Is sleeping in the bed quality time?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I got into an argument about quality time. I was on a 2 day conference out of town and then I got back late Thursday. We went to sleep then woke up and went to work. I went home after work then he called and said that he was going out. Usually that means he won’t be back until til the AM. So I made a comment saying “I’m kind of sad that the couple days I was gone wasn’t enough”.
Maybe I could’ve said it a different way but he said that I’m clingy and we sleep in the bed together every night and he doesn’t see the issue.
I tried to explain that going to bed was not spending time and he said that nothing is enough for me and I need man with the same schedule because he work evenings and I work mornings. And he feels like we see each other every night and that’s enough.

I don’t get it. Please someone explain to me. Because going to bed in my mind is nothing. But maybe I am clingy. Please men if u can give me another perspective to help me understand better so that I don’t push him away. Which I already feel like I am.

[tremendousfern]

It's definitely not quality time.

The problem is that you two have different views of what you're getting out of the relationship.

He gets to sleep with you - that's all the quality time he wants and anything more is clingy. When you have sex with men outside of marriage, this is the view you should expect from them. If you want more, good luck with that.

If you respect yourself as a person and respect your desires for what you want out of a relationship, then you should break up with him and wait to have sex with the next guy until marriage.

[BarryLiverstone]

This was because you didn’t support his decision to go out. Doesn’t have much to do with quality time

[Anonymous]

Quality time means different things to different people. You told him your definition of quality time and he told you his. You’ll both need to agree on some type of compromise or simply separate due to incompatibility.

[Smashingdoozy]

Going to bed is NOT spending quality time together. Unless you're laying there chatting for hours and being intimate and not just sleeping

[MrDaveAPSI]

Think about it this way

You could be single

[Asker]

And honestly, it’s leading there.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Then why do you stay with him

[Anonymous]

Sleep is great if you can get it.

[Luckycharms12]

Nope not at all