Why did he change after our date… he turned cold?

[Anonymous]

Even though I’m emotionally unstable I think he still had interest and still saw potential in me… he never love bombed ect… he was patient and never pushed me. Tried to get to know me

then during the date … it started off okay but then he said he didn’t want to sleep with me bc I’ll possibly get crazier. I told him that’s not true… he asked how I felt I've been during our conversations but I didn’t feel like I came off unstable.

it hurt then I hadn’t heard back and when he called he just gave a soft blow

[Avicenna]

There must have been some red flags

[Asker]

On his part or mine?

[Avicenna]

Either or both

[JoePro_]

I'm just here to show some compassion. That totally sucks. I can't say what he was thinking, or if there were any hidden factors, like maybe he wasn't being entirely honest, I don't know... But it utterly sucks being rejected. I've felt it a number of times myself. And often times it felt really unwarranted. I hope things get better for you.

[Asker]

Totally honest about what?

[JoePro_]

As a man, I'll say you can't know for sure what his actual qualm with you was. Typically, we say what's on our mind, but sometimes we just make shit up, or say the lesser of the things that are bothering us, to maybe "save" your feelings, which never actually helps or saves your feelings. But it's something we sometimes do. It's possible that your "craziness" was one of his lesser worries, and there were other "red flags" that were "bigger", but he just used your possible craziness as the overall excuse. I dunno though. I wasn't there, and if your self-reflection didn't really result in any insights, I can't really help you any more than that. But I can commiserate with the experience. It sucks.

[Asker]

I mean he’s not the only person/ man who feels I’m a tad unstable but why talk and take me on a date if he felt that way

[JoePro_]

🤷🏽‍♂️

[NewgodOmega]

Have you ever thought that you might not be something he liked or wanted?
Think about it

[Asker]

I have and I know that I’m not

[NewgodOmega]

You know you are not?
Or you think you are not?

[Asker]

Both

[NewgodOmega]

You see you are again confused
Knowing is one thing
Thinking is another
you are not sure