Are you turned off by women who are quiet on a date or who don't seem to add to the conversation? (Page 2)

[exitseven]

I was fixed up with a girl when I was in college. She did not like me and really made me feel very uncomfortable.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well guys like honest straightforward conversation.

[Iron_Man]

if we’re brand new to each other to me it’s like unsuccessful date when they don’t talk at all, it’s like they’re disappointed and that sends out bad vibes

[fuddly]

I was on a date long long time ago

And the girl said nothing. I did my best and was very entertaining.
End of night i walked her home and bizarrely she said she would like to see me again
And i said no. Very strange.

[poshspice123]

I guess now you know why

[Anonymous]

It's not so much that I'd be turned off by that. More like I'd interpret it as "she's not into me."

Did you look nice for the date? Do any flirting at all?

[Asker]

I had my hair done and light makeup but I don’t think my outfit was a 10/10 … I had ordered clothes but they hadn’t come in yet

I needed something fitted… I looked and felt insecure but my outfit wasn’t horrible

[Opinion Owner]

Fitted is good for a date--particularly if you have a nice body. That can certainly help things along.

[Asker]

But at the end of the day. He wasn’t the one.. and his true colors showed

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, if he was a jerk then he's not the one.

[Reijen]

Yeah, I get bored unless she gave me advanced notice that she's shy and may not contribute much.
But if she doesn't, I'm left to think she's boring.

[Twalli]

I prefer a woman who is engaging. As much as I like looking at porn, I don't want a relationship like porn. It has no substance and I would prefer to have a relationship with substance.

[Harshbro]

Being closed off and quiet indicates disinterest to most people. You claim to have wanted something with him but your actions say otherwise. Put yourself in his shoes

[Asker]

But for him to not want to tell me his real name and he asked me when I was last intimate

[Harshbro]

Sounds like a player

[Asker]

🥺🥺🥺

[Asker]

Yeah cuz he just dumped me like i was nothing

[Harshbro]

Was never interested in long term relo with u, he probably has lots of options

[Asker]

At 37… why is he a player like… really

[jahaims]

It depends on how she comes off. If she seems nervous and quiet that is one thing. If she is quiet because she is stupid then that is a turn off.

[KrakenAttackin]

Definitely. If you go out with me and just expect me to entertain you the entire time, this is a non-starter.

[OtterMan68]

If I were him, I would think you were not interested

[Asker]

Not true tho

[OtterMan68]

then you need to take an active interest. Ask about his hobbies, his dream vacation, what he would do if he didn't have his current career, and when he asks you a question, be honest. Be honest right off the bat too: if you're nervous, tell him that and why you're nervous. He can help you overcome it by letting you know there's nothing to be nervous about

[Asker]

Well… we had a bad start during our talking stage…mostly because of me… actually all bc of me..

I feel like the date really wasn’t date… it was a meet up for me to “redeem “ myself during our texting stage. On a phone call he said that I come off a tad bit unstable

I was more confident over text ofc..

But I think part of me just felt embarrassed and insecure the whole date

And he said he was scared to sleep with me because I would be crazier.

[Shiningtempest]

I see a woman who are quiet on a date as a massive red flag because it makes having fun conversation impossible. Thus, I'm willing to pass up an opportunity to date a woman genuinely in to me.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Only if they're doing so rudely or deliberately or I think that the match isn't gonna match 😕😔

[itsclearlynicholas]

That said, if she talks too much, I'm the talker. I'm the talker. 😄😄😄😜

[Ironic_Method]

Not saying anything gives the appearance of being uninterested.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Yes, I want to feel like she is attracted to me and interested in me.

[LiamJHayden]

On a first date, no, because a lot of people are nervous on those.

[DextroShade]

Quiet women are far preferable to loud annoying women.

[Nifrayu]

It honestly wouldn't bother me, but that's only because I used to be the same way.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Turn off. You have to talk otherwise there's no way I would get to know you.

[JayBones2469]

I'm already checking out at the bathroom and leaving all bitch with the check