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I've heard multiple men say this between high school and today. Cute women set off their nurturing instinct and make them more likely to date while sexy women only set off their sex drive and leave them with no attachment or desire to care for them.
Many men don't want relationships at all - and this includes the vast majority of the most attractive men (the men that most women want). These men only pursue women for casual sex, and generally, they are looking for women who mostly or only have sexuality to offer a man.
For the men who WANT relationships, they mostly want a relationship with a girl who is reasonably attractive (but she doesn't have to be exceptionally beautiful or anything - average is fine), but they want a girl with a good personality, attitude, morals, and values, and who has compatible life-goals. This is FAR more important than her looks or whether she is especially sexy.
There are a lot of women who don't have good personalities, attitudes, morals, or values, and those women really only have their sexuality to offer. And they know it, which is why they lead with their sexuality. Plenty of men are happy to use these women for casual sex, including both relationship men and non-relationship men, but few if any of them would consider them for a relationship. They might have really hot bodies, so the guy might enjoy banging her, but for most guys, this is a 15 minute experience, so he won't care how bad her personality or attitude is, as long as she's willing.
Too many women don't understand that just because they can attract higher-value guys with casual sex doesn't mean that she's on that man's level, because even though that HVM might sleep with her, he won't commit to a relationship with her. A woman's level is the man who will commit to her, not the man who will sleep with her, and there's usually a big gap between the two.
If you're looking for a real relationship, you need a lot more than a hot body - and having a hot body isn't all that important, actually. You need those other characteristics far more.
I'm allergic to what I consider "sexy" women but my subjective conception of the word is not something that we can tell from looks or even style. It's more about personality.
The women I tend to find "sexy" are the ones who are mysterious, seductive. The reason I've always been allergic to them for relationships is that both "mysterious" and "seductive" don't seem authentic to me.
A mysterious woman doesn't let me know much about who she is, so how can I appreciate anything more than her body when she keeps her true personality a mystery?
And very seductive women come across to me like they rehearsed their whole act. It's too smooth, too rehearsed, lacking the charming clumsiness of some degree of improvisation.
"Cute" is also more of a personality trait to me, and I tend to associate it with authenticity. Since anyone who is very authentic will generally have a goofy side to them if they don't hide it from the rest of the world, and I find that cute.
Reading through men's responses on this has been positive.
A woman can be cute and sexy at the same time
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u only insecure douchebags say stuff like this, not men...
men know very well that a woman can be cute, and beautiful, and sexy AF at the same time...
Seriously what is the exact definition of “cute”. Really? It seems like that such an amorphous ill-defined term. It’s not a bad thing.
But I know I would never describe a physically unattractive woman as “cute”. In fact any woman I would describe as “cute” I would definitely sleep with.
Personally I think it’s an intentionally vague compliment women use. I’ve had some women want to bang my brains out when they called me “cute”. Then I’ve had others use it as non sexual compliment.
But it is too ill defined. Virtually any guy would rather be called “cute” than creepy any day. But still what exactly does it mean?
Woman trying to present herself a sexy is almost always trouble of some kind. She’s probably a lot of drama. Now, there’s a certain kind of desperate sexiness that I think of more as “easy. “That’s different. I’m certainly willing to go to bed with “sexy “women
But do you know what’s sexier? A girl who is cute. Cute is sexy. Cute can be playful and inviting. That’s sexy. Cute can also be innocent and that is a challenge and very sexy.
Even if I’m not looking for a relationship but just a hook up, I’m always more attracted to a cute girl. It’s much more satisfying to look back on a sexual encounter with a cute girl. On the other hand, when I remember sexual encounters with women who were “sexy “they often feel sorted or you’ll advised.
Depends on what you mean by "care for." I don't want to have to coddle anyone. You can't cook ANYTHING? So I'm cooking every meal forever if we're together? No that's not going to work. You don't know how to drive so I have to chauffer everywhere? That's not going to work. You can be cute and dysfunctional and we can be friends. You can be sexy and dysfunctional and I can swap sweat with you, but neither of those are getting to relationship material, and I'm not going to "Care for you"... pretty much whatever that means, if we aren't at least to the relationship stage.
What's the difference between cute and sexy?
I prefer a woman with a cute face and mannerisms and a woman's body. Genuine and unpretentious. That is sexy.
I'm not even attracted to the kind of women like the one in the second photo. They seem self absorbed and probably insincere and manipulative.
I don't see why it has to be either/or. If a guy really loves a girl, he wants to take care of her, protect her, AND have sex with her, because physical attraction is a part of love, and is the "glue" that holds things together if everything else is there. I think it's all part of the same thing. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I never dated just to screw around. I was always looking for a relationship.
Yeah, I could definitely see you running into that sort of thing. But not every guy's gonna be like that. Also, "cute" vs "sexy" I feel is less of a looks thing and more of an attitude or personality thing. In other words if you say or do things to set the tone of the interaction to "sexy", it's not too shocking if the guy thinks of sex more than other things. But yeah, results may vary.
That's an interesting perspective, I tend to love getting to know a woman before I think ANYTHING sexual or a future relationship though, irrespective of looks!
Not really the way it works for me. My wife is both sexy, cute, and hot. she's also kind, sweet, intelligent, empathic, compassionate, and my best friend. I've never been with anyone hotter, cuter, sexier, or more beautiful than her.
Men prefer sex with any woman. It's just that "sexy" women, by definition, act more receptive to the idea.
Define cute, childish? Looks like school girl? Or what? And define sexy too. What kind of sexy?
I prefer cute nice girls. Women that cultivate a hot sexy image are really only interested in themselves and showing this by dressing for attention.
We like sex with cute nice girls. who is saying we don't cute nice girls sex?
I generally have a very negative view of women who go for the sexy look. Or the cute look for that matter. I'm attracted to women who are sexy and cute when they are just being themselves.
Honestly, I think most women today have lost sight of what a good man really wants.
Why nobody ever talk about pretty women though? What about them?
As what @NathanDavis said. People like a person and date them, no one in the real world even thinks about this stuff, well those that are long term single might.
I don't think so as cute can be sexy to whatever that individual man considers sexy.
I think most men are going to date or try to date the women they just like or fits them best.
I think most men would date and have sex with both cute and sexy women.
men prefer women for sex that they find sexually attractive. being cute is not mutually exclusive with being sexy.
I only like the cute ones, and have no interest in sex.
Cute and sexy women are overrated, I will take a normal, average looking woman or even a below average looking woman anyday.
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