Why does my girlfriend always pullback when I try to get serious with her?

[Orange37]

I have been dating this girl for 5 to 6 years and everytime I talk about buying a house or getting married i get we can when were financially ready or we need a house first before we can get married. But when i actually try planning it she pulls back. This is leaving me tired confused and annoyed. Im almost 30 and im not married yet. I wanted to have kids. I can't imagine dating someone for so long and not being married. I even brought up that we could combine our savings for a down payment but shell just say nows not the time. I really dont understand it at all its confusing and doesn't make sense. Were dating and have intimacy with eachother but she always does this when i try to get more serious.

[_Maya_]

She ain't committed dude. She also isn't going to commit if it has been that long and she is doing this. I'm sorry but no matter how much you care for her she isn't the right girl. This is just common sense when she can't make a life decision after five to six years. Like why are you waiting so long to move on? You're only going to get hurt because after this length of time and she can't make up her damn mind she is waiting for something better. Best get da fuq outta there before she makes that decision without you.

[Orange37]

We are actually traveling to another country together in a few months. I stayed with her because i care about her and like her. But she makes it difficult for me.

[PeachyPie93]

Move on, sounds like she is wasting your time.
I would have a talk. Be direct and tell her you life goals, and what you want in the relationship. She will let you know for sure if you should move on.

[Orange37]

Weve talked about having kids before and set a goal for a few years.

[PeachyPie93]

So when is it supposed to happen?

[Orange37]

The holdup is partially due to me not having a house yet she had said we needed a house first. I paid off my student loan in full in one lump sum. The down payment for a house is holding me back a bit.

[PeachyPie93]

But if you could get the lump sum would she be okay with you buying a house?

[Orange37]

Yes i think she would. But it would go quicker if her and I combined our savings. She doesn't seem to feel the need to rush but for me it feels like an eternity.

[PeachyPie93]

Well it sounds better than it did at first. You are only 29 so don't panic. Maybe let her know how you are feeling about it all.

[Drumlin2001]

Bigger question, you've given her 5/6 years. How many more before you cut your losses? It sounds like you have different life goals.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is using you as a place holder until something better comes along. Move on.

[Plugs]

Many men do that. How do u know u are a placeholder for a man

[KrakenAttackin]

@Plugs A very small percentage of Chad's do this.

[Plugs]

How to know u are a placeholder

[Jmmmfi4]

SOUNDS LIKE ITS TIME FOR A SERIOUS CONVERSATION