Is church an appropriate place to look for a date?

Question

People say, "If you want to find a spouse, go to church." But, doesn't that seem inappropriate? 🤔 Aren't churches supposed to be about God instead of romance?

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

It is about god but don't forget God doesn't need you to go to church, he wants you too, god can hear you anywhere and he can read your heart anywhere, it's why it's not necessary to go to church as long as you keep your connection with god strong and you don't depart from him, that leads up to a love life, if you crave a lover and need a lover, god will have one for you, god only wants to be involved in your life, he's a father technically and if love is what you seek for then god won't be angry at you for looking for it within people that also believe in him, actually he recommends you find love with someone that has the same belief as you, the only way it would be wrong is if the love isn't actual love and you are looking for hookups or trying to manipulate or any other kind of worldy things, at that point you are a plague and a corruption and that would anger god, god made us loving and loveable for a reason and looking for another believer of god to find a lover is actually recommended by god, what makes the church a house of god is the truth of the word, not the building itself, if the house isn't teaching the truth then it's not a church, the bible isn't a rule book, it's a guide, people put too much physicality in spirituality, the importance in Christianity is your connection with god, from there if you involve god he will guide you, I can assure you god would rather you put your focus on finding a lover in his house that abides by the same belief and that both involve him into the marriage than you choose to go to a club and testing your luck that way, people see god like a dictator but he isn't a dictator, he is a father, fathers don't always give you what you want but they give you what you need, same goes here.

BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

It should not be  THE  reason to go. The main reason to go is to give God the love, service, and worship that is rightly due to Him. Part of  going to church, however, is community (Matthew 18.20), finding like-minded people who can love and support you. With that said, it is okay to go to church with the hope of finding a relationship with someone of similar beliefs and values.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I think it's only okay to say that if the person who were speaking with was religious. I've been told that before, like did they even bother to find out whether I was religious or not? Lol. They were implying that I should LIE about being religious (if I wasn't) and join the church for this ulterior motive lol.

And it can be by the way as I've seen some couple's growing up that met there, however, they were already crazy religious back then so of course it was bound to happen. I think you meet people (in your life journey usually and especially in the past), when you spend a good amount of your time. It's called propinquity. I didn't even know there was a term for it until I read this one relationship article on how to meet good men lol.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's from a time when church was the only place you could meet people of the opposite sex who weren't in your family.

RoseySarah · Answer

Your missing the point on purpose!

It's about community being with people being selfless volunteering...

It's not omg I met this man and he just sat next to me and flirted! Brought me a drink too! During Mass!

It's after being with friends and family going to events!

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, it is, because churches also have social functions that occur outside of the services.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Depends on if your religious or not lol.

Although if there was a God it would be funny. Him looking down saying this is the gospel of the lord, they aren't listening they're only thinking about pussy. Now they're thinking about feet. I should flood them again.

incorrected · Answer

I would say you shouldn't go to church specifically for dating, you should go for faith reasons, but if you meet while there it's not wrong or inappropriate! Church is a place of love afterall, ideally! :)

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. If I was a succubus I would look for fresh souls only in churches. It's a double fun, seducing them with pretending to be an angel and sexappeal and than sucking out their life energy with demonic powers.

NobodyXox · Answer

I'd say maybe not optimal, but I'm not a Christian so I couldn't say for sure. But I can imagine that it would be a nice place to meet people with a similar view on life. I think finding someone who shares your Christian values would work nicely in daily life and in things like raising children.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I'm not religious but that seems fantastic to me. You know you're with people who share the same values and religious beliefs.

There are often Singles Ministries to my understanding in many Christian churches. I haven't looked into other religions but I wouldn't be surprised if they have something similar.

Anonymous · Answer

well, to state the obvious, yes it's very appropriate. It's a great place to find people who have similar interests and beliefs as you do. You can meet a super foxy fellow at the grocery store, but you never know if he's got a shrine to Satan in his basement. At church, there's a pretty good chance that the people you meet will have similar beliefs on religion, how to treat people in our daily lives, and other things. Not saying they're automatically "good people" necessarily, but yeah.

That being said, it is NOT a meat market. If you're going there specifically to check out the merchandise, then you're doing it wrong. The people we meet, should come as a biproduct of living our lives.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say that way church is about worship of God yes and that´s the main focus. That´s why I´d go with "a bit inappropriate".
But since people of different age groups go to church it´s a possibility to find a partner as long as you´re Christian. I don´t think it´s a good place for dating if you´re not a Christian. If your partner is Christian and you´re not that can lead to conflicts.

NamerOfStars · Answer

During sermons, perhaps, but churches are typically also social centers. Not everything that happens there is a worship service.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Church is also for community and being around like-minded individuals who most likely share the same values as you if you’re attending church. That’s probably why people recommend finding someone at church. I mean if the goal is marriage and marriage is meant to be a union between a man and a woman in the eyes of god, wouldn’t it make sense to meet at church?

Kelley1 · Answer

People are or should be free to look for dates anywhere. If there are rules implied or otherwise, governing their behavior, they should follow the rules.

SongBird3 · Answer

Yes and I LOVE that church, its in Iceland, I saw it with my husband

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

That's not the whole purpose of going to church, and just because people go to a local church doesn't mean they are good people in the there.  Bunch of fake devils be in there too.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, but you need to behave. No one night stands

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously you don't know much about churches. They're not telling you to go there & have sex. They're telling you to go there because typically the people aren't gutter dwelling losers with few to no morals / ethics like you'd find at bars, clubs, etc.

BoobMan · Answer

I think I recognize that second church as the VERY cool church in Reykjavik Iceland.

bobalife · Answer

I think so, it makes more sense with a community and common religious belief. Usually people who go to church have align values and lifestyle, which makes up for a better compatibility in partnership.

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course it’s about God first, but if you can meet somebody, that would be real nice

DubiousIntentions · Answer

If that is the only reason you go to church for is scope out possible dates, then I would vote for #4. I'm thinking that the women who go to church are looking for a Godly man, if they are looking for a man at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on if you can tolerate religious people or not.

CozyCoffin · Answer

What if God planned that out for you? Church usually means that the person at least is trying to share similar values to you, who are you to ascertain what the will of God is? Then again, who am I to do the same?

legalboxers · Answer

No because they are there to serve 1 man. Jesus Christ.

DJB72 · Answer

If your first love is God and drawing close to Him then Church is the best place to find someone who thinks and lives that way themselves.

Don't just go to find a hot Christian. That never works. We're all taken 🤪

RingOfFire · Answer

"Is church an appropriate place to look for a date?"

If someone already has more than one spouse and is looking for still another, I would say probably not unless you enjoy being told you will burn in hell. Even the LDS Church no longer sanctions polygamy.

steveusna · Answer

I know many people who got married from meeting at church. Guys who do this will be forced to become beta males.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

If you are going to that church only to find a date I would say no. If you already go to the church and are keeping out for singles there, I would say yes.

elaphe · Answer

If you desire someone with similar values as yours, then it makes sense. The person you might end up with would be based on deeper characteristics than picking up someone at a bar.

Anonymous · Answer

Boring, probably because I’m not religious and not interested in religions

XXblack88 · Answer

It's very appropriate if your religious otherwise you're going there for the wrong reason

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

The idea is do the people honestly want to find love?

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Just don't flirt during a mass or service.

Miristheiss · Answer

Only if you are an unbeliever who does not have a faith in God. If you are a believer and that church is your family then of course it is fine to also look to date someone there of the same faith.

Twalli · Answer

I don't go to church, so I don't know the ramifications of doing so. I imagine it's okay since most young romances seem to start in church groups.

AngryCarl · Answer

You can find a date there but don't actually date inside the church. That will anger God.

DaisyDessy · Answer

Brothers and sisters of the church do get married.. as the Bible said, “Go into the world and multiply” as believers of the Bible, they heed to it

MaxUsefull · Answer

In my opinion it is the worst place, there are only elderly women, married or committed women

Jersey2 · Answer

I did. She was awesome. Beautiful woman.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Another problem is wolves among the sheep.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, lots of couples have met each other in Church.

Notherndude84 · Answer

Churches are inappropriate for everything

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Doesn't God want us to have love?

Anonymous · Answer

Only if you want a wackadoodle

Paris13 · Answer

Nice as Spice To Meet Your own Kind. xxoo

KostasKouvalis · Answer

If you're a priest or altar boy

Kelly6 · Answer

Yes very appropriate

Jennz6 · Answer

Probably the best place

CubaPirate · Answer

Maybe just Maybe

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