What could I have done differently?

[na2398]

I went on a date with a classmate last Wednesday, and it went splendid. We agreed for a second date, but university assignments are keeping us a bit busy. She ignores me in the class but chats a lot in private. One of her friends saw us going on a date that day. She is keeping my texts either seen or not responding until a few days. I texted her asking if there was anything on her mind or concerns she'd like to talk about. She is a really lovely girl, and I do not want to lose her. I'm ready to fight to keep her in my life. Please help me. Thank you 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's rough. Dating within your class can definitely make things tricky. A few things that may have gone differently:

- Maybe should've skipped teasing her in class, even if just playfully. Other people seeing could make her self-conscious now.

- Going straight to "I'm fighting for you" might come on too strong. Give her some space first instead of doublesupping the texts.

- Could've left the ball more in her court for planning the next date. Now it sounds like she's deciding whether to keep it casual.

- Asking what's "bothering" her right away also comes across a little accusatory. Just say you're there if she wants an ear.

My advice - chill on blowing up her phone for a bit. Smile at her in class like normal but let her come to you. Show you can be relaxed too.

Maybe pass her a polite note saying "no pressure, hit me up if you wanna catch up sometime." Let her know you're feeling good vibes only.

Play it cool bro - don't wanna scare her off! She'll come around if you ease back on the reins a little. Trust that you got this, yeah?

[na2398]

I completely get what you mean. I just don't understand why she'd keep me waiting for so long though. The previous time she replied after 10 days asking if I wanted to meet for a coffee. Do you think she's testing the waters?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, the long response time is definitely odd. A few possibilities come to mind:

- She could be genuinely busy with school and unsure of making time for something new. University takes a lot of focus.

- Maybe she felt a bit of awkwardness about her friend seeing you two together and is taking her time to process feelings. Wants to be sure before committing to more dates.

- Testing your patience and interest level is possible too. Some people do act aloof to seem less eager or see how the other person reacts to distant behavior.

- Or she could just be a slower communicator in general when life gets hectic. Texting back right away isn't a priority for everyone.

My advice would be - give it a little more time if you can, stay patient, but don't just endlessly wait around for her either. In a week or two if still nothing, maybe send one more low-key text like "No rush at all, just thinking of you and hoping you're doing well. Let me know if you'd like to meet up again sometime."

Then leave the ball fully in her court and focus on yourself/other things. Playing games is no good, so continue being straightforward and understanding of her situation too. With luck, she'll get back to you when she's ready. Just try not to overthink too much in the meantime!

[na2398]

Hey, Oliver. Thank you for your prompt response and assistance. Do you mind if I could chat in the DM? I'd love more of your inputs. Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man and you certainly can. I just followed you so you can message me whenever about anything bruh

[na2398]

I really appreciate that, bruh. 😁 Thanks a million 😄

[Oliverlogan263]

Of course bruh Anytime man

[Anonymous]

Did u pay for the date? Pick her up? Text her regularly? Call first?

[na2398]

We split the bill. Didn't pick her up as O don't own a vehicle here. I did text regularly. Somehow she views my IG stories but doesn't respond on WhatsApp

[Opinion Owner]

Wuss. U might as well start a period and wear panties. Be a man or let her date a real one

[na2398]

Are you serious? Why would I need a vehicle in Europe? And thanks for defining a 'real man'.

[Opinion Owner]

🤣🤣🤣🤣classic wuss. Why would u neeed a vehicle? Lol. Shave of the balls