Is church an appropriate place to look for a date?

[wolfcat87]

People say, "If you want to find a spouse, go to church." But, doesn't that seem inappropriate? 🤔 Aren't churches supposed to be about God instead of romance?

Yes, very appropriate

Yes, not optimal but acceptable

Unsure

A bit inappropriate

Unacceptably inappropriate, church is for worship not sex and romance

[ChicoFromThe305]

It is about god but don't forget God doesn't need you to go to church, he wants you too, god can hear you anywhere and he can read your heart anywhere, it's why it's not necessary to go to church as long as you keep your connection with god strong and you don't depart from him, that leads up to a love life, if you crave a lover and need a lover, god will have one for you, god only wants to be involved in your life, he's a father technically and if love is what you seek for then god won't be angry at you for looking for it within people that also believe in him, actually he recommends you find love with someone that has the same belief as you, the only way it would be wrong is if the love isn't actual love and you are looking for hookups or trying to manipulate or any other kind of worldy things, at that point you are a plague and a corruption and that would anger god, god made us loving and loveable for a reason and looking for another believer of god to find a lover is actually recommended by god, what makes the church a house of god is the truth of the word, not the building itself, if the house isn't teaching the truth then it's not a church, the bible isn't a rule book, it's a guide, people put too much physicality in spirituality, the importance in Christianity is your connection with god, from there if you involve god he will guide you, I can assure you god would rather you put your focus on finding a lover in his house that abides by the same belief and that both involve him into the marriage than you choose to go to a club and testing your luck that way, people see god like a dictator but he isn't a dictator, he is a father, fathers don't always give you what you want but they give you what you need, same goes here.

[CassandraSpender]

Hun, please use punctuation and paragraphs so we can read what you have to say. I'm sure there are people out there who you feel would benefit from your words who just passed right over it because a page long run-on sentence is unreadable.

Personally, I disagree with Christianity on a lot of levels, but thats just me... I would hate to see a positive message be lost due to poor grammar. *hearts*

[ChicoFromThe305]

Others understand it, I don't know what to tell you if you don't, I try to add punctuation and properly written sentences but gag likes to mess it up, I waste enough time on responses as it is just fixing typos.

[CassandraSpender]

I can relate to the typo time for sure... almost like we weren't meant to type with our thumbs lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Honestly, the dumbest thing is that it's never correct, when was the last time you didn't have to change your typos lol

[BCRanger10]

It should not be THE reason to go. The main reason to go is to give God the love, service, and worship that is rightly due to Him.

Part of going to church, however, is community (Matthew 18.20), finding like-minded people who can love and support you. With that said, it is okay to go to church with the hope of finding a relationship with someone of similar beliefs and values.

[BCRanger10]

Thank you for MHO 🙌

[AMS700CX4u2]

BCR, that was well stated.

[TenderFantasy]

I think it's only okay to say that if the person who were speaking with was religious. I've been told that before, like did they even bother to find out whether I was religious or not? Lol. They were implying that I should LIE about being religious (if I wasn't) and join the church for this ulterior motive lol.

And it can be by the way as I've seen some couple's growing up that met there, however, they were already crazy religious back then so of course it was bound to happen. I think you meet people (in your life journey usually and especially in the past), when you spend a good amount of your time. It's called propinquity. I didn't even know there was a term for it until I read this one relationship article on how to meet good men lol.

[TenderFantasy]

*Where not when, excuse me lol.

[Anonymous]

It's from a time when church was the only place you could meet people of the opposite sex who weren't in your family.

[RoseySarah]

Your missing the point on purpose!

It's about community being with people being selfless volunteering...

It's not omg I met this man and he just sat next to me and flirted! Brought me a drink too! During Mass!

It's after being with friends and family going to events!

[Avicenna]

Yes, it is, because churches also have social functions that occur outside of the services.

[mandyfire98]

Depends on if your religious or not lol.

Although if there was a God it would be funny. Him looking down saying this is the gospel of the lord, they aren't listening they're only thinking about pussy. Now they're thinking about feet. I should flood them again.

[NathanDavis]

lmfao at feet...

[incorrected]

I would say you shouldn't go to church specifically for dating, you should go for faith reasons, but if you meet while there it's not wrong or inappropriate! Church is a place of love afterall, ideally! :)

[FreyaRed]

Yes. If I was a succubus I would look for fresh souls only in churches. It's a double fun, seducing them with pretending to be an angel and sexappeal and than sucking out their life energy with demonic powers.

[NobodyXox]

I'd say maybe not optimal, but I'm not a Christian so I couldn't say for sure. But I can imagine that it would be a nice place to meet people with a similar view on life. I think finding someone who shares your Christian values would work nicely in daily life and in things like raising children.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm not religious but that seems fantastic to me. You know you're with people who share the same values and religious beliefs.

There are often Singles Ministries to my understanding in many Christian churches. I haven't looked into other religions but I wouldn't be surprised if they have something similar.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

The emphasis I think is not romance and dating but marriage under God. Churches are typically the institutions that unite men and women in marriage, after all. It's arguably an important function of most religions to build marriages, families, and communities. That's something sorely lacking for us atheists.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

So I voted "yes, appropriate". I want to put an even stronger answer; I think this is the most ideal way for religious people to find their spouses.

[Anonymous]

well, to state the obvious, yes it's very appropriate. It's a great place to find people who have similar interests and beliefs as you do. You can meet a super foxy fellow at the grocery store, but you never know if he's got a shrine to Satan in his basement. At church, there's a pretty good chance that the people you meet will have similar beliefs on religion, how to treat people in our daily lives, and other things. Not saying they're automatically "good people" necessarily, but yeah.

That being said, it is NOT a meat market. If you're going there specifically to check out the merchandise, then you're doing it wrong. The people we meet, should come as a biproduct of living our lives.

[Lionman95]

I would say that way church is about worship of God yes and that´s the main focus. That´s why I´d go with "a bit inappropriate".
But since people of different age groups go to church it´s a possibility to find a partner as long as you´re Christian. I don´t think it´s a good place for dating if you´re not a Christian. If your partner is Christian and you´re not that can lead to conflicts.

[NamerOfStars]

During sermons, perhaps, but churches are typically also social centers. Not everything that happens there is a worship service.

[SolitarySolace]

Church is also for community and being around like-minded individuals who most likely share the same values as you if you’re attending church. That’s probably why people recommend finding someone at church. I mean if the goal is marriage and marriage is meant to be a union between a man and a woman in the eyes of god, wouldn’t it make sense to meet at church?

[Kelley1]

People are or should be free to look for dates anywhere. If there are rules implied or otherwise, governing their behavior, they should follow the rules.

[SongBird3]

Yes and I LOVE that church, its in Iceland, I saw it with my husband

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's not the whole purpose of going to church, and just because people go to a local church doesn't mean they are good people in the there.

Bunch of fake devils be in there too.

[exitseven]

Yes, but you need to behave. No one night stands

[Anonymous]

Obviously you don't know much about churches. They're not telling you to go there & have sex. They're telling you to go there because typically the people aren't gutter dwelling losers with few to no morals / ethics like you'd find at bars, clubs, etc.

[BoobMan]

I think I recognize that second church as the VERY cool church in Reykjavik Iceland.

[SongBird3]

Yes! I've been there

[BoobMan]

@SongBird3 It's a very cool town. And that church is pretty impressive--especially in the winter with all the snow.

[bobalife]

I think so, it makes more sense with a community and common religious belief. Usually people who go to church have align values and lifestyle, which makes up for a better compatibility in partnership.

[Iron_Man]

Of course it’s about God first, but if you can meet somebody, that would be real nice

[DubiousIntentions]

If that is the only reason you go to church for is scope out possible dates, then I would vote for #4. I'm thinking that the women who go to church are looking for a Godly man, if they are looking for a man at all.