Is it wrong to see multiple people at once?

[RowenaRavenclaw]

If no one has officially committed to you, is it wrong to have sex/make out/hook up with multiple people?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Someone that just wants to fuck is going to fuck... it's what they want. I'm not going to expect them to have morals about it unless they're dragging someone else along with hopes that they won't fuck around... that's when I start to look at the whole situation and say to myself, "that's sort of fucked up."

I wouldn't really consider someone that "gets passed around" like that good long-term potential. That's the type of chick that will get you to commit, demand you not talk to other women, and then she's still flirting with her ex and random dudes she meets at the same time. It's usually because they're just attention whores and the physical touch stuff just comes with that territory... she will cheat eventually and then do it again.

It's kind of different for us dudes that are clapping multiple cheeks at the same time... but the same rule applies if he's a dude doing it for attention like most chicks do. Attention whores are going to cheat more often than not in general. That's what I think.

[molonski2]

No one is committed of course its absolutely fine.

[Account]

Nope as long as you don't promise exclusivity and shit. But I don't understand it. One is enough trouble as is. From where do those people get the energy to see multiple people?

[RowenaRavenclaw]

I’m not actually seeing multiple people at this point, but I am talking to multiple people on the phone and I am having trouble deciding which one I have the most chemistry with in that manner. So I’d like to meet up with each of them individually and see where it goes

[Nikki1989]

If you are serious about finding a true life partner, you should date as much as possible.

[TenderFantasy]

Hey that makes sense, thanks!

[joesheks]

…because sleeping around is how you find a true life partner

[love_conquers_lust]

That’s quite childish.

[DextroShade]

This is terrible advice.

[monorprise]

@TenderFantasy
Even if you did find a man who seemed "perfect" today both you and he would invariably change over time and thus become decidedly less perfect.

If your going into a marriage for such a relationships rather than security your not married to each other but rather that instance of each-other's lives.

If you sleep with all those men, both you and he will find it even more difficult to bond.

[love_conquers_lust]

@monorprise @DextroShade @joesheks I caution all three of you against hypocrisy. There's a mix of genuine incels and MAYBE controlling guys. But that's doubtful. Those "Chads" aren't wasting their time on here, they're fucking women, according to the dogma that's spewed here If you aren’t virgins BY CHOICE yourselves, don’t criticize others.

Unless you have actual SMV, you don’t understand what it’s like for women to say no to offers of sex. Like, you don’t have a clue. Even the attention hotter guys get is eclipsed by the female equivalent.

[TenderFantasy]

@monorprise The thing is... why limit yourself in all honesty. I've tried that (being the good girl, monogamous, serial dater type not by choice). I wanted to have what my parents had but oh boy are things different in this day and age in terms of the dating climate, the moralities, the mindsets, of especially the guy I dated recently for example. He didn't know what committment nor unconditional love meant, even if it slapped him across the face, sadly!

[monorprise]

@love_conquers_lust Some of us are already married and not looking to date anyone anymore. This is a question and answer not a dating site.

[monorprise]

@TenderFantasy Sorry I find myself wondering what Kind of men your choosing to date.

Unfortunately age is a factor here if you really are in your late 30s a man has to have a reason to be on the market and not already married.
Sounds like your last date's reason was he simply didn't have any interest in the idea of marriage which means you were just wasting your time with him.
Your going to see more and more of that type each year that goes by. If you want to increase your odds your going to have to look into sectors where men would be on the market for a tolerable but honest reason. There are a lot of good reasons all of which have problems you will need to deal with.

I like to use the example of homebody nerds who simply never meet women. But you think over them and decide what you find most tolerable and look wherever you might find that sort of guy to increase you odds.

IN general however if he look great and is doing all the right things at this age his reason for not being married is because he doesn't want to be, instead he spend the last few decades honing his skills with women one after anther.

[love_conquers_lust]

@monorprise Then shut the fuck up. You went on to answer as if waa one. Guess what, boy, anywhere is a dating venue when you're single.

This why I'd like to unhinge glass jaws and smile over their unconscious bodies.

[TenderFantasy]

@monorprise Thanks.

However, for a person who you claim wasn't available for marriage, he did date me for a few months and EVEN talked about marriage quite frequently so there's that. Also, I've gotta give him credit for knowing that marriage IS a big deal. Both of us knew that committing to someone for life isn't always an easy thing to do. However, like they say, actions speak louder than words so maybe you are more correct in your theory. Thanks anyway. I've waited this long, I don't really have a choice anyway either. I can only be myself and if they want that, then good I guess, but if not... I don't know if marriage is really worth it either now honestly... one can invest so much (like with that ex, it was about five, almost six months) and it STILL blows up in your face sadly.

[monorprise]

@TenderFantasy Marriage is what you make of it, at its base function it is a system of mutual security and support primarily for children. To that end what we have built on top of that system for the adults is really what has become more and more optional given your expanding systems of self-reliance. Unfortunately as our cultural leaders have chosen to focus on and even redefine the adult aspect of that relationships over the last 100 years. That relationships has fallen apart with the value of that adult aspect of the relationships in modern life.

As such if your goal is to have that aspect of the relationship your difficulty in finding a partner may be due in no small part the realization of its obsolescence for said goals among the modern generations ever more removed from the driving original function.

Thus Marriage in reality has in fact become both more difficult in trying to achieve ever less realistic goals and less rewarding in both in its devalued original propose and its applicability to the newly given propose which frankly always was better served by other means.

So if unless your looking for the whole package seek other means. If you are looking for that package get your eggs frozen like next week.

[love_conquers_lust]

@monorprise Then go get divorced. Quit. Why even say "'Til death do us part"? You know your word is a lie. So why the fuck should anyone listen to what you have to say?

Ironically, you don't know shit and are not well travelled. Childless marriages existed before their recent rise. So what's your neck beard explanation for that?

I don't know if I've seen so much whining in one post about marriage.

[monorprise]

@love_conquers_lust Perhaps you should explain to me how what I wrote is related to your conclusion?

The fact that childless marriages existed in the past does not mean they were both widely intended or common. Nor does it alter the fact that historically there was a greater security benefit to the relationships when women were less independent.

Today that benefit to the adults is significantly reduced with modern collective organizations and more realistic working options for women. The original core propose of marriage in securing children however is still mostly there. Although that too has been reduced with collective systems like welfare and child-support payments, due to the emotional and developmental needs of the children these collective "alternatives" have not been effective, and never enough.

[love_conquers_lust]

@monorprise Explanation: You cry about shit you don't know about.

Ironic, given you implied you were married. Your wife must be beaming with adoration for you when you talk like this.

It's possible for women to be independent and married. I have two shining examples in my family that went the distance. They did it before you ever cut your teeth on the concept.

[monorprise]

@love_conquers_lust It sounds like you don't know what I was talking about... I never implied a woman couldn't be marred and have a career as well.

I simply said when that became common one of the main justifications for the union outside of children became unnecessary. Perhaps you should take a moment to read what I said more carefully first...

[love_conquers_lust]

@monorprise Look man, you made a snide comment about my credibility discounting valid points I brought up. You shouldn’t be surprised.

Guys on here, especially some of the socially stunted ones, some of whom are nerds that you advocated as marriageable material, try to be controlling and guilt women out of trying to explore their options. Some go so far as to use that control over submissive women. What they don’t like is that they may end up sleeping with people they see. There is no written rule on what they should or should not do.

@Nikki1989 advice is generally sound. Where she and I might differ is I don’t believe you have to fuck a single person you date to get to know them. I argue it’s healthier and makes for a more solid marriage if you work to make a mental connection instead of leaning heavily on carnal pleasure.

As to marriage, that choice should be made if you wish to grow with someone. Children need not be involved. In that aspect, marriage hasn’t changed. What’s changed is how accessible people are to each other and it’s challenging for everyone.

[AviatorTom]

No, it's not wrong, with some caveats.

You shouldn't be leading them on, thinking you are exclusive.

Probably not a good idea to date them on the same day.

Be safe and make sure they wear a condom.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t do that anymore. In the past I’ve done it, I’ve dated more than one person at the same time.

[zeitgeist057]

I think the only thing that is wrong is dishonesty. It's fun to see a variety of people, but out there are a lot of more conservative types who get upset if they aren't your only interest. For them, it's best to stay away or at the very least talk to them. I think honestly the more they see that's how people are rolling, they might open up themselves a bit. There is a disservice done when relationships are hidden; it gets shamed but I think the world would be surprised if they saw how many people do it.

It's ironic, because people get shamed for something so many people do, because it's hidden. but if people would loosen up a bit and be honest with themselves and others, we could all have a lot more fun with each other and in life.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

And if they don’t ask? Is it something I should disclose or just not say anything about?

[zeitgeist057]

That's kind of up to you. I will say in my experience, the more open and honest I am with people, the better my outcomes. I get close/intimate and build trust with those I have good chemistry with, and those who are offended or don't fit my values make themselves scarce.

I get it, just first meeting someone, we typically are in a honeymoon phase and putting our best face forward. Hardly anyone comes to the first date with a laundry list of all their faults and potential dealbreakers. But on the other hand, I think the very start is a good time to say things like "I am not exclusive", "I am not exclusive with people just because we went on a date or even a couple of dates." , or "if you want to see me exclusively in the future, we should have a conversation about that."

[SphynxUK]

You are free to do what you want. If you don’t date or hook up, you’ll never know what type of person you gel with most. Anyway, I’m sure if you felt ‘that’ special spark, you would pursue things with that individual alone. Until then, live your life.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

This is so true! I’m just trying to figure out who works best with me, who I have the most chemistry with… and I can’t do that if I’m just seeing one person and taking it one person at a time at this point in my life

[Bl0n6eguy]

You don't need to have sex to feel chemistry with someone; you can develop chemistry through dating without sex first. I'm not going to say it's wrong, but it's likely going to end in drama, tears, feeling used, and being emotionally drained.

The way humans develop chemical bonds and connections with people is predicated on monogamous interactions because sex is meant to lead to pregnancy in our natural environment: If you're having emotionless sex with multiple men you're screwing up your brain chemistry... It's up to you, but this damages the psyche and ability to pair-bond - if this continues you will never find a man who will commit to you who is higher value; they will only use you for sexual gratification because they don't need to invest to receive the reward.

[ConfusedGinger21]

Definitely NOT. I don’t see how people can own you like that if y'all aren’t exclusive. Just because you got added and went on one meetup doesn’t count as an exclusive right to their or your own body.


Date around and play around I don’t see the issue. They should expect you to not be only theirs till it’s agreed upon.

[MsBell2018]

If you're casually dating & the others you're dating knows & agrees, then that's fine.
If you want to have multiple partners, you need to take precautions. Regular testing, protection & let your partners know you're involved with other lovers BEFORE engaging with anyone. Myself, I couldnt do it because dating is prelude to marriage. How can I make a decision about a serious partner if I'm involved with multiple people? So, I guess it depends on what your end goal is. Either way, be happy, inform all parties & protect yourself.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, I think it is gross to be having sex with multiple people but that is why I always ask and if they say they are, I stop seeing them. Dating is fine but sleeping around with lots of people is not.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

I think I would tend to agree with this

[FunkyMonkee]

No, that's what dating is all about. You go with several people at the same time and attempt to narrow it down to just one, the one that works out best for you. If you don't find any, try a new batch of potentials until you find "the one".

[Monalisa77]

How come phoebes dates in friends got mad cos she was dating both at the same time?

[FunkyMonkee]

@Monalisa77 Who's Phoebe?

[Monalisa77]

The tv show , friends?

[FunkyMonkee]

@Monalisa77 Never saw it.

[Monalisa77]

But surely u heard of it, but besides the ot. Why would the guys get annoyed and dump someone for dating more than 1

[FunkyMonkee]

@Monalisa77 Yeah, I've heard OF it.
The ot? What's an ot?
They, obviously, don't know what dating is about. If you're going steady with someone, that's a different story. But, if you're not romantically connected to anyone, it's fair game.

[Bl0n6eguy]

yeah, it's called cheating; if you're dating and having sex with multiple people without telling them it's usually grounds to end the relationship. Why is this news to you?

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy No, it isn't. It's called, playing the field. You can't cheat on someone unless you're going steady with them.

[Bl0n6eguy]

No, it's called being Used. "Playing the field" is a PUA term

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy No, it's called, dating! It's a concept that's been around for at least a century!
Whatever a pua is.

[Bl0n6eguy]

PUA: Pick up artist. The notion of "Playing The Field" is a pickup artist tactic poorly adjusted men use to receive sexual gratification from multiple women, to then pick their favourite; this does not work for women because they are more in tune with their emotions and it messes with their brain chemistry, not the mention the drama and threat of pregnancy it leaves them vulnerable to.

The only men defending and encouraging this behaviour are those that believe they benefit from it's reinforcement: all poorly adjusted men are more than willing to encourage women granting access to sex without gate-keeping it behind emotional and time investment.

This doesn't affect me because A) I don't have any interest towards... . B) women approach Me. C) I am morally well adjusted in my character, and I am genuinely concerned about choices people make that will lead them to harm.

Who wins in this scenario? She wants a committed partner, while all these men are already getting the sex they want without any relationship strings attached. She Loses.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy Obviously, you don't understand the concept of dating. A pick-up artist is someone who HAS someone steady but still goes out fucking anything with a pulse and a skirt that'll stand still long enough! I had two of those in my band over the decades. One had a steady girlfriend but still talked his way into the panties of dozens of others girls while he was seeing Michelle. When she broke up with him, he got another steady and still cheated on her! When she dropped his skanky ass, he got another steady and then married her and STILL fucked loads of other girls! Another guy had been living with some woman for at least a decade and had at least 7 kids with her but still chased other girls... including MY first girlfriend the night I first got her!!
Dating means that you're perfectly free to date as many people as you want, as often as you want, in hopes that one of them will eventually be the one you choose to settle on and go steady with.

[Bl0n6eguy]

Nothing I said is incorrect; and having sex with others while dating but not telling the person you're seeing is cheating. It is will-fully omitting the non-exclusivity of their connection with her, and no higher value man will commit to a woman who is seeing other men. If the reward is already given away, why invest more than the others?

Everyone who sees multiple people at once without telling them is an infidel. You can platonically date and then choose a monogamous sexual partner from the people you've dated, that is moral; but to play the field is to first use the ones you later don't want for sexual gratification before choosing another. It's wrong. I have the ability to do it as a guy who turns heads, but it's morally beneath me.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy YOU'RE the one that keeps bringing up having sex! I'm talking about DATING, NOT FUCKING! What's the fucking rush? DATE them a few times before you decide to fuck them!! What happens if you go on one date, fuck, get her knocked up and then discover that she's a major cunt? Now, if she decides to have the kid, you're stuck with her! And, since when is it wrong or cheating to fuck whoever you want until you decide on just one person to spend the rest of your life with?
WHAT connection do you have with her other than the fact that you took her out on A date? There IS NO exclusivity unless, on the very first date, you both agreed to never see anyone else ever again for the rest of your lives! Only a fool would do that!! UNLESS, you both IMMEDIATELY fell madly in love with each other! How prone are you to fall madly in love with a girl on your first date? If you're NOT seeing someone STEADY, there is NO CHEATING!! Even if you fucked her on the first date, there's NO CHEATING.
The reward? Maybe SHE likes to fuck around, too! What makes you think it's a reward? Reward for what, spending $20.00 on her for a movie? You didn't rescue her cat or save her family from a burning house! You took her on a date! Feel VERY lucky if you get to hold her hand or get a kiss from her at the end of the night!
Anyone who sees multiple people at once is DATING!!
YES!! Absolutely!! That's EXACTLY what I've been saying!! You can date platonically anyone you want, as many people as you want UNTIL you choose monogamy with just ONE person! After that, all bets are off and you stay with that one person until one or both of you decides it's not gonna work out and then you can both start dating others, again! see how simple that is?

[FunkyMonkee]

Other than potential pregnancy, the ONLY problem with fucking several people that you're dating and NOT telling each of them that you've fucked others is that they SHOULD have the right to know that they MIGHT catch something from you that you might've gotten from someone else.
Jesus fucking Christ!! This is about as bad as, "Who's On First?"!!

[Bl0n6eguy]

"I’m just trying to figure out who works best with me, who I have the most chemistry with… and I can’t do that if I’m just seeing one person and taking it one person at a time at this point in my life"
~ asker

She is seeing multiple people, whom she is having on/off sex with at once, and trying to choose one; AKA "Playing the Field". I see you went irate after being called out for encouraging behaviour that will harm her long-term and inhibit her from reaching her end goal of commitment, because you saw it as self serving to do so.

If you fail to realise that the reward of dating a woman (in the eyes of most men) is sex, I'm not sure you've lost your innocence: it's a fact of life. Therefore, if the reward for successfully dating someone [sex] is given to others without this requirement; the incentive of dating becomes void. Why go the long way around when everyone's taking the shortcut; this is basic natural law, the route of least resistance. She's already done what she's done, so long-term commitment from a higher quality man is practically out the window; the people she's with are likely there for sex, if she asks them to invest more they're probably going to leave - especially if they find out.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy that's HER CHOICE to fuck each one, IF that's even what she said!
First dates do NOT ALWAYS end with sex. In most cases, count yourself, lucky, if you got so much as a kiss!
Irate? When did I do that? Sounds like you need to take some ludes! You're reading all KINDS of bizarre shit in the things I've said.

[Bl0n6eguy]

1) I quoted her reply to SphynxUK on this page. 2) I never said it wasn't her choice, just explained the consequences. 3) You're now typing words in ALL CAPS with exclamation marks! Quite the shift in tone. Like I last wrote, it is her decision and she's done what she's done: she's made herself overly available and no-one will officially commit (because they're already getting what they want, what do they need commitment to obtain at this point? Exclusivity? Do they even value that[No]?)

[FunkyMonkee]

@Bl0n6eguy You've never heard of "emphasis"
The only shit was how you read it.
If you found a girl that puts out on ever date, why stop dating her?

[Anonymous]

You should NEVER sleep with a man your have not got a commitment from!

Doing so destroys your ability to commit to any man, as well as facilitates the spread of STD's, and natural creates fatherless children. All of which are big problems for you and everyone else.

That said if your going to be a menace to society for your own personal gratification. Then at least show a little decent to the men you supposedly like date in letting them know.


Not only do you save them time and money investing in a woman unlikely to make a good wife, but if your carrying various STD's from all those men you sleep around with it's legals required.

[HawkPerception]

No it's not if you're not exclusive with anyone. I personally tell the person I'm seeing if I'm talking with others during the time I'm seeing them. Transparency is always appreciated. Some people might not like that, but they will appreciate it down the road. Always be honest.

[mandyfire98]

Not as long as you're being safe. It would actually be wring to just aettle on the first person that comes along, even if you don't connect with them like you should. You need to date until you find the right person.

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope... just make sure that no one is being misled, that everyone's expectations are being managed and respected, that no one is spreading STDs, and that people are having fun.

Obviously you don't have the ability to control how other people feel about the situation, but as long as you're doing your part to be considerate of others, you've done all you can.

[NathanDavis]

it is a choice...

I think the wrong would be to lie about it to the people involved, if they ask or want to know to be informed

[Little_Bumblebee]

As long as you're transparent about the fact that's what you're doing, then there's nothing wrong with it.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Little_Bumblebee being a hoe is not a good thing.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

@KrakenAttackin There’s a difference between being a hoe and sitting at home taking cold showers waiting for Prince Charming :)

[KrakenAttackin]

@RowenaRavenclaw yeah, the hoe gets run through by Chads.

[Squatting_Slav]

I've always done so, I take it easy and treat every girl equal. It's the best way to find somone who genuinely wants your time. I've dated girls where things would go well at the start and then they fall out of interest because of another man which is completely understandable to which at the same time I was seeing anoher who really appreciated my time and craved it. I don't put all my eggs in one basket, and give my energy and time to those who seek it

[aceleon]

yes, unlike the communication shit that is been brought in this pathetic modern era, somethings doesn't need discussion, if you see someone you don't see others it is cheating whether you talked about exclusivity or not is irrevelant, to be honest why even have a relationship if you won't be exclusive to begin with.

[BadApple69]

I don't think it's all that wrong, I mean there is no commitment, but it will take a toll on your mental state.
I have done this, and you have to lie to get away with it. And the one thing I hate the most is a liar. So you start to hate yourself. No matter which girl I was with I was having feelings that I was cheating on the other. Bottom line... If you have a conscience... It's not worth it.

[Lionman95]

No but having sex with multiple people can make things complicated especially when they figure out that they are just one in couple of people.
It´s not bad per se but it can make getting in a monogamous relationship since one is used to seeing multiple people.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not... but just look around at and listen to all the women 35 that are still single for whatever reason, now spouting how "All men are the same," or "men suck." The odds are VERY likely 10-15 years ago... they spent copius amounts of time doing just that. They got back what they put out. So if you don't think you'll have an issue with that in 15 years, then by all means... go full speed ahead.

[Monalisa77]

Never even been near a guy.

[Anonymous]

The more people you date, the more worn out your emotions become; until you are unable to feel chemistry anymore, and are only able to feel short term lust and jealousy. Yes, it is wrong to see multiple people at once if sex is involved; no-one will commit if they feel you are just available for sex without requiring a relationship.

You won't find someone who will commit to you if you're seeing multiple people at once, guys can intuit this behaviour from how you act.

[Anonymous]

NO IT'S NOT AT ALL WRONG! N SINCE I WAS RAISED IN A MONOGAMOUS HOUSE BY A DIVORCED SINGLE MOM, THAT WAS THE ONLY THING I WAS EVER TAUGHT!

IN MY 30S I HAVE UNLEARNED THOSE HABITS AND AM A COMPLETELY POLYAMORUS MAN NOW!

I HAVE 3 FEMALE FRIENDS SO FAR SINCE THEN THAT I AM COMPLETELY HONEST WITH N THEY ALL THREE KNOW THAT I POUND TF OUTTA THE OTHER TWO WHEN THEY ARE NO WHERE TO BE FOUND!


AND JUST A SIDE NOTE I AM THINKING ABOUT TREATING ALL THREE OF THEM TO A SINGLE NIGHT OF COMPLETELY OPEN AND WILD SEX WHERE THEY CAN ALL WATCH ME COMPLIMENT THE OTHER ONES AND TELL THEM JUST HOW SEXY AND SPECIAL THEY ARE WHILE POINTING OUT ALL THE DIFFERENT SHIT SO THEY EACH SEE WHY THEY HAVE NO REASON TO BE JEALOUS OF EACH OTHER AND SHOULD BE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER INSTEAD! 💯

[DextroShade]

The more dicks you take the lower your value becomes and the harder it will be for you to pair-bond with a man. This is a scientific fact. Men who are worth a damn don't commit to women who are ran-through. I would recommend you be very careful about who you sleep with and look for commitment-minded men. If you waste your 20's riding the cock carousel you will probably die alone.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, you do you. But you might scare of someone you're dating if you're seeing more at once. We want to be the other's top pick. It could feel like they are the plan B.

[lilBigPotato]

As long as you're not in a committed relationship you're free to do whatever you like. Just good to be transparent about it

[BoopBoopBeep]

As long as they all know there is no exclusivity, no, nothing wrong.

[RHK36]

It's only wrong if people involved don't know. If everyone knows each others intentions then ya Gucci.

[ComteDeSaintGermain]

It's okay to do that. A lot of relationships are ploy now.

[anonanswer]

It's fine as long as you're honest and practice full disclosure. Know that most people don't like feeling like an option on a grocery isle though, so once you tell them they may pull away.

If you feel the need to conceal it from them, you already know why it isn't fine, else you would have told them all.

[Anonymous]

That depends on whether you want to treat sex as just a recreational activity or as an expression of love between caring partners.

[Fireguy17]

no, if you haven't officially committed to anyone either go have fun!

[Anonymous]

people do this for sure , some cause they have committment issues , others just want to keep there options open , some just don't know what they want

[SotiCoto]

I live in London and have to commute to work. I'll witness hundreds of people in the process, and usually many at the same time. I guess that makes me super naughty.
Next time I'll just keep my eyes shut.

[Sparkie460]

As long as you are not in a committed relationship its fine to see other people

[LiamJHayden]

No commitment = no cheating. Do what you want.

[Nice222]

I don’t see a problem with it as long as everyone involved knows what is going on.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, pick one and leave the rest for other people.

[Berethor]

Doing it with multiple men makes a woman a ho, girl on girl don't count. :)

[KittygosMeoWW]

No as long as you’re not leading anyone on and making them believe you’re exclusively dating just them

[absolutelyfckindead]

I Guess
Only If It's friends with benefits not
real cheating

[Paris13]

No Strings, Your Choice. xxoo

[clampfan101]

Just dating? No.

Sex I don’t think you should have until you’re both fully committed.

[Slapmynuts]

Hell! If you can balance it, more power to you,! For me, one woman is enough work!🤪

[Anonymous]

How come it's okay for Women, But when Men do it it's Wrong?

I reckon it's wrong if you if it's easy for you to Hookup with someone.

[slatyb]

No, it's not as long as you aren't lying about it.

[Quigly]

It means you're not a very sincere person to be seeing more than one person.

[Hannajenky]

As long as you are not lying to one of them.

[Crankor]

Depends on what your doing with them

[QuietRunner]

no

have fun and be safe

[KrakenAttackin]

This is called being a "hoe".

[Brady]

No, just let them no it's not a committment.

[Anonymous]

Omg 🤦🏼‍♀️ why do so many of you women lack common sense?

[RowenaRavenclaw]

Aww!! @cosmosis181 is just mad he’s not American. It’s okay though, luckily your assumptions aren’t true of everyone in this great country 🇺🇸

[Opinion Owner]

I deleted his comment dude can barely speak English

[cosmosis181]

😁😁😁Which is so ironic, considering I'm actually 47, a native of Portland, went to a state university in the Great Lakes back in the mid 90's... and has a brother that graduated from West Point. I seriously doubt either of you could pass a 3rd grade social studies class in a Portland public school, circa 1984. Your own grammar is an eyesore to anyone who's obtained a primary education from anywhere worthwhile.😆But hey, with Generation Victim... you guys have it alllllll figured out. Keep believing everything you see on some random internet board... after all, it MUST be truth, right?🤗Take care, whiz kids.🤝😁

[RowenaRavenclaw]

That was cute. I love when the older members of society talk down to the younger ones with the assumption that they are better. I have a masters degree sir and am working toward my doctorate. You would do well to remember that anonymously being aggressive to younger people on the Internet under the premise that our grammar and knowledge is at a lower level than yours is disgusting and childish. I don't know why you feel the need to talk about your third grade social studies class… what? 😂 I don't know man, get a grip

[nawtee_me]

Not at all if there is no comment.

[nawtee_me]

Commitment not comment…. sorry…. lol

[Dassmen]

Do you mean gangbang?

[Jmmmfi4]

YES& GROSS

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Not at all.. as long it is safe

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's called being a whore.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes it is.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes; it's wrong.