Looks like I'm in a situationship with this guy from work.
He tried having sex with me a few times, but it didn't happen because of circumstances as no right place (he made out with me in a car) and such.
Anyway... I wanted a relationship and he knew it. I invited him to a trip... he was first yes, then maybe, then he declined saying he is not in the mood to have fun right now.
Used to be very stressed at work, said... if things get better, we will do this and that (but in fact things got worse). Anyway again.
He stopped trying to be intimate with me, but continued to act confusing... he insisted to pay for our lunch, them buy me food (I did the same to be honest), then use the words "us" and "we". Then offered helping me with my car, then looked concerned about me.
Whenever he got sick, he told me to buy him medicine (like we are boyfriend and girlfriend and I'm just supposed to do that)
And overall things are pretty weird. He was telling me about his free day (I didn't even ask) and about his friends problems. And continues to do so.
Asks me for an advice to buy clothes and stuff.
Then I noticed him talking way too much to another chick at work, who was supposed to be his friend before we become a situationship. I was aware of that, but now him giving her attention upset me. So I asked him "why are you talking to her whenever I'm not around, are you hiding something ". And he started explaining that he is not hiding anything like he is an actual boyfriend giving me an explanation.
He didn't go mad at me, but I wonder why is he acting like a boyfriend, except there is no physical intimacy right now.
I don't get it.
I tried having a conversation once recently and he told me that I irritate him and he is very exhausted from work, and if I continue to do so, our relationship won't work out.
I don't get his actions nor behavior at all.
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Dang, that sounds super confusing. This girl's situationship has got me scratchin' my head too.
On one hand, it seems like he likes the attention and benefits from you without the commitment. But then he acts kinda couple-y sometimes like paying for your lunch and stuff. And gets weird if you talk to other guys.
My guess is he enjoys the gray area you guys are in right now where he doesn't have to be a real boyfriend but still gets some of that. Maybe he's just not ready to fully commit. Or could be stringing you along as a backup option.
I'd say you gotta have a serious talk with him to figure out what's really up. Lay it all out - the mixed signals are messing with your head. Does he see a future with you or not? If not, you deserve better than a situationship limbo.
And if things don't clear up, you might need to consider moving on for your own sake. Don't let him keep you on the backburner while he's out there tryna smash other chicks too. You know? Keep your options open sis, you'll find someone who treats you right!
Looks like?
You don't sound too sure.
I don't know what it is... is it a friendship, is it a coworkership, is it a relationship, is it a situationship.