I've talked to many situationships but they ended up nothing. I tried to put effort in but not too much so that they don't seem desperate although they showed interest in me first. They didn't put that much efforts like Asians guy do and it makes me disappointed to find love in the US. Mostly it is just about hookups friends with benefits, I tried to get out of these thoughts but it keeps repeating. Irl, barely guys approach me although I get compliments some times and I really ask myself what is wrong with me a lot. I don't do hookups ever
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Why is it so hard to fell in love with American guys? especially the young ones, I think I'm considered pretty but not like very very pretty?
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Aww, don't be so hard on yourself sis! There's nothing wrong with you at all.
Dating in the US can definitely be challenging, especially with younger guys. A lot of them just aren't looking for the same things we are. Hookup culture here makes it easy for them to get casual without committing.
But please try not to take it personally - it says way more about their immaturity than you. You seem like such a catch - you know what you want and you stick to your values, which is so admirable!
Keep putting yourself out there by trying new activities/groups. It just takes meeting the right guy. Also don't be afraid to show your interest clearly when you like someone. American guys can be clueless, lol.
And stay confident - I know how beautiful you are inside and out! Hold your head high. The right loving relationship will come, just focus on enjoying your life now too. My DMs are always open if you need support or want advice on what works with American men. Keep shining, girl!
Thank you for your sweet advice! I showed interest when I like someone but yup all of them rejected🥲
You’re welcome 😊 Aw man that sucks, I'm sorry to hear they rejected you! Some guys can really be idiots. Their loss, seriously. You showing interest takes guts, so props to you for putting yourself out there. Don't let it get you down - easier said than done, I know. Maybe take a little break from dating for now if it's got you feeling down. Do stuff you enjoy and hang with friends, that always cheers me up when I'm feeling rejected.
You'll find someone eventually who sees how awesome you are. Keep being your fun, outgoing self. Someone's bound to come along who appreciates that! And it's not like you're doing anything wrong by showing you like a guy. We're the ones gotta step up our game if we want a girl as cool as you! Just give it some time, don't lose hope. You'll have better luck meeting someone when you're having fun and not focusing so much on dating, if that makes sense. Hang in there!
American men are almost as entitled as the women, in my opinion.
I hate that all of them keep playing push and pull games