Do you tell someone you don’t want to date as soon as you realize you didn’t shy to or do you wait to make sure?

[VIVANT]

I do it immediately but I notice many people drag it out “to be nice” honestly it’s so ridiculous in my opinion 😂

I do wonder how many people who are ‘afraid to be honest bc they do not want to hurt someone’. would want their own time wasted and in the most condescending way on top of it all.. such hideous combination.

Maybe we should impairment dishonesty tax 😛

I like to be honest but I do hesitate to tell someone bad news

I am honest as soon as I know and I’d want the same courtesy

It really depends on the situation

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[Lliam]

I for sure would want to know right away if I didn't have a shot at "dating". Dating meaning having a goal of a romantic relationship.

And I wouldn't date someone who I couldn't see myself being romantic with. So, if a girl that I wasn't into had a crush on me and tried to ask me out on something that sounded like a date, I would politely decline. I'd let her know that I wasn't interested in her in that way. I had to do that several times in my life and I've had it happen to me.

[VIVANT]

Same here 💯

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sometimes I can come out and tell them the truth, or I just remain friends with them and see if they make the move

[VIVANT]

Yeah it can be difficult. Unfortunately.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@VIVANT Yes, I agree.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[midnightmoon05]

when I used to be in the dating market…

I can tell if there is attraction within one date. And tell them right away.
I have giving a guy 2 dates
another guy 4 dates.
All should have just told them after the first.
but people kept saying give them another chance…I did…. still same result.

[VIVANT]

Good of you to not waste their time 😌

[Anonymous]

I say it like they just offered me a soda, "oh no thank you" and leave it at that.

[VIVANT]

Perfect 👍🏼

[Billlewis]

I love these how to discussions for women who want to know the best ways to reject a guy:)

[VIVANT]

No lol this was me just curious about human beings habits 😊

[humanearth]

But when I was your age. I was a big chicken shit.

They had to break it off with me, because back then I had no guts

[VIVANT]

Dammmmm that sucks so bad 😂 but I’m glad you don’t have to do that anymore 😅

[humanearth]

You couldn't tell my 18 -20 years self with today's self

You would think I was a different person.

Goes to show living a hard life can do to a person personality

.. in real life I'm kinda like I am on here. But I push the buttons of real life moderators.

Like say the law says I need to have car insurance. No me, I get a ticket and I fight it court saying it unconstitutional

I win 90% of the time. .

[VIVANT]

My neighbor is the same!! But he loses 😢

[MementoMori777]

Sometimes i love hurtibg peoples feelings 🙂

I'm just playin 😂

[VIVANT]

I don't know 😂 I can see the appeal…I guess it can be satisfying for a moment if they are an enormous unbelievably unwashed a$$hole piece of 💩 💦

but in general, I do hate hurting people and even in the case of a jerk, I don’t like wounding people when they are down. It requires extreme evil for me to hurt someone intentionally.

[MementoMori777]

Personally if someone is being and asshole Vivant, I like to see it as a consequence if I hurt their feelings cause it is, next time they will think of talking shit to someone 😂

[VIVANT]

I agree I do & you’re right, they really do need to be out in their place but I hate seeing people hurt so it only feels good until they look wrecked then I feel terrible 😂

But yeah I ought to see it as a social service

[MementoMori777]

Maybe to a certain point but as long as you have limits and don't keep bullying them after they fall apart then I think it's good for them at the end of the day, I like when they stop responding lol

[VIVANT]

lol yes that’s always lovely 🥰

[MementoMori777]

Lol.

[VIVANT]

Lol 😁😁

[MysticDevice]

I used to hesitate but now its immediate. I'd hate to waste both of our time with "what ifs" and "maybe's"

[VIVANT]

Well done, it’s for the best 👍🏼

[AmeerX]

Not a date but there was this objectively ugly girl in my class. She tried to seduce me. I couldn't tell her honestly I don't like her. In the end, I just blocked her from contact when we graduated

[Anonymous]

No. I always assume they don't want to date so it's not really an issue to me.😆

[VIVANT]

😕🙁

[Opinion Owner]

Why the frowny face? It's just usually a safe bet.

[RealMarek]

I would let the other person know as soon as I realized it.

[Kelly6]

I tell as soon as o can

dont want to waste time.