How soon into dating someone do you want to know or should they disclose their deep or dark secrets to you?

[Anonymous]

How soon after you start dating someone should they or would you want to know their deep or dark secrets like previous or current alcohol/drug abuse, serious health issues, a wild past, a criminal history, financial issues, etc...

[OlderAndWiser]

Around date seven, Helen knew that I had been suspecting something was a bit different about her and she finally told me that she had a confession to make: it turns out, she is actually Chinese. I KNEW it! I took that all in stride and since I responded in such a non-judgmental manner and accepting, it made it easier for her to confess, a few dates later, an even more startling confession: she is also short.

[PeachyPie93]

I want everything on the table basically before we become committed. I hate having feelings for someone I am supposed to accept if I really don't want to. This why one of my first questions to a guy is body count. Some really don't like that question but IDGAF, I'm asking so if you don't answer we both already got our answer lol. Then I ask do you do ONS, have you been with prostitutes. Then if I don't agree with their morals and life style we both know that we really don't want to know each other further and we can move on quickly.

[Biancam13]

Only if (1) it's relevant to our relationship or will affect our relationship and (2) they feel willing, comfortable or ready to share with me.

They don't need to share anything they don't want to, unless it will affect our relationship in some way.

[Finchie40]

The second they want to be in a committed relationship with me

[HawkPerception]

To be honest, I hate hiding things at the start. If there's anything they want to know, I'll share it, unless it's something like my account logins, but I'm basically an open book. I hate it when people are secretive.

[dustybiker2]

Depends. Some people you just click with out of the gate. I was talking to a guy in a bike shop today. And he told me three of them in just under an hour. lol

[EDR44]

I think the sooner the better so you know exactly what your getting yourself into. I like when people are honest and real at the start which makes things much easier.

[bobalife]

Curious, but it’s important to build trust and if they decided to disclose whenever they’re ready/comfortable.

[RebelinSteel]

I really don’t care what they want to share, it’s their past and it is when they are ready or not.

[Anonymous]

The only deep dark secret on that list is the wild past. Everything else just looks like things someone your you’re in a relationship should know about.

[Asker]

The question was how soon into dating someone, so, you aren't in a serious relationship just yet so how would they know without someone telling the other or finding out on their own, and it's deep OR dark secrets, because some secrets aren't dark but they can affect a budding relationship.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Only when they are ready to share such things. Its never about me wanting to know, but whether or not I can help by them talking about it!

[CallmeTheKnight]

That’s usually when the commitment is made.
However, if you have dark secrets then perhaps you should consider the possibility that trouble is bound to happen due to that

[Anonymous]

Depends on the secret. It could be the first date, it could be long after. Either way it's up to her. And I reserve the right to feel she was deliberately hiding it if she takes too long.😉👍

[KostasKouvalis]

They should do that BEFORE they start dating you, when you're still just friends

[JayBones]

Never. Half the people in this world don't care about your problems and the other half are happy you have them.

[JesseP1nk]

"dark secrets" I dont open to anyone. Like the quote says "three can keep a secret if two are dead"

[Wwwyzzerdd]

I like how there's the presumption I go on dates.

[Fireguy17]

when they want to if ever.

[laly520]

they will when they r ready

[Jamie05rhs]

Make them tell you that shit upfront.

[serious_miss419]

When it feels natural.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Y'all have deep dark secrets?

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Ideally, prior to marriage.

[whistlingwh0res]

sooner the better

[whistlingwh0res]

Nobody is perfect

[MikeTheBartender]

Never.