your courage in admitting it and treat that, for the time being, as honesty restored.

[blueonblack22]

Depends on what you lied about? More context please?

[Surely]

That would depend on the seriousness of the lie. If the lie was that you are carrying someone else’s child. Then definitely yes it would change my opinion about the lie.

[DarkWinterNights]

It won’t be a good thing. But it will certainly be better than if he finds out on his own.

[KrakenAttackin]

Depends on the lie. If it has anything to do with another man, he will think you are for the streets.

[jahaims]

Duh, you lied. Anyone who lies is trusted less and gets less respect

[Asker]

Even if I explained the reasons for why I lied

[Ironic_Method]

I mean, it at least lets him know you are more than capable of lying.

[rachel776b]

if it's not a lie you said to him you'll be fine

[bededazzle]

probably both

[TiaNour]

50-50 really

[PinkSmoke]

That's a hit or miss