Does anyone have any experience of meeting someone is avoidant attachment?

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[Avicenna]

Yeah, but she was a narcissist, so that was more of a factor

[roxbby]

I’m anxious and avoidant, either or depending on my self esteem and self awareness. As an avoidant person, I know I am subconsciously very scared of relationships I care about ending or feeling abandoned, so I get anxious when I like a person and want to ghost them and leave. It’s not rational because it’s a very natural response for me and doesn’t have a real logical thought process behind it, but that’s what an attachment problem is anyway. Weirdly, I have a very healthy relationship, but that’s because I was actively strangling my unhealthy attachment style because I knew the relationship was healthy, but I don’t know how many people have that level of self awareness because I’m a psychology nerd. However, the best way to make a friendship with an avoidant attachment as an avoidant attachment is to make the relationship progress much slower than you normally would with another. Don’t get too close or too revealing or too fun too fast. Make it develop slow. That way they don’t feel so triggered.