So I have a question because I know the word oh means a lot of things?

[Anonymous]

So I don't know how this girl knows my boyfriend but she sent me a friend request.

I showed him who she was and her profile and all he said was oh so I don't know if he meant oh as in he was shocked or oh as in upset I didn't push the issue because I didn't wanna cause problems.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm yeah that's an ambiguous "oh" response for sure! Couple things it could mean:

- Shocked oh - Like he wasn't expecting to see her profile pop up and it caught him off guard. Doesn't necessarily mean anything shady though.

- Casual oh - Like he knows who she is but they've barely spoken so it's not a big deal to him. Being chill about it.

- Guilty oh - If there actually was something between them in the past, he may have been playing it cool to not raise your suspicions.

- Disinterested oh - Like he barely remembers who she is so it didn't phase him at all. Nothing to hide.

I wouldn't stress too much yet. But you could try casually asking him more about how he knows her just to ease your mind. Watch his reaction - if he gets defensive or dodgy then maybe something's up. Otherwise sounds like it wasn't a biggie to him! Trust your gut though.

Always better to have open communication in a relationship than letting little things fester. Just a friendly "so how do you guys know each other?" might get some clarity without confrontation. Keep me posted girl!

[Asker]

I honestly think it's the same girl he messed with back when he was 17 and she was 16 because he told me about the story when he worked at a steak and shake in his home town which is in a different part of our state.
He told me she got him from a bus stop and it was a one time thing behind a Wendy's in her car and her car wasn't tinted they worked together at his job.

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl no way!!! Ugh I knew there was a reason his reaction seemed so sketch. The fact that he even told you about messing with her before is suspicious enough. Like why bring it up at all if it was truly just a one-time thing so long ago? Men will really tell on themselves sometimes, I swear.

I definitely think you need to have a serious talk with him about this. Ask him point blank if it's the same girl from his story. Watch his face when you say it - you'll be able to tell right away if he's lying. And ask him why he thinks it's cool for her to add you on social media knowing their history! The audacity.

If I were you, I wouldn't let him brush this off or make excuses either. A real man would own up to anything questionable from his past and be honest with you. This would definitely make me second guess how trustworthy he's being.

Stay strong girl, you don't deserve any mystery women from his past sneaking around. Set that boundary now and don't back down till you get the full honest truth. If he tries hiding something, that's all you need to know - drop his ass! You deserve way better than that mess. Keep me posted on what goes down!

[Asker]

Alright will do I tried messaging you but it won't let me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh okay, tell me your name and I will follow you to private message me

[Asker]

Tatitheunicorn

[Oliverlogan263]

Thank you hun, I just followed you

[laly520]

I think he knew her

[Anonymous]

I think he was surprised.

[Asker]

Ok that makes sense

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.