Is it normal to never have a girlfriend in India?

[Anonymous]

I live in Bangalore and I feel that only the few tall, athletic looking guys ever have a dating life. The average looking guys never seem to date and just get an arranged marriage. I feel so bad about never having a girlfriend at 25, but I am starting to think it's normal and inevitable if you're not genetically gifted. Even a girl told me that seemingly all girls only want those tall, physically strong guys, and that a guy like me can never be seen as boyfriend material.

[Sameone]

Nup not true all my friend aim short guy and i have been whit many women you just have to try

[Asker]

I have asked girls shorter than me and they are also not interested.

[Sameone]

Maybe problem is in your girls country
Try to dating arbic country's they like short guy
How tall you? If you don't mind

[Asker]

163 cm

[Sameone]

How much do you weigh?
Did you visit before a doctor? About your tall

[Asker]

My parents are very short, hence I am short. There's nothing to do about it. I am already 25. I am 55 kg but I am aiming to be at least 60 kg, and I am doing regular weightlifting and calisthenics.

[Sameone]

Thank you for MHO

[laly520]

thats not an excuse

many not that tall guys have gfs but it could be some cultural issue

like the place u live in doesn't have dating culture n too traditional

[SolitarySolace]

Well with India being essentially a matriarchy now I wouldn’t be surprised if men/boys didn’t want a girlfriend in India 🤷🏻‍♂️

[boggboss]

Sure only tall men get guys 🤣

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes if you fail to try, then it’s normal

[Asker]

Dude, I have tried many times. Most of the time they say "you are so sweet" or something like that but just want to be "friends" or say something like "you are like my brother". A 5'4" guy like me simply isn't seen as boyfriend material. Boyfriend material is the tall chapri looking guy who rides fancy motorbikes.

[BarryLiverstone]

How many times this year have you tried?

[Asker]

Thrice in 2023. This year no. Anyway I am going to USA in September for my postgrad so even if a girl agrees to date me I won't be able to sustain the relationship.

[BarryLiverstone]

There it is, you are not actually trying. Also they are right, you are acting too nice. Girls want an authentic man.

[Asker]

What if I am actually "too nice"? That is my authentic self. Now what? I should pretend to be a bad boy to look more "authentic"?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. You are where I was 8 years ago. If you actually want to change then do research on being a nice guy vs being authentic. Look into setting boundaries and healthy coping. Being a bad boy is immature. Peace

[Asker]

I'm not a "nice guy". I don't put women on a pedestal. I only did that many years ago with a girl in college and I learned my lesson. I do present my authentic self to the women I try to speak to. I don't shower them with praise and treat them like they're above me. I talk to them the same way I would with a male friend. The thing is I am just not physically attractive. People will give all the reasons like how you are a nice guy, bad boy, good boy etc, but really the bottom-line is how you look. If you look good you can be a nice guy, bad boy, whatever. You can still be attractive to women.

[BarryLiverstone]

You only asked 3 girls last year. Some guys do that in a weekend. So good luck post grad but keep being authentic and try more.

[Asker]

Our culture is very different from the West. You can't go meet random women in bars or something. It doesn't work that way. All the girls I've asked for dates were people who already knew me. If I asked one girl out a week I would be labelled as a pervert.

[BarryLiverstone]

Then be labeled a pervert. You would actually have a girlfriend