Date is going great, you get invited over to their place... and it's a dump! Run for the hills or keep going?

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myloveforuisinfinte · Accepted Answer

Of course I would stay and not pay attention to the filth. Common courtesy requires it (and also it's a polite way to handle a situation) and besides, if the food was cooked there recently, it is probably perfectly good (‘safe’ for the paranoid) to eat. They probably didn’t stir countertop rot and dog poop into the pot. If it’s spoiled or has (oh horrors!) cat hair on it, most normal digestive systems can handle that with aplomb… maybe a bit of diarrhea later, but undoubtedly survivable. Lol I think , one must never react to an offense, and one must always express thanks for an invitation. How you enjoy the visit and meal has everything to do with you, and nothing to do with the location, circumstances or menu. They value your bond and also accept you as you are!

purplepoppy · Accepted Answer

It's a good sign because it means he doesn't have a girlfriend

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Depends on how bad it is.

I can get messy at times but I always clean up. I especially clean the place if I know someone is coming over. Doesn’t have to be spotless but just presentable.

But some people just don’t care at all what other people think. That’s supposed to be “a quality” but not when you invite someone to come over or go on a date with the high probability of them coming over afterwards. It shows the other person isn’t considerate. That in itself is a red flag.

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

Yes. If you just walked into an episode of hoarders run! If the fridge is empty / gross and there's nothing but a pile of take out menus - run! If there is Mount Laundry in the corner - run! If the bathroom looks like a NYC subway car during Fleet Week - RUN!!

AviatorTom · Answer

If there's somewhere we can do the deed, we do it. Then I fun for the hills, never see her again.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Been there. . . stayed. . . horrible mistake!

coachTanthony · Answer

Keep going of course. Man up

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

A dump, You say? Still better than what at least my part of the room during my period of living in a student house, I guess. Coincidentally, that was also when I was absolutely out of will to live. Though I guess I would never invite a girl into my place unless I was 100% serious and 100% sure she was the one.

Now then, if You say the date was going great so far (so I guess the guy wasn't exactly filthy), You might give him a chance. It's pretty likely he's simply out of reasons to live, so he does not care how this life looks like anymore, in particular. And if he's good enough for You and You accepted the invite, it means he has not yet abandoned societal norms and You do have enough in common to form a relationship. And once You bring him out of the assumed depths of despair, he might turn out to be every woman's dream.

exitseven · Answer

My ex girlfriend was a slob's slob. She used to take her clothes out of the dryer and just dump them on the bed and just poke through the pile to find something clean to wear. She had a puppy tht used to pee and poop all over the place and she would just leave it there. Looking back i should have run away.

sage2021 · Answer

Gee, that looks like my last boyfriend's mess. I'm so clean and he was like the picture. Funny thing, a mess like that doesn't even bother some people. 🤷🏼‍♀️

NathanDavis · Answer

I'll run for the hills... after I clean all that up

dustybiker2 · Answer

That is a reflection of the mind. Scattered. Irresponsible. Can't keep their own space livable how little do they care about the rest of the people around them.. children? Hardest pass.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Run I don't care what people say or think. I am not intrested in being friemds with a pig. Uh poor hoarders. No excuses excuses people need to own up to theirnown actions. This is disgusting.

BadApple69 · Answer

What do you mean run!! I brought you there to clean lol

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Run. State of someone's room is pretty accurate at showing you the state of your future with them.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

I said run but irl it depends. Like if it's disorganized, like clutter everywhere and things laying around, I don't mind.
But if it's dirty, if there are insects, mold or food that is going bad, then run.

Unit1 · Answer

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bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I won't immediately run but I will want to have a conversation as to why it looks like this. I used to be this way before the military so that immaturity is not lost on me

FatNeville · Answer

I would keep going. It's refreshing to meet someone who is also fond of such an environment.

Juxtapose · Answer

I've seen worse! I'd help her clean and not be judgmental especially if she was great otherwise. And frankly people who are a  bit  messy turn me for some reason.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Depends. If it's just disorganized, I don't care. It would only be an issue if it's actually dirty like bacterially dirty which can cause health issues. Even an organized place can be dirty like that.

laly520 · Answer

def run there is a chance I might end up in a true crime documentary if I stay

dreamstar72 · Answer

If it is a complete disaster RUN RUN Almost a disaster RUN A complete mess question mark  A mess think if you should offer to help once

butterly248 · Answer

Keep going. It can be due to depression, hoarding etc.

DJB72 · Answer

Probably keep going. It's been a while since I was around someone as untidy as me

Rosegoldenpot · Answer

I will volunteer and help them clean. Not everyone is perfect in life. Could be struggling with some issues we don’t know about. Could be normal to them and they think it’s normal to us

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If I could get laid then carry in. But for relationship? Probably pass

SolitarySolace · Answer

That's clesrly a woman's room. Too much pink to be a man's room

JayBones2469 · Answer

You know if that place is dirty the dick or pussy gonna be worse

red324 · Answer

Always go to her place to avoid this issue. 😂

OtterMan68 · Answer

Is it just cluttered, or is their mold, roaches, flies, etc?

Fuentes · Answer

I hate dirty people so I'll smash her out n block her after

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Been there done that. I boned the bitch anyway

electromagnetic · Answer

For sure there is a bug in there somewhere.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Run.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'd run for hell 😔😦😨😅😈👿

DarkLegacy · Answer

LMFAO. Is this a joke lol

Vick2828 · Answer

Keep going. Help them clean

Rangers · Answer

I wouldn't care at all

LiamJHayden · Answer

That pic gives me anxiety, so I am gone.

shortster · Answer

Depends on the type of mess.

spicythunder · Answer

run haha

Anonymous · Answer

Run.

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