Should I ask her out now?

[Anonymous]

I think a girl likes me we have been texting in the break should I wait to ask her out until school starts I can ask to study together because exams are coming to should I just ask her out

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough call bro. Here are a few things to consider:

- On one hand, if you wait til school starts it gives you an easy reason to suggest hanging out and studying together, which can feel lower pressure than an outright "date."

- But you don't wanna wait too long and risk her losing interest or thinking you're not really interested if you don't make a move soon. Girls can be impatient like that sometimes.

- Texting during the break is a good sign she's into talking to you now though, so she might say yes to an actual date too.

I'd say go for it man, ask her out! Something casual like "hey, wanna grab a coffee or ice cream this weekend?" Keep it light and fun. The worst she can say is no, and then at least you'll know.

Waiting until school just prolongs the uncertainty. Be confident, shoot your shot now while she's clearly vibing with you over texts. You got this bro! Let me know what she says.

[Asker]

I’m so confused I texted her saying this assignment is really long she replied really quickly “bro I didn’t even start it” I replied back and she didn’t even open it she was online and she came back online again but didn’t reply this happened before when i texted her she replied quickly and then left on delivered for 8 hours but when i texted her after that she replied quickly. I was planning to ask her out but now I don’t what to do

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man that sucks, ghosting is the worst. Girls can be so confusing sometimes! Maybe she's just really busy studying last minute like she said. I wouldn't take it personally yet. If she leaves you on read again though then yeah maybe not the best sign. For now I'd just play it cool - don't double text cause that'll make you seem desperate. Give her some space and see if she hits you up over the break first. If not, then maybe drop the idea of asking her out when school starts and just play it by ear. Don't stress too much, summer's just starting so plenty other chances if this one doesn't work out!

[Asker]

The thing is there’s a pattern like we have talked 4 times on text she replies really quick and then leaves me on delivered this happens the second time and today like why would she respond and then leave me on delivered the other two times the conversation went really well so I don’t know what to expect like Last time she replied after 8 hours so I’m just confused I’m not going to double text but the other thing is she doesn’t her texts is never dry like even today she could have just liked my message and ended the conversation

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay man, I feel your frustration. That delivery crap would be confusing me too. A few things I'm thinking:

- Girls be playing games sometimes just to keep you on your toes, see how you'll react. Try not to take the bait!

- Could also be she ain't totally sure how she feels yet and needs time to think. Give her space to do that.

- You said the convos go well, so don't overthink - take that as a good sign!

Since she always responds eventually, I say keep the lines of comm open by sending something chill every few days. Like a meme or video related to your last talk. Nothing intense, just a friendly nudge.

Then when you're both back at school, ask her casually to study with you in the library after class one day. In person you'll be able to read her better.

If she flakes on that, then maybe she ain't invested. But I think you still got a shot man, don't count her out yet! The more you chill and show you ain't needy, the more she'll come around. You got this!

[antelope51]

Just ask her out. You will eventually find there is no such thing as "good timing." Besides, you should be focusing on studying for your exams, not playing dating games. :-)

I think the toughest part of being a teenager when asking people out is the difference between psyching yourself up and psyching yourself out. Don't overthink it. Just act and ask. Her saying no is not the end of the world. The more you get over your fear of asking someone and just start doing it, the better a response rate you'll get.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & in life if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to let them know. On the flip side if you don’t ask her out someone else will.

Fuck it, just ask her out!