I’m embarrassed to tell the guy I’m talking to that I have never been in a relationship. If a girl tells you so, what would you think?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

The question is why are you embarrassed?
I’m not going to lie , I would be concerned as to why a girl your age was never in a relationship before, it would cross my mind as to what you were up to and what you were doing all those years of you being single? Were you casually screwing around playing the field screwing a bunch of guys’? or were you just reflecting on yourself and not having sex with anyone? I would hope she was honest with me and told me the truth , even though most girls’ don’t like to tell the truth , but that’s a different story lol , but that’s the thing , it wouldn’t really bother me , if she was honest with me about it , So there is your answer , just be honest to him , don’t lie , don’t keep secrets , if you really like this guy and you want to be closer to him? and you want to have a possible long lasting Relationship with him? , you are best to be honest period. People that have a hard time being honest , are the people that do not last in relationships , because they only care about themselves and what they think is best for themselves. They are the people that question themselves as to why they constantly fail at every relationship they have been in , they don’t see no wrong in themselves they are always right , it’s because they aren’t honest , they only think about themselves. I am not going to be a hypocrite because I use to be that way when things didn’t go my way in a relationship, instead of just being honest, I would try to just keep the peace , not realizing keeping secrets and lies isn’t keeping much of anything but lies and dishonesty , So it’s best just to be honest with someone , because it gives them a choice on whether they want to continue seeing you or not. If they can’t handle your honesty , then they aren’t the person for you

[Peridot25]

This is why I’m staying single for good so I can avoid all these questions. I’ve already been called a whore so I don’t want to go down that road again with a future potential partner.

[Finchie40]

Most of us encounter bad seeds when it comes to dating and relationships , and not everyone thinks the same , in some cases they do , but it’s very rare for anyone to be exactly alike. Not everyone is going to like you and dislike you , if someone dislikes you and is criticizing you and belittling you and trying to rain on your parade , that person is more than likely the one that needs a wake up call that their shit stinks as well. Most people in general are judgmental , they try to rub their 2 cents together thinking they are right and everyone else is wrong. The only person that is wrong , is themselves. If someone wants to live their life thinking they are perfect and thinking the do no wrong , sadly
Their time will come when they get smacked in the face with reality , that their shit actually does stink. People like that? you are best just to ignore them and walk away , and not allow them to take away the better of you. They honesty shouldn’t mean anything to you because they are actually nothing to you but a rude disrespectful person. If someone has the nerve to put you down and make mean remarks toward you? For no reason what so ever , just walk away and don’t waste any of
Your time or energy on them. Whether
You are religious or not , just walk away and say to yourself Bless Them, Change Me , the reason I say this , is because why is this so called mean disrespectful person trying to rain on my parade when I know for a fact I clearly didn’t say anything or do anything for them to be upset with or disrespectful to me.
If I did without realizing I did? My apologies but my intentions wasn’t that at all. So Bless them and change me.

[Purpleronnie]

Well I’d be curious why and want to know more. That’s the only thing I can say for definite. I try to never judge and course there are a lot of assumptions I could make some positive , some negative but I’d want to know your story and the truth as you see it. It tells me a little that you think you feel embarrassed I mean your conscious of it and how it perhaps lends to how you will be perceived but I don’t believe there is really much to be embarrassed about. It’s your truth !

[mono_gram]

I don’t think you should be embarrassed. There’s a first for everything. You also have your own reasons for staying single/not being in a relationship. If the guy has a problem with that then maybe it’s a sign that you shouldn’t pursue the relationship further.

[PeachyPie93]

No need to even bring it up unless he asks. But it is usually best to be honest if he does ask you.

[Flatmanlewis]

Not a real concern. Particularly if the reasoning was reasonable: focusing on education or career, not finding anybody that met your personal standard, or just being unlucky in dating. One of the best reasons - you just weren’t ready or prioritizing a relationship until now. Either way, don’t worry about it.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I don't think you should be embarrassed. Most guys would probably prefer a girl who's more innocent/naive, to one who had had sex with a whole bunch of dudes.

Is the REASON you've never been in a relationship embarrassing? Because if the reason is just shyness or you just never clicked with anyone, I think most guys will be fine with that.

[Peridot25]

What do you consider naive? I don’t know why but that just rubbed me the wrong way. Because naive means a guy would take advantage of a girl.
Or maybe I read too much into that.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Peridot25 Naive as in she doesn't know how relationships work because she hasn't been in one.

[TommyMountainFigure]

What do I think? I don't think you should ever be embarrassed. Me personally? She could tell me anything without me judging her.. As I say that, I guess there would be one or two things I might judge her on, but never being with someone before me isn't one of them.

Stop worrying k?

[SotiCoto]

I'm probably far too jaded to answer questions like this... as my first reaction was to roll my eyes and wonder why you even care about something so trivial...

But whatever. Everyone was young once. I guess young people worry about things that older people have learnt don't really matter.

[Anonymous]

This can't be answered. Because her age is a factor. But HOW she says it is the BIGGEST factor.

What I can tell you her best bet is to be honest. Because if she tries to hide it. Or lie about why she's never been in a relationship will only make him not believe anything that comes out of her mouth from that point. If you trust the guy, trust that he'll understand. If you don't trust him then nothing has been lost if he doesn't.

[IslaTheWitch]

if he doesn't ask, you don't have to tell him anything that makes you uncomfortable...

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm in my own boat lol. At 30 fate and cons of pros of life just meant I never got around to dating in my prime of my 20s. And Covid happened also. Lol. Shaved off two years for everybody ahahaha. Ah well 😃❤️‍🩹

[itsclearlynicholas]

2-3 years actually technically ha 😂

[Jemini_Crocket]

Trust your gut! A normal dude won't care, really.

[exitseven]

Okay- everyone starts somewhere. Everyone has different life circumstances. The rest of your life begins today. I would be too busy trying to get you to like me to worry about that.

[Peridot25]

Men do not like women without experience. Especially, if she never had sex. They don’t have the patience. Also, he’ll probably think you’re a whore. Of course I’m not saying you are but that would be his first thought.

[Jemini_Crocket]

How can he think she's a whore if she never had sex before? Doesn't make sense.

[Peridot25]

Because, to him, since she’s been single this whole time he’ll believe she slept around. And there’s really no proof to tell if someone is a virgin.

[Peridot25]

But, let’s say he gave her a chance. She won’t be able to please him very well and that’s going to put a strain in their relationship. Once he realizes this, he’s going to regret his decision.

[Berethor]

If you a virgin that a good thing, if it means that you had lot of casual sex it a bad thing.

[Mrtcn01]

i directly ask to her what is the reason. Cultural, believes, religion, family or self confidence. or without any reason can be nothing important. if she needs helps to discover i help..

[MikeTheBartender]

It happens often, especially at your age. No big deal.

[Peridot25]

Oh, bullshit. It’s a huge deal and you know it.

[boggboss]

I would wonder why but it wouldn't be a massive issue

[laly520]

why embarrassed? just be honest

it is what it is

[Anonymous]

Well, I’ve never been in a tre relationship too so he’ll should cope with that and if he has problems with it.. just change target

[ProbablyClueless]

I would be more patient and understanding with someone who has never dated anyone before.

[Starrrboy]

A cool dude wouldn't mind.. a guy with little to no experience would really appreciate it.. there's nothing to be ashamed of..

[VV3ZZY123]

doesn't matter to me. I prefer it actually cuz then I know I'm special to her and not just another fling

[nawtee_me]

No need to be embarrassed since everyone has to start somewhere. Just take it easy and you will figure it out.