Do men hit the wall too?

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We always hear people talk about women hitting 30 or 35, and so on hitting the wall according to some but what about men as well? In my opinion and view yes they do. Whether they wanna try to justify it or not, even if they physically look good at 40, or 35 if they have past baggage and try to start over with a new relationship, more kids and have previous kids, a high body count, lots of drama, etc he’s not a top candidate in the dating pool plain and simple. A young woman such as in her 20s if she’s single and no children will prefer the guy with no kids and closer to her age or maybe younger than the older washed up guy. I am aware women have baggage too and it’s hard for them to find someone if they have a past but men always downplaying like nothing I think it’s hypocritical. My boyfriend is 20 and I’m 25 and he has no children or a high body count nor do I. It’s also stated Men over the age of 35–40 typically experience a decrease in sperm health, which affects: Pregnancy rates. Pregnancy rates decrease with paternal age. Men will generally see a 52% decrease in fertility rate between their early 30s and their mid-to-late 30s. The younger men have more of an advantage to some women if they have less sexual experience as well and no past or baggage including kids.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

That pair bonding bullshit cracks me up. Inexperienced people get that off of the internet and believe it. LOL People can find any kind of nonsense to rationalize their personal preferences. It's like "I want a virgin and 'studies' confirm that non virgins are bad partners."

In reality, virgins are children. They haven't grown up yet. Plus, their reasons are based on things like religion or sexual inhibition, not science.

It's the normal, well-rounded, happy people who get interested in the opposite sex when they pass puberty. They fantasize about celebrity crushes and dream about having a boyfriend/girlfriend. They get into their first relationship, experience the feeling of infatuation, and begin learning about adulthood. It's how normal people start gaining the experience to make discerning choices in preparation for settling down in a stable relationship for the rest of their entire lives.

Much of what you said presupposes that everyone wants to start a family. But that's not the case with everyone and it's not the only reason for living. Yeah, if you want seven children, you should start in your early 20s. Then you can go to seed by your early 30s.

The whole concept of "hitting the wall" seems to be based on child bearing. That's fine. But then you have people with virgin fetishes adding to that by making those idiotic claims about pair bonding. I have a feeling that they are the least trustworthy because their choice in a partner is based on a physical trait and not on personality and mutual respect. They typically want a possession, not a partner.

I've known lots of married couples in my life. Very few ever married their first high school sweetheart. And out of those who did, even fewer remained together for the rest of their lives. So virginity does not guarantee a life of happiness and fulfillment. And not being a virgin in no way means that someone who eventually gets married will not be a loyal, devoted, life-long partner.

In regards to hitting a physical wall in terms of appearance, it can happen to both men and women but it depends on genetics and how well their care for themselves. Some people look fantastic into their 50s and even 60s.

Guys, in particular, can look fantastic and be full of vigor. Since men's physiques are shaped by lean muscle, and not dependent on fat distribution, they can remain studly as long as they eat right and work out. And barring illness, their cocks can remain as virile as ever. Even graying hair and some facial wrinkles can give a man character and look sexy. The main thing that happens to some men is hair loss.

Having babies, especially lots of them, can ravage women's bodies. Also, over time, their skin loses elasticity and begins to sag. Plus, they start losing the healthy feminine fat in their boobs, hips, butts and thighs, that defines a woman's ideal form. They start developing dimples in their butts and thighs. Their faces begin to show more character and they develop creases in the corners of their eyes that betray their age.
But again, a lot of that depends on a woman's level of self care.

Up to a point, those things don't necessarily make women unattractive at all. But, most people agree that the ideal feminine form is based on fresh, blossoming, youthfulness. So some people are turned off by any flaw or sign of aging in a woman.

Studies indicate that women are at their peak sexuality between after 27 years old and beyond 45.

Some studies indicate that late 20s to early 30s is the ideal age to have children. "As we age, we become more patient and knowledgeable about the world. It’s been noted that kids of “older” parents tend to be more academically accomplished as well."

In conclusion, "the wall" is subjective, happens to different people at different ages, and can't be defined.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In certain aspects of our lives sure. Maybe in the sense that you’re almost a certain age but you haven’t accomplished a damn thing in your life. I don’t think so much in the relationship category. To most women body count doesn’t matter, especially if she’s “aging out where she’s panicking about being alone for the rest of her life. Men do care about body count. Some may say they don’t, that may be true but most men want a girl w little to no body count. When it comes to women, they prefer a man w experience. Men don’t. The only way men prefer a girl w experience is if they’re looking for a one night stand. Other than that, no most men don’t want a girl like that. Even if a man doesn’t find a girl in his lifetime I think men are more content w that than women because we’re not co trolled by our emotions. I’ve read more questions from women on here about dating single fathers than I have about men wanting to date single mothers. Most men don’t want to date a single mother. It’s a bad investment in a majority of cases.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

yea they also do. men who dont think so are just as delusional as women who think they can be as hot as when they were at 22 forever. guys who think your average cute 18yo girl would pick their 45yo ass over some hot 19yo in a heartbeat make me cringe. anyways would say for men after 35 is when looks start to decrease and around 46-48 (to maybe 50-51 if you aged like a god) is when your time in the sun is completely over

for non physical things i dont think they make men hit the wall they just make them less desirable as boyfriends. can agree that manwhores are also not very attractive for serious relationships for most girls (which is something guys who think women need to be virgins while they can fuck as much girls as they want without it affecting their ability to get an actual girlfriend, need to hear)

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Definitely most men never even look good. And the ones that do only look good until about late 20s then they start rapidly aging. Beer bellies, grey hair, bad hairline, full on grandpa status. There's always a few rare exceptions to this tho.

I know personally I never wanted a old grandpa with experience. Never even crossed my mind. My husband was a virgin and wanted to be a young dad so that's naturally what I went after cause it was obviously the best option.

coachTanthony · Answer

A 38 year old who can't get it up is worse than any wall a man can hit. If you are 65 and can still get it up and have kids you are still valuable. Basically is what society is asking and chatting when this question comes up.

Sameone · Answer

Yes i agree with you but.

Let's be honest guys: If a man wants to know the body account of woman he will never know the truth and the same goes for a man you will never know the truth my dear to me both genders will lie. But why do I prefer a woman who has not lot of body account. (Less body account) To me she presents her body easily. Especially since how do I know this through dating? I try to impress her on the latter, and if she wants to enter the sexual stage before the date of 5, this is a red flag. To me, if someone else comes and attracts attention, she will sleep with him, Easley and some of you will say, “Where is the point of your words?” it's out of subjectThe meaning of it. If a person (man or woman) wants to have sex before getting to know your personality. He must have a lot body account than normal

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Men can definitely hit the wall. Hitting the wall is really a choice for both genders. I know women who are old ladies at 29, and other women who are live wires at 50. Aging is a circumstance, but getting old is a choice.

You have to take care of your physical health and make an intentional choice about living a life that you are excited to live.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Lol, it definitely affects men just as much. I don't know where this idea came from that men suddenly turn gorgeous when they hit 30 and women shrivel. Maybe that's how it used to be, I don't know, but I rarely see a man over 29 who doesn't look like he's on his way to 50.

HighValue · Answer

Your numbers are incorrect. Men past 55 still have a significantly higher chance of having healthy offspring than women 35 +. That is from biology education textbooks and statistics. Was that a mistake, or purposely LYING on your part?

As for the other part, I do agree that people that have too many past partners, (or any casual sexual partners) is a bad match for a successful long term relationship due to inability to successfully pair bond emotionally, BUT women frequently purposely seek out those types of men, including cheating on their good partner to be with promiscuous men. The more women a man has been with, contrary to what many women claim, actually makes him desired by more women because the majority of women want someone partly BECAUSE others want him. That is why for many women, if their women friends aren't interested in a guy, she will change her mind about him and lose interest too.

Berethor · Answer

Aging effects men, but it effects women more, most men place things like looks, body count, fertility, no kids at top priority, most women don't, men don't tend to care about women's career.

Anonymous · Answer

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Women past the age of 25 and more realistically past thier teens do not seek out a man for his attractiveness (yes I know a lot of women on here will argue this point but that's because most of the women on this site are immature and simply not very high quality women and really have not much of a clue what a good man is😆). Quality women generally seek out men who are confident, hard working (smart working) loyal, truthful, and have integrity. Because all these denote character and character will not dimish with time. A person's looks will (for both genders).

MaybeTony · Answer

In my early 20s I was using anabolic steroids and bodybuilding. So of course I had a lot of sexual attention. I'm now 30 and off everything, still have a physique, but I get more attention today. The crowd is different though. It was from younger college girls, to women in their 40s now hitting on me lol. I have some wrinkles and more body fat.

Anonymous · Answer

Men are valued for attributes they have more control over, women aren't. That's why men have more options as they age. But it's also why women have more power when they are younger. That is also why those who know this, trick them into squandering it.

I can only speak from my experience. But as I got older, interest from women increased. The variety of the types of interested women and their age ranges also increased.

LazerBean · Answer

I mean, it kind of all depends on what people consider a "wall". But yeah, based on what you specified it definitely hits both genders

Nikki1989 · Answer

Many have hit it by 18. Listen to how they talk. It is not ALL about looks.

Cheapskate · Answer

As a guy of almost forty, I kind of agree. I feel like I was a much better potential partner as a wide-eyed 18-year-old than I am now. Too much disappointment and bitterness and regret has piled up.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Lot of that has to do with life style choices, diet, exercises and the like it all has an effect. If there was a decrease it's because the guy wasn't living how he should have been.

DextroShade · Answer

Men only hit the wall when they age enough to see their minds decline, which is much later than women. Even then a man can still father children to almost the day he dies.

Unit1 · Answer

Yes, we start with the wall from the get go 😑😑😑

Anonymous · Answer

there r many walls n the way they affect someone depends on how they perceive hitting the walltho personally I agree with whats been said in the pic u shared re-state://background_color_rgb (255, 255, 255), font_color_rgb (13, 13, 13), justifyLeft

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. Also it is not completely dependent upon age. I've seen old people in their 20's and young people more than double that age. One neighbor will be 94 this year and he could pass for 60.

Drewtate · Answer

Yes but later. Men reach their sexually attractive prime later

dolemite58 · Answer

Depends on how the guy takes care of himself, some guys can look great til they’re 60. Many eat like shit and drink/smoke so they start looking rough in their late 30’s.

zagor · Answer

Yes, but with greater variance than most women. Some guys can be in great shape at 60, some are done at 35.

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