Should I stop talking to my situationship?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a situationship/ friends with benefits with this guy for over a year. He doesn’t want a relationship and I asked him why he keeps talking to me if he doesn’t want to date and he said “ good company and good sex” he doesn’t live near me during the year because he does school away but still communicates with me. We have stopped talking before but he comes back, he ends up calling me of texting me and we end up right back where we started. He is coming in town Saturday with his friends and wants to see me. I don’t know what I should do. I want to stop talking to him so he realizes that I’m not a girl that he can just keep around whenever he needs but I can’t seem to let go. I’m going to have to be the one to stop talking to him and let him go because he can still talk to me everyday without commitment and won’t care. So what should I do? Do I stop answering him and leave him on delivered before he comes Saturday or do I continue talking to him till he comes? I don’t know what to do I just want him to want me and I want to move on

[Oliverlogan263]

This situation sounds complicated, but I think deep down you know what you need to do - stop talking to this guy and cut him off for good. He's made it clear he just wants the perks of seeing you without any real commitment. Continuing to talk to him will only delay your ability to fully move on.

I'd say don't answer or respond when he reaches out this time. Resist the temptation to keep giving in when he comes around again, as hard as that will be. You deserve way more than being someone's backup plan. Take your power back by letting him go completely without any explanation. Block him if you have to.

It'll probably suck at first since you've been talking so long, but staying no contact is the only way he'll really feel the impact of losing you for good and realize you aren't waiting around forever. Plus it'll help you fully close that chapter and be able to properly grieve the relationship and start fresh.

I know you care about him, but you gotta put yourself first here. Stay strong - you've got this! In time you'll meet someone who will give you their all without hesitation.

[Asker]

Awn thank you for that message:) your right deep down I know what to do. So now do I rnr him or just leave him on delivered?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's no problem, I'm just trying to give you some honest dude advice since I've seen friends go through similar stuff before. Leaving him on delivered is a good move, it'll get the message across that you're not gonna play his games anymore. But honestly, I'd say just fully remove him from your life - block him on everything so you're not even tempted to see if he texts or hits you up on other stuff later on. Going no contact is the best way to really make a clean break and start moving on without constantly worrying about what he's saying or doing. It'll be toughest at first, but sticking to your guns shows him AND yourself that you deserve way more than being an option. Soon enough you won't even think about him anymore and you'll be able to put your energy into meeting people who will actually treat you with respect. Gotta put yourself and your own happiness first here! Don't give this dude another chance to mess with your head. You got this!!

[RespectfulGuy]

Reading your Details, it's just sex thus far.

Yes, avoid texts or acts that will stir emotions. This will only make the parting more difficult.

My Opinion is, make it quick, make it direct. And don't look back.

No need to be apologetic. If you should have a "farewell", keep it short, with ZERO hint of any future contact.

If you don't feel like seeing him for the last time, then decide if you want to text a "good bye" and then block him on all social media.

My Opinion appears harsh. But after reading your Details, I think this is the better way. Block then don't look or think back anymore.

[Avicenna]

If you can't get what you want from him, don't wait around and waste your time

[strateguy632]

he not exclusive with you. dump him.

[laly520]

yes stop

[Asker]

Before he comes?

[laly520]

yes before