Is it okay if I'm not ready to settle down just yet? Will a girl wait for me?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Listen dude, if you meet the right girl... and you know she is the right girl... marry her before someone else comes to take her.

I'm 28. Back then when I was in my early 20s, I left a "close to perfect" man due to a very minor reason because I honestly believed that the "perfect guy" will come by if I waited further down the road. It never came. I have never ever met a guy better than him. Dating right now feels like I'm sifting through a garbage can for the best piece of trash.

I've met another 2-3 guys who said the very same thing. They regret leaving someone that was right for them. Reasons were : I'm not ready to settle down; or I don't like that she is uneducated and doesn't have a career.

If you don't want to be single forever, lock her down before she leaves you for someone else. You might never find anyone better than her

[Flatmanlewis]

This is pure wisdom.

[nana_]

I’m 25 and never dated, I think 28 is still young. If you’re white girl maybe you should try to meet people other nationality

[Opinion Owner]

@nana_

28 is not young. If you consider the fact that most people marry while theyre under 40. You are most successful in finding love when you're under 40 and childless. Sure you may still date over 40 or with kids but your options decrease significantly later on

[Anonymous]

That’s a hard question to answer directly. Some women may be willing to wait, others may not. A lot of it depends on what you both want. If she wants kids, for example, she may not want to wait as her time to have kids grows smaller.
It’s okay to not be ready to settle down, but it may help to give a woman a time line. And then stick to it! If you say “I’ll be ready in 3 years,” be ready in those 3 years. Don’t be saying 3 years from now that you’ll be ready in another 2 years. No woman wants to have her time wasted.

[b_lova]

It's not okay if you want her to wait for you.

What's your reason for not being ready? And do you really think that reason is good enough to expect someone else to put their life in hold for you when you could never decide you are ready?

Think about this from her perspective. In other words don't be selfish.

If you are going to be selfish about it, don't commit as you both will regret it later but also recognize you are passing up someone you think could be the one and if that's the case commit while hardly and didn't look back.

[Fireguy17]

It depends on what she wants.

Depending on her age she may want to start a family and she may not wait too long.

Others may not want to get married so it might not matter to them, or anything in between.

Everyone is different.

[jennifer_bloom]

If she is normal, she won’t want to commit to a guy with no desire to marry her. If she chases you, she is after money or sex or manual support or popularity. I have my ideal guy in my head, he might not be attainable but unless a guy can convince me he is interested for a lasting marriage, I will always compare him to my ideal. Just like, a kitten could not transport a bookshelf even in a million years but a karate master with years of fitness training can lift it.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@jennifer_bloom
When it comes to lifting a bookshelf why did you compare a kitten (feline) and a karate master (human)?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No. Our Biological clocks are ticking, ain’t nobody have time for you to feel ready. There are plenty of ready men.

[Rosexøxø]

Depends on her emotions and logic.

If you both are meant to be or have the potential.

But the reality is she isn’t sworn to do so, nor obligated.

Talk it out, maybe it’s a chance for you two. Maybe it’s not.

[coachTanthony]

Your life isn't The Notebook nobody should have to wait for you or anyone lol

[Rosexøxø]

😆 😂

[ZamerZ]

Depends entirely on the context of your relationship. Did you both enter with different goals and priorities? Like, do you want a marriage and kids one day, just not right now? If you aren't on the same page on these things and you keep her waiting for too long, she might feel like you're playing her and that your unsure ess to commit to a marriage with her speaks volumes about how you really feel about her.

On the other hand, if you both never said that marriage is a necessity to be with each other, she'll wait more likely. Honestly, if you already talked about this and she understands your reasons why you don't want to get married, she might want to wait out of love. No biggie. But I think what's really important here are your arguments why you can't commit now. Postponing stuff you agreed on bc of a job, traveling etc. sound different than being unsure of your partner. Maybe that woman isn't the one you want to spend your life with. You need to openly communicate.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's OK to not settle down if you're not ready.

Will a girl wait for you? No, Not if she has any self respect.

And let me tell you at your age the best women have already been married. My advice to ANY guy is if you have not found a wife by 25, TAKE YOUR TIME! Because after 25 you're choosing from the 2nd and 3rd tier women. Will she marry you? Yeah. But with these women getting marriage was not thier PRIMARY goal. Do you really want to marry a woman who has more of a selfish attitude towards marriage. Or has a laundry list of stipulations to marry? Like I say after 25, TAKE YOUR TIME. Make sure she really wants it.

[sheikalana]

It's okay if you're not ready but do not expect anyone to wait around for you to be ready.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah no obligations. This has to be realized.

[PeachyPie93]

I always feel if a guy don't want me right now, then he just don't want me. I feel if a woman he really wanted came along he wouldn't let her go and would take her right away.

[Lionman95]

It´s ok and it´s better to know when you´re ready to settle down but don´t expect other people to wait. Nobody knows when you feel ready so that´s an infinite amount of time.

[HighValue]

If you have a good partner now, keep them. Don't do something you will regret for many years later in life for short term fun.

[laly520]

many girls won't wait for a person who isn't ready to commit or settle down

[KittygosMeoWW]

It’s a hard answer for me, I think my next relationship will definitely be looking for a commitment within 1-3 years.

[DrPepper12]

Ofc it's ok!! Be true to you, be patient, be curious.

[Iron_Man]

You have plenty of time you’re not that old

[handsomelad70]

Yes, but it isn't often that a girl waits for a guy or vise versa.

[Nightblade23]

If she truly loves you then she would wait for you

[dustybiker2]

Why would you waste her life?

[whistlingwh0res]

What are you afraid of?

[Anonymous]

No, she won't. Why should she?

[mayurr]

Never.