How do men calm down women when they get upset?

[thundercloud]

The reason why I'm asking this question is because I wanted to know how do men calm down women when they get upset and please appropriate opinions and please no inappropriate opinions

[Create21]

Easy. First, listen to them. Ask them questions about what happened. Don’t interrupt, but be sympathetic with small comments (Yikes, wow, that sucks, etc.). Because if you just sit there, she then starts to get mad at you for not being engaged in what is bothering her.

HOWEVER, MOST IMPORTANTLY - don’t try to solve the problem unless you are asked. She doesn’T want you to solve the problem, she wants to feel that she is correct in her feelings and that you understand. If you try to solve the problem, you become the problem.

[austinbooth]

I just walk you through the problem. I would not let anyone be disruptive to you

[rosemilk]

i can get like this a lot. i have anxiety. so when i get upset or overstimulated or anxious, my partner calms me down by rubbing my back or if i don't want to be touched, letting me go somewhere quiet, giving me a moment, telling me to breathe. and once i feel okay enough, we get a little treat lol

[naartjie]

We don’t need to be told to take a chill pill or calm down… someone attentive is what will do, someone who listens to listen and not give an answer or opinion or a solution. Sometimes we just need to talk and have someone there, we want to feel heard and cared about

[Dongie]

Hey, that's what I said.

Check it out.

[Finchie40]

We can’t we just walk away and wait until she calms down lol

[ShadezMcgee]

Most of the time from what I experienced it just involves listening and repeating back key notes of the conversation that were important. Women want to be heard more than hearing opinions or suggestions which is maddening but the nature of the beast.

[worldscolide]

With my wife, i give her space, And when she is ready to talk i listen. Listening is literally the best thing that a guy can do. Dont try to solve it, just listen. Offer cuddles if needed.

On the other side, when i am angry, i calm down by gaming, or taking a walk.. Or a hug from my wife basically kills it.

[Anonymous]

women and girls aren't calm either, females point their fingers at guys on ABC and XYZ meanwhile she will swear and dress like a Ho and talk to 20 other guys with big dick on her mind. Women and girls act pathetic today. As a guy, im tired of the hate women inflict and spew online and in person. I hope World War III starts because if all y'all women want males eradicated from earth then lets see how far life goes once no guy is no longer here in this world. Girls and women love playing games, guys and men have a right to be pissed if she's the one being dishonest, stupid and childish.

[lightbulb27]

probably unique to the persons.

with my wife, I find focused listening and acknowledging, maybe tlc helps calm her down. just needs to be heard, and then moves on.

XGF was not like that and I had to yell at her. didn't like that situation, glad I decided to move on and found my wife.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ask them if they are on their period 😱😱😱.

Kidding. It depends why and how they are upset. If they just want to pick a fight to dump their stress (my ex did this constantly), there is nothing you can do. If she is upset and wants to vent, just doing reflective listening goes a long way.

[TaureanBull81]

Usually I'll let a woman vent to let out all of her frustration/s. I won't give her any advice or my own opinions for that matter because it's up to her to find her own solutions.

Just being a listening ear 👂 is what you women want or need.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Depends on the situation and relationship.

Romantic, probably a gentle touch or hug, maybe just telling them to vent/let it out an actively listening.

A friend, listen intently and ask questions or repeat things back to them to show you're paying attention.

Another thing I do with girls I'm trying to calm is lowering my tone and speaking slowly and calmly. Generally though it's about listening which is definitely a skill and can be done incorrectly.

[madewithingredients]

it depends what they're upset about.
but basically, just let them vent and tell them exactly what they want to hear.
if you're brave, you can tell them exactly what they need to/should hear (a week or two later though. don't be a hero).

[ChicoFromThe305]

Tell them to calm down

[naartjie]

Digging your own grave I see

[ChicoFromThe305]

Deeper than any abyss

[Apple1996]

Men can't even calm there own emotions let alone a woman's emotions

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You can't even understand what you want and expect men to be mind readers

[Account]

@Apple1996 Finally someone said this. ❤️

[pass_the_celery98]

@Account check your PM lol

[Account]

@pass_the_celery98 No.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Account lol I don't think anyone saying that is new. That's why that claim can easily be debunked.

[sawno]

I can calm my own emotions, does that give me a shot at calming hers? (Spoiler: Yes)

[Apple1996]

@sawno wow impressive 😯 you might have a shot at helping her

[sawno]

In my last relationship we both always immediately wanted to resolve rather than fight. So most of the time it never escalated, for the entire relationship not a single fight happened. But sometimes emotions would be to high to where we had to distance ourselves from each other to calm down and then continue resolving.

And for me this is a standard now, I need this skill in a partner because it makes the relationship really pleasant and amazing. But in return I always ensure I have myself in check to.

[Apple1996]

@sawno ah see I'm toxic I gotta fight it out. If no fighting then I don't feel love but I guess if it works for you then it's good

[sawno]

Our style was to understand we both came from a good place, seek a compromise that worked and then we'd do something nice afterwards so we'd be back to normal.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

What I said is still stands and I love how she completely ignored it lol because I made a point

[Phoenix98]

We don't, you just sit there and let her vent or just leave her alone.

[sawno]

If its my fault we will talk it out, if she's to upset to talk it out ill give her some space to calm down and then we talk it out. If its not my fault I show her support.

[Flatmanlewis]

I usually just back away slowly, holding my hand up in a stopping gesture, avoiding direct eye contact and rapid movements. Usually she flanks me and I whisper “Clever girl.” Before she pounces.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Oh that's simple. I hide all the knives and give her the cheap crockery to throw! (I'm kidding.)

Usually, I just let her shout and scream until she runs out of puff.

[SolitarySolace]

You can’t. You gotta let her blow her gasket until she runs out of breath. She won’t even let you leave the room. This is one of the reasons why I don’t fuck with women. I don’t even have female friends let alone date and that’s by choice!

[lildkman1010]

Bring her out to dinner and get some drinks talk and relax the mood

[Elliegirl]

Mostly I want him to just listen to me and let me have my emotions and not try to fix it

[TheTallPine]

Good answer. I heard you want to talk with me

[Anonymous]

To be honest there’s nothing a man can say to calm me down unless he’s already in tune with my emotions. And most men aren’t, which isn’t their fault. But sometimes sex is the cure and a man can contribute that

[NHI2017]

Food and sex seems to do the trick for me all the time.

whatever the problem was. Is no longer a issue

[A_Bell]

Tell her to calm down. She'll take note her unreasonable emotional state and return to clear rationality, likely thanking you in the process.

[A_Bell]

Just so people know, this is a trap. Don't really do this.

[BCRanger10]

I either say her name a few times while giving her a hug or I sometimes have to straight up tell her to calm down.

[MikeTheBartender]

Probably easier to say what not to do, and that is get emotional. She's already emotional so he needs to keep his cool and comfort her.

[joehypo1]

They usually just appologize and keep there mouth shut or leave for a while

[dustybiker2]

Make an appointment for an anger management class.

[Dinklex3]

We usually have a conversation about why I’m upset, lol.

[spartan55]

Actually verbally tell them to calm down, works every time. 😂😂😂

[JacobJordan]

I let her get it out of her system. Or I comfort her depending on which upset she is. If it is annoyed/angry upset she's on her own. If she is sad/down upset I comfort her

[Starrrboy]

Well, you can't really explain it.. but when you like her, you already know her enough.. you know the right words to say in that situation and you know how to cheer her up..

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Ask them what they want me to do and do what they want me to do unless if it kills or harm me.

[RavVid]

Long suffering patience and lower your voice an octave and speak reassuringly with complete calm.

[andreasderjuengere]

What works best over here:
With an angel's face and voice I ask her if she's kind of angry.

[JayBones]

Don't even bother. Just leave. Go to the bar. Come back in a few days when they calmed down naturally.

[Vegasrunner]

The best thing to do is leave. You're under no obligation to solve another person's insecurities.

[Dongie]

Act like this feeling of caring and compassion overcomes us and feed her some bullshit. Usually shuts her up... for a while.

[naartjie]

There are still good people in this world, you are not one of them.

[Dongie]

@naartjie thank you. That means SO much coming from someone who knows me so well.

[naartjie]

Your response shows what kind of person you are… actions my friend, actions speak

[Dongie]

@naartjie tell me of these "good people of the world" you speak of.

[naartjie]

No thank you, I’m too busy enjoying my afternoon of answering questions than have to have more conversation with you. You have a good one

[Dongie]

@naartjie no, no, you, my dear lady, have one.

[naartjie]

Oh I will, Dongie 🫶🏼

[Dongie]

@naartjie what's that, you love crackers?

[standardguy]

I think it's bedt if men let express women their upsetness physically. So their calm down the fastest.

[moneymagnet24]

Why should I calm her down if she upset?
Baby r u upset? Stay upset. When you done with this upset upset game call me I'm going to club.

[Pinay_ako]

Buy/make her food.

[Anonymous]

Give her sex and if she doesn’t want that, mope around and act pathetic until she finally gives in. Of course, if you have to do that, you might be the reason she’s upset in the first place.

[Guanfei]

We don't. We start the PC and play until she calms down.

[BonMot]

Of course, it depends on WHAT they are upset about... but calm, adult, honest, logic helps.

[Anonymous]

Telling them to "calm down" works every time.

[Anonymous]

I give my girlfriend a body massage and then I go down on her, which makes her feel better.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Depends upon the individuals in question.

[Plugs]

Why did he upset her in the first place

[Slapmynuts]

By Not telling them to calm down! Lol🤪

[war_daddy]

ignore their drama until they quite the fuck down

[whistlingwh0res]

money, sex, lies

[whistlingwh0res]

sugar

[Anonymous]

Nothing coz it ain't my problem!!

[Danny_dan92]

Give them space

[dinojames22]

Food