What do you think of the man suing 27 women on the, "Are We Dating the Same Man" website?

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A Chicago man, Nikko D'Ambrosio, is suing 27 women he says defamed his character on the "Are we dating the same man" Facebook group website which is aimed at outing men who are perhaps dangerous, and make women feel unsafe on their dates, etc. so that other women will know to stay away.

One of the women posted the man's picture on the website which he felt was a violation of his privacy and claims what the women said about him being "clingy" and a "psycho" were unfounded. Demanding a trial by jury, D'Ambrosio alleged in the complaint that the post and subsequent comments caused him humiliation, emotional distress, and reputational damage, and resulted in unspecified lost earnings.

D'Ambrosio is seeking damages exceeding $75,000 and injunctive relief to prevent the defendants from continuing to publish statements about him.

BananaNanaa29 · Accepted Answer

That group is super toxic and yes, harmful. I was in one of them for a short time but it was so toxic I left. There are some seriously unstable women in that group.
However, not sure how he’s going to collect damages. Most lawyers prefer to sue corporations or someone very wealthy, I’m assuming these women aren’t of that caliber financially.
The other thing is the value of evidence. If you post texts that have proof of these things happening then you probably can’t say it’s defamation.
Based on the descriptions I’m not sure if it’s a solid case or not — just saying someone is clingy or psycho is an opinion and subjective. Which we should be able to express our opinions on someone to an extent.
Now if they bodyshamed him and said he has a small penis and if the women posted compromising photos that’s absolutely unacceptable and could be taken further.
It’s a gray area for me if it’s a case or not that holds a ton of merit. I guess we’ll wait and see.
Don’t join these groups. No matter what. Do your own research on romantic prospects, a lot of info is publicly available.

EmyyWolf · Accepted Answer

Lol this is why I’m only dealing with 1 man or 2. No more. No more than 2. It doesn’t go past 2. I only have the attention span for 2 men.

And yes you’re supposed to research them and look them up online. Anywhere you can. So that you know exactly who you’re interacting with.

I’ve found criminal records and everything!

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Well... could be a good thing. But can see it backfiring.

He can only sue if they are in the USA - not outside. He will also need to prove that their claims are false - which is not easy considering its more than one woman's word against his.

But on the plus side, it could make Facebook and others take defamation more seriously. Especially if this case goes ahead. Would also put their privacy controls front and centre too.

Would set the precedent of websites having to keep longer and more detailed logs, in case a court requests them.

As for his picture - if he's willingly put it on social, then it's public property in effect by their ToS. So he's not going to get anywhere with that. As for what he's done (or not) hope he's kept his Whatsapp and messages clean and is willing to share them. Else he could look worse than he thinks.

cloud9vortex1234 · Accepted Answer

It depends on what he did and if they have any proof to back up what they say. If there throwing around accusations without any proof that could ruin his reputation then I would probably want to sue them as well. From his perspective, I'm sure he was acting normal, but you would think for these women to say something that he took things (psycho, being clingy) to the extreme. Stuff like this definitely doesn't need to go unchecked. Peoples reputations can be ruined on Social Media within a short period of time. And you know what? I bet you every one these women are Single Moms.

rigmarole · Answer

Women who believe gossip are morons. Women who believe gossip on internet websites are probably the dumbest grouping of women on the planet. Anyone can go on any site and troll any person with endless bullshit. Dudes could even post their ex-girlfriend's picture on sites like the one you mentioned making false statements under a pseudonym as a girl and claim their ex-girlfriend is a tranny with a three inch needle dick and herpes or whatever. You see men on girl accounts on Girls Ask Guys every day making penis questions or whatever... You should know better... Scrolling through this question it's amazing how gullible most of you women are, openly willing to accept information like that as if it were fact. Bunch of brain dead girls on here.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't care about him.

Publishing his image without his consent was what triggered the whole mess. Whatever he did is not important. This woman broke the law.

I hope it will teach others that private vendetta never works as expected. There are ways along the law to seek justice.

LazerBean · Answer

For it to be passed as defamation of character, the allegations he is being accused of have to be false. That's going to be hard for him to prove considering the allegations are that he is "clingy" and a psycho". I wouldn't be surprised is the case gets thrown out. At the end of the day, I don't care if the male hoe wins or female hoes. Sounds like they are already reaping what they sow and will continue to do so.

DreamLife7 · Answer

He has every right to sue. A lot of you women get mad when a man doesn't want you and try to force them to like you. When they don't like you y'all slander these men's name. Maybe this is the lesson you women need. He was probably never with any of them

slatyb · Answer

There's no cause of action. Comments about his personality are just opinions and cannot be libelous. He can be photographed in public without his consent. The photo 8s owned by the photographer who is free to publish it. Who is representing him? He's going to end up liable for the defendants legal fees.

smne35 · Answer

Waste of the courts time and shows how ridiculously some people are especially over something like this man get serious you're not in kindergarten anymore there's more important things going on than something as, it is his right to pursue this if that's what keeps him up at knight, so who am I to knock this guy for doing what he has a right to, it's clear it's that important to him

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I mean good on him if it really defamation, or if he can prove it's defamation.. Posting pics can constitution a violation of privacy depending on where he lives.. But in some places it's not exactly illegal.. That all depends on if they really did spew lies and cause him damage.. I don't really see it going too far..

Anonymous · Answer

We need to start doing this to all our exes! They demand 75 k for that we can demand like a million for all the stuff they put us through.

We just need to document it all and record it!

I'd have sued like 20 guys who I met online dating apps!

msc545 · Answer

This is pretty much like the metoo shit. One woman gets butthurt about something or other gets her friends together who get their friends together who all swear up and down that the guy did something really bad or illegal to them and people start thinking well. If x number of women are saying this it must be true. It isn't true. I think these women better have some relatively good evidence that what they're saying is true or they're likely to end up on the wrong end of that defamation lawsuit.

pickles77 · Answer

Well sure if he lost a well paying job making 75k plus that’s pretty reasonable. Women always say things based on how they feel. That guys a creep, that guys a stalker etc For literally normal behavior when guys don’t have the rizz. But that’s not something you put out publicly. If you want have a private group and say these things whatever but someone shouldn’t be losing their job because someone found a public platform to vent on.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

He is right, you cannot (or better aren't allowed to) post pictures of strangers online without their consent. So it is definetely a privacy issue he can sue for. As well as defamation if that stranger is described in a negative way.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Posting his picture and saying that he is clingy is open to interpretation and he would probably lose if that were all she said, but calling him "psycho" does open her up to possible defamation.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Its freedom of speech as long as true. It should be private not public. Of he's suing someone it should be himself for creating such environment. I could be wrong…

Levin · Answer

Should know that in America, and sadly the rest of the world now, you gonna get your arse sued at the drop of a hat. I'm not exactly sympathetic towards the women.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would avoid him since he might have some psychological problems or at least some kind of trauma he tries to cope with suing these women.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I’ve heard nothing but horrible things about that website. Another reason to not date these days. I don’t know if he has grounds to sue, but I hope he wins.

Juxtapose · Answer

Pretty sure that would fall under libel and that's very difficult to prove. Maybe he can get them for harassment?

Anonymous · Answer

Women are evil. They would hurt this man even if he did nothing wrong. That is how women are. Just look at false rape accusations. You can't believe a word these hoes say.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Obviously he found out one way for it to be a private group. Either he got in with a fake account or one of those women told him. Everyone involved in this isn’t smart at all

Space_535 · Answer

I think he has the right to do that. Some woman was so salty that he rejected her that she had to make a Facebook page on him. That’s some very desperate stuff. And that stuff stays on the internet forever, so I don’t blame him.

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