Are dating apps primarily for sexting?

[alexProt]

What do you think? I will add a basic poll but feel free to comment out your oppinion

Yes, most of the time

Not even close, its for irl dating

really depends on todays mood, yes and no

[Mr_twoface]

Dating apps are generally created so you can have meaningful conversations with people, and come across the one you find attractive enough for a date. It allows anyone, no matter the looks or personality, to address people and find true love. Sadly though most apps are used by folks (typically younger males) who are only after a quicky and have therefore brought a bad reputation among all apps. If you are there with right intention, then it can truly work out, as I know several people who have found their true love on these different apps.

[alexProt]

Excellent answer, thanks.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Think it depends on how wide you want to define "dating app." Tinder and Grinder (or however that's spelled) are far more "hook up apps" than dating apps, at least from the women I talk to who have tried them (well..."tried it", and gay guys as appropriate in that sentence. I know plentyoffish used to be heavily focused on dating when it was a standalone website. They got bought by match. com or someone... not sure what they are now. The really niched ones like singlefarmers I'd suspect are absolutely dating. If you're just looking to swap sweat what do you care if they have a shared profession?

Now what confused me about the question is sexting specifically. I've met and talked to women that want to date and women that want to have sex, no strings attached, I've never met any that want ONLY sexting. That seems an odd middle ground.

[_Maya_]

Dating apps are for... dating. I'm sure sexting goes on in some instances but people that are serious about finding someone to date aren't going to use it for that. The majority also require payment so to pay just to sext isn't really good value is it? Now I don't and have never used them but I would be pretty disappointed if I was paying to find some matches and all I got were guys wanting to talk sex. That wouldn't be why I joined the site and I'd prob cancel my membership if that's all I got. So I hope that isn't what people are using it for because I bet a lot of them are not happy that's what they get when they are legit trying to find a date. Prob why dating sites have such a bad image.

[SolitarySolace]

There are a few of those apps where you don't have to pay anything. I'm using one I like the setup of but don't necessarily like where their money does happen to go but I still use it not because I'm trying to find a date but because it's a way to see what's out there without being out there

[_Maya_]

@SolitarySolace right but I doubt you are their to sext. I think the majority of people that create legit accounts really do want to find someone or at least that's their intention.

[SolitarySolace]

On the app I use, women have to start the conversions and there's been negative reviews by both men and women because women aren't starting conversations with men. So if they're they're for dating why aren't they starting conversations?

[_Maya_]

Because they look at their options and say... nah. That's why. I would too. I see what you post. In fact I just saw you post with this in your opinion:

"So personally for me it's best to just stay single"

So why are you on a dating site then? For a guy that is a self proclaimed asexual that has no interest in women you certainly spend a lot of time posting about us and how we are. I figured a guy that had zero interest in women wouldn't worry about what we do so much.

[SolitarySolace]

I'm honestly just sick of the way women treat men with no reprocussions while men are demonized not just for calling women out when she's being a little shit but just for being men in general. But lately I've run into so many men who just don't care about themselves enough to realize where I'm coming from.

[_Maya_]

Why are you on a dating site then?

[SolitarySolace]

Like I said, just to see what is out there. I like reading the about me sections. I like seeing pictures of attractive women that aren't overly sexualizing themselves. I may be extremely critical of women to the brink of hating them but that doesn't mean I'm not still attracted to the attractive ones.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have used dating sites several times since 2007 and have always found real women, good women, who were interested in dating.

[SolitarySolace]

I guess it's more for meeting people you don't necessarily have to go out and meet in person. They shouldn't be called dating apps, they should be called something like "meet&greet" apps or something. Dating isn't really a thing anymore honestly at least I don't believe it is.

[alexProt]

Sounds pessimistic, but I am sure your opinion will have a lot of followers, thanks.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I go on dates regularly and am invited to many more that I can't attend due to scheduling conflicts. How is dating not a thing anymore?

[BoopBoopBeep]

crap that question was supposed to be @SolitarySolace

[SolitarySolace]

Finding a date through dating apps is extremely rare. That's why I said what I did

[boobliker]

I did think sex was the first thing on my mind, but not at all I found two good dates that lasted over a year work split us in the end as I travel a long way for work and am gone for 7 - 8 weeks at a time.

[alexProt]

Not bad at all.