Agree or disagree: people should only have standards they themselves can meet?

[JHAYES317]

For example:
If a woman is fat, she shouldn’t expect to date much skinnier men
If a woman is short, she shouldn’t expect to date much taller men
If a woman is poor, she shouldn’t expect to date much richer men

Also,
If a man is bald, he shouldn’t expect to date women with good hair
If a man has a small dick, he shouldn’t expect to date a woman with a aesthetic vagina
If a man is ugly, he shouldn’t expect to date a pretty girl

Because it’s hypocritical to require something out of others that your yourself don’t live up to…

[AaronKrieger]

Sure, but most of the things you mentioned do not matter, as they're highly superficial and subjective. Most people do not think of it that way when dating in real life.

You are just overcomplicating it. If you put effort into your appearance and have chemistry with them, then they'll be interested. It is usually that simple for the initial dating period. People remember you by how you made them feel.

[NewgodOmega]

Tell that to women, all women on this planet arw 10s and all men are 0s
As for myself I have no standards coz I am extreme mgtow I ain't looking I am not looking for friendship with guys I onky talk about business with guys if it ain't money I am not interested

[TheSpaceGnome]

Weight can be lost or gained after a relationship starts, and people have different weight preferences in regards to attraction. People who are overweight should get to a healthy weight before dating at all though, as their SO should at least know what they actually look like. So I see this more as only skinny enough people are ready to date, and overweight people that are already in a relationship should be helped back to being skinny by their partner, not abandoned.

I used to think height doesn't matter in dating, that each height had its benefits, but apparantly taller people on average age faster/die younger, so shorter women now feel more appealing to me from a fear of death standpoint. People may be better off in most cases dating people of the same height for lifespan reasons, but I think because other factors can affect lifespan, there are also going to be cases where a height missmatch makes sense.

Money can be gained or lost at any time and should not impact choice, I'd rather she joined me in my businesss venture anyway.

Dick size should match vagina size/comfort level, I've actually had a few women ask my size, then tell me I'm too big, saying it would hurt. As far as aesthetics on either genitals go, they are going to be fairly subjective as to what looks better depending on who you ask, i've seen some men on here say they prefer long inner lips, I prefer them hidden behind an uncircumsized "cameltoe" outer lips.

Balding in humans is caused by disease, some women prefer bald men, some prefer men with very long thick hair, some prefer beards and others prefer no facial hair, so thats a complex matter thats very one sided, as pretty much no men like bald women or bearded women, and almost no women have balding heads or beards.

Ugly vs attractive is often highly subjective for specific traits and objective for others, so cases will exist where what I percieve as an attractive woman might not be atttractive to looking to another guy, and vice versa. A good example of this is body shape preferences, guy 1 prefering bigger boobs and a small butt, whereas guy 2 might want the inverse. Another example is cute vs sophisticated looking, or nose/eye/ear/face shapes, or even preferences in hair color, or freckles being absent or present. Pickiness is a thing.

I think its more that both people have to find what they want in a partner.

[Billlewis]

No, I don't think that's a good idea at all. If a woman who weighs 250 pounds has 5-10 guys asking her to go out with them at any given time, there is obviously a discrepancy between the supply and demand for her affections, which therefore renders your argument null and void.

[Lowiu]

No people can have any standard but can't complain if other have theirs too and if you reduce your dating pool to 0 by your standards thats your fault

[JHAYES317]

@Lowiu obviously people CAN, but my point is people SHOULDN’T have standards they can’t meet themselves as that’s hypocritical

[Lowiu]

I think people should have the standards they want no matter what someone else tells them

[JHAYES317]

@Lowiu I mean technically due to freedom of speech you can say whatever you want but that doesn’t mean you won’t get canceled if you use a racial slur. So you can technically make up whatever criteria you want for who you’re gonna date but that doesn’t mean you are except from backlash…so my point is if you want to avoid the backlash and not come across as entitled…meet you own standards.

[Lowiu]

But why would I fake to have different standards if in the end internally Im gonna stick to the ones I truly feel for anyways like then I can also be honest

[JHAYES317]

@Lowiu because standards aren’t real lol they are just random projections of things you find attractive, but just cause you find something attractive doesn’t mean it’s realistic to pursue it. Like I’m sure most women find Henry Cavill attractive, but realistically most of them have no chance in hell with a man like that…

[Lowiu]

But why should a woman who is only attracted to henry cavill date a man who is not him if she is not gonna be happy with him?

[JHAYES317]

@Lowiu because otherwise she would die alone. There’s a point where common sense has to override fantasy

[Lowiu]

Is it better to be alone or in an unhappy relationship?

[JHAYES317]

@Lowiu if you tie all your standards to looks you will eventually end up in an unhappy relationship regardless because even Henry Cavill will look old someday