Would you reject someone who smokes or does it depend on what they smoke?

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Me and this guy were vibing on Christmas eve. Then he started bragging about pot brownies and how he needs them several days of the week to get by. I was extremely turned off so i rejected his offer to further get to know eachother. I told him i hold weed to the same length as smoking cigarettes, cigars, blacks, hookah, vape, etc. He was like “but i dont even smoke it, I only eat it. And we vibe so well, how can you let such a thing affect what we had going?” I told him it was quite early in the day and i hardly knew him just yet and had no problem stopping it there. I also told him, i broke up with an ex for it after he started up.
Then i told him he sounded pretty dependent on what I (along with very few others) consider a drug. He agreed and said he felt addicted despite what other smokers deny. He also said he’d spare me the “bullshit benefits of
weed” that many smokers discuss with those who dont support the habit. He was a very cool guy but had no intentions of ever leaving it behind. I just dont want to date someone who needs to be intoxicated to become/remain happy and hype. I want someone whos a natural.
As for you, would you reject someone for smoking or does it depend on what they smoke?
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CuddlyCarla · Accepted Answer

This is a tough one. I try to be live and let live. Maybe it would depend on how much of a smoker they were. I am a lot more flexible when it's a casual or once-in-a-while thing than if it were an addiction. I lost half my family to cigarette smoking, they were all heavy smokers who died young from smoking-related illnesses. It sucked losing a parent and grandparents so young. So for me, there's a strong emotional trigger around smoking. I also think how a person approaches it matters. I dated a smoker once, and he wore a F*CK OFF I SMOKE shirt around me and it just felt so disrespectful, especially in light of my family history.

With pot, I'm also more flexible if dating someone that does it socially or once in a blue moon vs more serious habit. I dated someone who lied to me about it and it was only towards the end of the relationship that he told me that it was a daily thing he did by himself and he had been hiding it. The lies definitely were more offensive than the act, but either way I was at an age where I didn't find daily use of substances cute or attractive. Moderation is one thing but using any kind of drug every day was too much for me to be ok with, and the lies were really what killed relationship in more than anything.

diamonddreams · Accepted Answer

Yes

Call me narrow minded if you wish, but I don’t like being around the smoke or even the lingering smell of tobacco smoke or pot or any other substance. Regular smokers would reek of the smell constantly, and I’d have to accommodate their habit.

It also indicates that they not only don’t care about their own health, they also don’t care enough about me to protect my health.

horsenrhinounicorn · Accepted Answer

If a person is a federal employee in the USA, the smell of the contents of Marijuana can compromise ones job. There are other employers that may have the same scenario. I don’t want my house smelling like smoke or marijuana. Whether the brownies create a smell, I dont know, but what I do know is I dont want my clothes smelling like it. Foster care and daycare jobs will be questioned as well. For tobacco I have an allergic reaction so that is out of the question as well. The other issue I have discovered in the past is the electronics at work got contaminated from cigarette smoke and marijuana, the backup systems were also compromised. So based on that experience and having to repair them I do not want to have to have that scenario again. I believe that a person should be treated fairly regardless of the choices they make, but these scenarios would not be allowed in my home or car since it will compromise my life decisions.

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

I refuse to have someone in my life who is stupid enough to constantly inhale toxic poisons, and is so oblivious to the effects of it. Here is the reality of the matter. A woman can be a perfect 10 appearance wise, the moment she lights up she goes from hot to the crypt keeper in my eyes.

The following image is how i see both men and women who smoke, Especially since there is literally no reason for it... Fucking gross.

Would you reject someone who smokes or does it depend on what they smoke?

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

While I don't like smokers of cigarettes. I think you were too quick to judge this guy. How do you know he doesn't have a medical need for dosing with cannabis? I think you have a negative outlook on cannabis and the truth is more people support it than you realize. Which would you rather have an alcoholic or a cannabis user?

hahahmm · Answer

If everything else about her is great I wouldn't reject her for smoking cigs. It's not ideal tho. Weed or hardcore drugs? Wouldn't be interested in that. There's way too many bad possibilities like 1.) She's friends with drug dealers who bring you into a drug war situation, 2.) Her drug dealing friends think her or you snitched which is a death sentence & yeah I've seen it happen to people, 3.) Cops confiscate your property because her drugs were around, 4. She steals to feed her habit, 5. She whores herself out to pay for her habit.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Things I don't mind if she smokes:
1. Meats (including my meat, if you know what I mean lol)
2. Weed (as long as it's not a problem, it's not a problem. But daily?)
3. Fools on the racetrack
4. vape pen, if that even counts

Things I will reject a person for smoking:
1. Meth
2. Crack
3. Nicotine. It's just too nasty, because of the smell, and they way their mouth tastes.

That's more or less the list. Smoking drugs is bad, but a little weed is fine by me, just don't be a loser about it.

ZackBan · Answer

I would reject someone's who's a prisoner of a detremental addiction not the smoking itself but needing it like some sort of medicine.

I've gone out with smokers iven though I myself barely get a taste once or twice a year, and they didn't bother me much except for one girl I was hooking up with and she'd sleep over. She would wake up in the middle of the night to smoke which woke me up too but I kept seeing her since the vibe was on and the sex was amazing still it ended on good terms a while later but still ended nonetheless

Shark_61695 · Answer

Not a fan of cigs but I like smoking weed. I'm an addict of many things but I don't generally have a problem giving up.

I'd prefer not to, affordability is the main reason I give up. I like the feeling, it slows my mind, stops too many thoughts running through my head and let's me relax.

I'm good at giving up, as much as I get easily addicted, weed, alcohol, food, shitty computer games and many others, quitting is generally easy with a desire to do so.

The main reason I don't like smoking is it smells... and it's expensive. Ok, the two reasons I don't like smoking are the smell, cost and time taken to roll a spliff... The three reasons I don't like smoking are smell, cost, time taken to prep and a tendency to quote Monty Python...

General apathy is better than specifically hating my existence: )

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure actually.
I personally don't smoke but in here almost everyone does.

You go to Maccies (McDonald's) and see a 12 year old girl gathered up with her friends smoking weed.

If I'd bet how many times when going out I end up smelling that weed smell I'd be a
billionaire (not millionaire but billionaire).

When, they deliver something and open the door the smell floods the place and slaps your face. Worse, is that a lot of times there's kids in there being exposed to those substances.

So, I kinda got used to the idea of people smoking. A lot of my colleagues do, though I wouldn't since it's not healthy and brings more prejudices than benefits.

NHI2017 · Answer

Idc what they do,

A girl could eat cartons of cigarettes and im fine with it,

idc if she smokes weed. Just as long she's not high 24/7.
weekends, Or occasionally idc,
Just keep it classy And not all the time.

girls smokeing never bothered me

ElvenMr · Answer

If she is addicted to any kind of drugs (soft or hard), that's a big turn off for me.
I don't want have children (or just be in a relationship) with someone who smokes or does drugs.

Smoking (cigarettes), i just can't stand it at all.. why do even girls smoke nowadays? It's disgusting and can make a hot/cute girl into trashy whore style real quick in my eyes.

The only soft drug i'm okayish with is if she drinks alcohol sometimes, but she is not an alcoholic. I would still prefer her not to drink at all by the way.., because we can have fun without having to drink too.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Smoking, of any kind, is a solid deal breaker for me. Hard pass.

My dad smokes. My brother smokes. Obviously I love them and don't plan to write them out of my life. They're my family. But I will not involve myself romantically with someone who smokes. I don't care if it's cigarettes, vape pens, weed, etc.

We can be friends but I won't pursue a romantic relationship with them.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When someone smokes that is a turn-off for me, I stopped the habit 6 months ago and I have no intentions of starting up again, It is a filthy habit and so many of my family have passed away due to smoking Kent cigarettes and reading online them smokes contain asbestos my late maternal grand-dad he had 2 throat cancer operations back in the '70s he survived it then went back to be a Deputy Sheriff but in 1995 he started developing cancer that is what took him in Aug 1996

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

If they regularly smoke 2 days a week it's a no no. I don't like cigarette mouth and weed gets annoying to smell all the time.

Vaping is cool, but so many people that have vapes just start developing daily or boredom habits which is also a turn off. Edibles can be fun but if they are doing them on a weekly basis it'd not very fun and leaves you useless all day.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I really hate smoking and find it to be very unattractive and rather gross.
I would not be able to be with someone that smokes.

The smell of it alone is enough for me to get away.

It was bad enough when my first boyfriend's parents smoked...

Kate090 · Answer

Yes I would because smoking isn’t healthy and I want to share my life with someone who tries to be healthy like me. I also don’t want my house, clothes and other things smelling like tobacco and whatever other substance like pot. I want my partner and I to be good examples for our kids and for our family to grow in a healthy smoke free environment.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I won’t date someone who smokes cigarettes or vapes because it’s a huge health hazard for them and myself so I wouldn’t be down with it. However weed? It’s on how often they did it. I’m pro weed but it’s good in moderation. Be responsible about it and I wouldn’t mind but they smell and the taste is not something I’m exactly fond of either

MossyMan · Answer

I wouldn't reject someone for smoking tobacco.
But I would definitely reject someone who does weed regularly.

Everyone I know who smokes regularly is a bum.
Sure, they may not be killing people or themselves, but they sure as hell don't have a stable career and meaningful life goals.
They spend most of the time going "friiiend! .. hey, listen I need a favor bro".

No thanks.

t-8900 · Answer

You did the right thing. Needing it to get by? That's an addiction. Since I quit smoking by the way the smell of smoke makes me want to hurl. It smells like literal death to me now. You want kids and you want a good example of a father for those kids. You also don't need to compromise your principles for no one. If you need to then it's not the right person
It's honestly that simple.

libsaretards · Answer

I cannot stand smoking of any kind. I'm not against legalizing weed, but I would not date someone who smokes, whether it is weed, cigarettes or anything like that. I've never liked it and it is an instant turn-off to me because it shows you do not value your health.

Anpu23 · Answer

My son is in contestant pain. He uses marijuana for chronic pain control. It's not that he couldn't get other medication but he wants to avoid opioids. It really comes down to why they use any drug. I don't consider, say, insulin a turn off nor would I some mood stabilizers. Etc. So no its not a deal breaker.

Mehzmeh · Answer

I can understand all those things except the weed. Because, weed is a natural medicine. It can help with so many thing’s. I just wish people open their minds up more about it. And did their research.

Sorry, I am an advocate because it helped me with my cancer both times. It literally saved my life.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I used to smoke weed before (heavily), but I realized that all the guys I attracted were shitty because I had that habit.
I got sober and found the nicest guys who were also sober.
So, yes, I would reject a guy who smokes anything or drinks heavily. I want someone who is sober (bro only drinks on special occasion).

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