Do men prefer to care for cute women but only have sex with sexy women?

[wolfcat87]

I've heard multiple men say this between high school and today. Cute women set off their nurturing instinct and make them more likely to date while sexy women only set off their sex drive and leave them with no attachment or desire to care for them.

Yes, men prefer relationships with cute women

It's even between dating both

No, men prefer relationships with sexy women

Other

[MrOracle]

Many men don't want relationships at all - and this includes the vast majority of the most attractive men (the men that most women want). These men only pursue women for casual sex, and generally, they are looking for women who mostly or only have sexuality to offer a man.

For the men who WANT relationships, they mostly want a relationship with a girl who is reasonably attractive (but she doesn't have to be exceptionally beautiful or anything - average is fine), but they want a girl with a good personality, attitude, morals, and values, and who has compatible life-goals. This is FAR more important than her looks or whether she is especially sexy.

There are a lot of women who don't have good personalities, attitudes, morals, or values, and those women really only have their sexuality to offer. And they know it, which is why they lead with their sexuality. Plenty of men are happy to use these women for casual sex, including both relationship men and non-relationship men, but few if any of them would consider them for a relationship. They might have really hot bodies, so the guy might enjoy banging her, but for most guys, this is a 15 minute experience, so he won't care how bad her personality or attitude is, as long as she's willing.

Too many women don't understand that just because they can attract higher-value guys with casual sex doesn't mean that she's on that man's level, because even though that HVM might sleep with her, he won't commit to a relationship with her. A woman's level is the man who will commit to her, not the man who will sleep with her, and there's usually a big gap between the two.

If you're looking for a real relationship, you need a lot more than a hot body - and having a hot body isn't all that important, actually. You need those other characteristics far more.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm allergic to what I consider "sexy" women but my subjective conception of the word is not something that we can tell from looks or even style. It's more about personality.

The women I tend to find "sexy" are the ones who are mysterious, seductive. The reason I've always been allergic to them for relationships is that both "mysterious" and "seductive" don't seem authentic to me.

A mysterious woman doesn't let me know much about who she is, so how can I appreciate anything more than her body when she keeps her true personality a mystery?

And very seductive women come across to me like they rehearsed their whole act. It's too smooth, too rehearsed, lacking the charming clumsiness of some degree of improvisation.

"Cute" is also more of a personality trait to me, and I tend to associate it with authenticity. Since anyone who is very authentic will generally have a goofy side to them if they don't hide it from the rest of the world, and I find that cute.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

So generally I find the "cute" ones (or more specifically the ones I perceive as "authentic", since authenticity always comes across to me as cute) the keepers. "Sexy" ones (that is to say, mysterious, seductive) aren't my type.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It's a similar problem to me with shy women. I'm allergic to them since they don't let me know who they are. What else is there to appreciate besides mostly their body in that case? So I think shy women are "sexy" but not very "cute".

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@GuyAnswersGirls123
You're a very complicated man 😂😂😂

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb I think I'm simple but my way of articulating it might be a bit convoluted. I find I'm the ultimate oddball among my male buddies with my tastes in women. 😅

A simple way to understand it is that I tend to become deeply attracted to women through engaging conversations that establish a deep sense of mutual understanding. So I'm allergic to mysterious and reserved women as the epitome of what I want to avoid, since the quality of someone being mysterious is completely antithetical to mutual understanding.

Shy women can gradually open up as they get to know a person, and it's possible if I was hypothetically a bachelor for me to become deeply attracted to one if we start out as friends first for a good while and she does start becoming a completely open book to me. Yet there's no way I'd date her before she becomes a completely open book to me because I couldn't become so attracted to her until she does.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

So basically you prefer personality over looks.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb That always confused me since I consider to be a part of someone's personality.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb It makes no sense to me to see looks and personality as independent of each other, so to speak. I see them as highly interdependent. Like someone's personality is going to affect the way they dress, their body language, their lifestyle, health, fitness, fertility, the way they look when walk, the way they look when they talk, etc. So I think the majority of what a person communicates to us when we look at them is their personality.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

It doesn't determine their breasts and butt size and whether or not they have a lopsided face.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb I generally don't mind those variations although I still consider them a part of our personality and overall capabilities; the physical and mental are interdependent from my perspective. For example, probably one of the reasons I have a nerdy software engineering job and nerdy interests despite having started being the ultimate jock and extrovert is that I have dust mite allergies. That always made me a bit shy when I'd have sneezing fits and puffy eyes so I started to favor indoor activities like programming video games and reading books when I was having those allergic fits until I recovered.

There are women I find more visually appealing from a compositional standpoint, like they excite me about the prospect of drawing or painting them. Yet they aren't governing preferences to me for a lifelong companion for whom my top priority is deep mutual understanding and interesting conversations.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@PrettyCrumblBb I don't understand this view like our brains are independent of our cognitive and mental functions, as though we could transport our brains or consciousness into new bodies with a completely different endocrinology, for example, and still think the same. I'm of the view that it'd radically change our thinking and behavioral patterns. So I think the body is a fundamental part of someone's personality.

If we consider personality completely independent of the body, then I think anyone claiming to only care about personality would have to be bisexual.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

* I don't understand this view like our [bodies, sorry] are independent of our cognitive and mental functions [...]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm the polar opposite of someone with body dysmorphia, for example, who sees the mind and body as divorced from each other. I'm as extreme of the opposite as it gets since I see the body and mind as one inseparable bundle, so complexly intertwined with each other that I can't tell you where one begins and the other ends in terms of the impact they have on each other.

[A_Bell]

Reading through men's responses on this has been positive.

[Apple1996]

A woman can be cute and sexy at the same time

[Paul_in_Indy]

Absolutely! “Cute “is sexy in a special way. On the other hand, trying to be “sexy “is very rarely cute. I prefer cute as sexy

[Rosexøxø]

@Apple1996 thisss, so true.

[handsomelad70]

@Paul_in_Indy I think most of us lads prefer sexy lasses. Cute seems like your pretty younger sister rather than a chick you'd love to bop.

[NathanDavis]

only insecure douchebags say stuff like this, not men...

men know very well that a woman can be cute, and beautiful, and sexy AF at the same time...

[Keyboardkat]

Yes!!!

[blueonblack22]

Seriously what is the exact definition of “cute”. Really? It seems like that such an amorphous ill-defined term. It’s not a bad thing.

But I know I would never describe a physically unattractive woman as “cute”. In fact any woman I would describe as “cute” I would definitely sleep with.

Personally I think it’s an intentionally vague compliment women use. I’ve had some women want to bang my brains out when they called me “cute”. Then I’ve had others use it as non sexual compliment.

But it is too ill defined. Virtually any guy would rather be called “cute” than creepy any day. But still what exactly does it mean?

[Hardshell1234]

Cute can be a personality thing but it’s usually a combination of looks and personality if I call a guy cute. And yes, if I think a guy is cute I am attracted to him, sexually.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Woman trying to present herself a sexy is almost always trouble of some kind. She’s probably a lot of drama. Now, there’s a certain kind of desperate sexiness that I think of more as “easy. “That’s different. I’m certainly willing to go to bed with “sexy “women

But do you know what’s sexier? A girl who is cute. Cute is sexy. Cute can be playful and inviting. That’s sexy. Cute can also be innocent and that is a challenge and very sexy.

Even if I’m not looking for a relationship but just a hook up, I’m always more attracted to a cute girl. It’s much more satisfying to look back on a sexual encounter with a cute girl. On the other hand, when I remember sexual encounters with women who were “sexy “they often feel sorted or you’ll advised.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Depends on what you mean by "care for." I don't want to have to coddle anyone. You can't cook ANYTHING? So I'm cooking every meal forever if we're together? No that's not going to work. You don't know how to drive so I have to chauffer everywhere? That's not going to work. You can be cute and dysfunctional and we can be friends. You can be sexy and dysfunctional and I can swap sweat with you, but neither of those are getting to relationship material, and I'm not going to "Care for you"... pretty much whatever that means, if we aren't at least to the relationship stage.

[Lliam]

What's the difference between cute and sexy?
I prefer a woman with a cute face and mannerisms and a woman's body. Genuine and unpretentious. That is sexy.

I'm not even attracted to the kind of women like the one in the second photo. They seem self absorbed and probably insincere and manipulative.

[Lewis12]

I love cute girls because of the town I grew up in and it's lack of any. I had only seen one girl who wore a skirt in my entire primary school. Women were mainly scruffy and wore tracksuit bottom and they were likely to hit me in the balls extremely hard and kick me in the balls with boots on. But I moved somewhere else and I was in awe! I met attractive women and I had been stroked in my privates and gently masturbated off a cute girl. I wasn't used to it but I'm still wary of a proper relationship with a girl because I was abused by a girl in my past.

[HowardStern]

Hello, did you cried when they kicked you?

[Lewis12]

@HowardStern yeah it was kicked by my friend in the park and she had boots on! I was crying for hours and hours. And the other times I was kicked or hit there were all painful and I was always in agony on the floor and I was crying a lot of the times

[quetimporta]

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[quetimporta]

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[Keyboardkat]

I don't see why it has to be either/or. If a guy really loves a girl, he wants to take care of her, protect her, AND have sex with her, because physical attraction is a part of love, and is the "glue" that holds things together if everything else is there. I think it's all part of the same thing. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I never dated just to screw around. I was always looking for a relationship.

[sukumamu]

Yeah, I could definitely see you running into that sort of thing. But not every guy's gonna be like that. Also, "cute" vs "sexy" I feel is less of a looks thing and more of an attitude or personality thing. In other words if you say or do things to set the tone of the interaction to "sexy", it's not too shocking if the guy thinks of sex more than other things. But yeah, results may vary.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's an interesting perspective, I tend to love getting to know a woman before I think ANYTHING sexual or a future relationship though, irrespective of looks!

[worldscolide]

Not really the way it works for me. My wife is both sexy, cute, and hot. she's also kind, sweet, intelligent, empathic, compassionate, and my best friend. I've never been with anyone hotter, cuter, sexier, or more beautiful than her.

[normalice]

Men prefer sex with any woman. It's just that "sexy" women, by definition, act more receptive to the idea.

[Rosexøxø]

Have to agree with this

[alice55]

Why nobody ever talk about pretty women though? What about them?

[Mariena_Anne92]

Define cute, childish? Looks like school girl? Or what? And define sexy too. What kind of sexy?

[RavVid]

I prefer cute nice girls. Women that cultivate a hot sexy image are really only interested in themselves and showing this by dressing for attention.

We like sex with cute nice girls. who is saying we don't cute nice girls sex?

[RavVid]

don't give cute nice girls sex

[Anonymous]

I generally have a very negative view of women who go for the sexy look. Or the cute look for that matter. I'm attracted to women who are sexy and cute when they are just being themselves.

Honestly, I think most women today have lost sight of what a good man really wants.

[RebelinSteel]

As what @NathanDavis said. People like a person and date them, no one in the real world even thinks about this stuff, well those that are long term single might.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't think so as cute can be sexy to whatever that individual man considers sexy.

I think most men are going to date or try to date the women they just like or fits them best.

[Jerre]

I think most men would date and have sex with both cute and sexy women.

[Jerre]

@wolfcat87 Thank you for the Like

[genericname85]

men prefer women for sex that they find sexually attractive. being cute is not mutually exclusive with being sexy.

[82lynx]

I only like the cute ones, and have no interest in sex.

[elaphe]

I think cute IS sexy. I would much prefer the "natural" look of the first girl than the "sexy" look of the second.

[garykingg]

Cute and sexy women are overrated, I will take a normal, average looking woman or even a below average looking woman anyday.

[RossyBoi]

Men aren't interested in women for sex or dating, they just want to be friends.

[JayBones]

Yes. I'm married almost 20 years to a cute woman. But I can't even cum fucking this boring ass slag.

[Cazaputas]

Slut woman for sex, submissive woman for long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

Then i hope i am sexy cause i do not care about relationships 💀 all i want is some dick

[BlissfullyCurSed]

Why did that make me laugh so hard?🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

Hahahah glad you found it funny

[laly520]

eh depends on the guy in question

[tasqueen]

Man wants girls no matter what they are

[DreamLife7]

Girl 🤦🏼‍♀️ where is your father? At your age asking questions like this is concerning

[wolfcat87]

First, he's DEAD. So, rude. Where's your father with you asking insensitive questions lacking any tact at your age?

Second, all men aren't one man, so why would I not ask the site about something multiple men have said? That's called balanced research, and scientists do it every day.

[wolfcat87]

Also, aren't you on here constantly making statements even worse than this? ...

[DreamLife7]

My father taught me common sense , to love and respect myself. Still this is like common sense. It's like you ladies don't have brains. Just airheads

[NewgodOmega]

Men dont care about any women

[Jennz6]

Both

[888theGreat]

Cute for both

[Mediterraneansoul]

Feminine is the key 🔑 to men.

[BLP11520]

The first woman is more attractive