Do you think it's wrong to go date hunting in a church?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

What sort of church? Who do you want to meet? What do you mean by "go date hunting" ? Are you currently attending church, but considering finding another church where there are more single men?

Be aware that in church single women outnumber single men, and it gets worse as you get older. We rented the first floor of a house with three single women upstairs. One was in her early 30's, a speech therapist working for the school district, and seriously Christian. She was set on marrying a seriously Christian CPA, lawyer, or doctor. She was sweet but a bit overweight. We moved out after about five years and she was still single. I expect there were fewer than 100 single men in Dallas who would meet her criteria, and they would have their pick of the single Christian women.

[Asker]

I'm not considering go date hunting in a church. What I mean by that is looking for a partner within a church. Is it wrong to do that? I'm not currently attending church either. It's just a question I had because I was curious to see if people do it.

[slatyb]

No, it's not but if you aren't seriously Christian I don't think you'll have much luck there. You want to go somewhere the single men outnumber the women. Have you considered outdoor activity groups? Hiking, biking, sailing, paddling, skiing, climbing, co-rec sports? Those groups have many single men who are at least fit and generally intelligent, and you'll get a lot of attention if you show up. It's fine if you aren't particularly skilled. They will be eager to help. Mostly they are quite nice, but perhaps a bit shy. Or join something like a community chorus. Those are usually pretty sex-balanced as well. Or learn to play pool or darts and join a league.

[Asker]

I have considered skiing and hiking at one point but the question is not for me to look for guys. I was just curious to see if people go to church to find dates. I'm not single.

[OtterMan68]

yes, if that's the only reason or main reason you're there.

If you go to worship and the possibility of finding a date is just a bonus, that's fine

[Daniela1982]

If you are not a Christian I would say no. Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever is what the Bible teaches, as it usually creates strife as how to raise the kids and such. More often than not, the Christian might get lured away from their Christian beliefs. I would say date the people who hold on to your beliefs and lifestyle and do not cause them to forsake theirs. The two different value systems are most often not compatible.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It feels like exploitation of the church. And potentially manipulating the church goers into thinking you are there for salvation when in reality it’s to find a date.

[OlderAndWiser]

Not wrong if you want to meet the kind of guy who attends church.

[Drew-1990]

If you are looking for a serious relationship then I see nothing wrong looking for someone in church at all. For a Christian that is probably one of the best places to look honestly just don't let it distract you from the service 😅. Now just looking for dates and short term stuff then I would say it's inappropriate.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like a lot of things love works in mysterious ways & if you want to meet people a great way you meet people is to go out & greet people. As for church if you greet people you will meet people & yes you can find a date there too.

In life if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all.

[patois]

It's pretty typical for people to socialize at church. Church is about community. People of common faith come together to celebrate their faith, find support among one another, teach and learn the scriptures, etc. In Christianity, your faith is about your relationship with God/Jesus. To build that relationship church isn't all that important. The Church is about community.

[Purpleronnie]

I think going to church deliberately for “date hunting” would be a little strange. A chance meeting which led to a date from church “sounds” better. I would never say wrong though in either case , sometimes you got to look in the less obvious places

[DarkWinterNights]

I think regardless of the reason you’re there, most believers would probably be fine with it. As long as you aren’t hitting on married men lol. I’ve been told that’s the only place to meet people these days.

[HighValue]

It is much better than looking for someone in a bar or club where many of the low quality people are.

[Danzigdawson]

It's wrong to go in a church in the first place. Christianity has been slowly dying for a century or two and it's about time it did.

[Iron_Man]

Church is the best place for you to find a guy, but you shouldn’t go to church just to find a guy that’s something that just happens.

[BadApple69]

Not at all. That’s a great place to meet like minded people.

[Alexandra____]

No i don’t think it is wrong but I’d never datehunt in my church , I’d rather find someone outside the church vicinity

[TacosRAwesome]

I think being open to meeting someone in church is great but using church to get dates is a bit off putting.

[SolitarySolace]

I’m not looking because I like being single. Besides I don’t trust women that goes for church going women as well.

[DreamLife7]

Wow you're desperate. If you have to do all this you might want to ask yourself, "am I attractive?" Because this is very desperate chasing

[Asker]

My thoughts exactly. I don't go to church just asking the question because I was curious about what people thought of that.

[Asker]

I personally think it's not the place to go to pick up a date.

[DreamLife7]

The fact you're chasing men in the first place is sad and embarrassing 😳. Men are the hunters the fact you're doing the hunting is wow

[Asker]

I'm not chasing anyone. I'm not even single. It was just a question. Chill out.

[DreamLife7]

You are chasing and you're single. Lying to me won't fix ur problems

[Asker]

I'm talking to my boyfriend as I type and he thinks you're an idiot

[DreamLife7]

You don't have a boyfriend. Lying to me won't fix your issues hun.

[Asker]

I will admit I have issues but you have bigger ones for keeping up this argument. Believe what you want. Idgaf. This is honestly sad.

[DreamLife7]

You don't have a boyfriend. Lying to me won't fix your issues hun. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

Ok if you say so lmfao 🤣 😂 💀

[exitseven]

No, it is hard enough to meet people after you graduate from college.

[itsclearlynicholas]

It's never wrong to go date hunting in any place 😉😜

[SolitarySolace]

It is when you know what the current dating market is like. I’m sure you wouldn’t be playing either if you knew what it was really like out there.

[laly520]

not wrong but it shouldn't be the only reason u r going to church

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope... a lot of people go to churches specifically to connect with people their own age.

[Sober_Irishman]

Nope. Good a place as any. Hope you find your man.

[Danny_dan92]

That’s actually how people used to find a significant other many many years ago

[Anonymous]

Morality is the stealer of joy. Are you hurting anyone by doing it?

[Starrrboy]

No.. at least you know you already have something in common lol..

[LiamJHayden]

No, just be aware that there are wolves among the sheep and tares among the wheat.

[AngryCarl]

Not really. The church supports marriage between Christians.

[Bricealan]

No, from my POV. Why would it be?

[RavVid]

Nothing wrong with it at all.

[Anonymous]

Hunting for what?

[Asker]

A date

[Booklover_90]

If that’s the only reason you’re there, yes.

[handsomelad70]

ITS FREAKIN' CREEPY !!!

[jaskin777]

Nope

[spicythunder]

yess