Girls, girl texted me asking to go for a late night walk, and I wasn't sure if I was supposed to make a move or not?

[Anonymous]

So I've been texting back and forth with this girl from my psych class, and it's been pretty consistent. She invited me to a dinner last week where we shared some wine, but not much else happened so I didn't know what to make of it.

Fast forward to last night, she texts me "hey do you wanna go for a walk together", and I agreed to go even if it was kind of late lol. During the walk we talked a lot about our university experiences, friends, etc. Besides playfully hitting me, she didn't seem like she wanted to get to close, but after I walked her home she did say "this was so much fun, we need to do this again! See you later this week".

She hadn't hugged me at the beginning or end of the walk, so I figured I shouldn't try to get super physical or anything. Did I mess up by not being more assertive? Embarassed to say I'm struggling to know when it's okay to try and be more physical, as previous girlfriends have been more touchy with me & it was obvious. In addition I wasn't sure if a night walk was considered to be a "date" or not lol

[Anonymous]

I understand that you’re trying to play it safe, but in doing so you may miss your shot completely. I feel like this just kinda generally goes without saying, but in most cases women expect men to make the first move. I’m not sure if her inviting you out for a walk was platonic for her or not, but you could’ve showed your interest and gone from there. Maybe it would’ve been reaching for her hand or offering your coat, even asking her officially out on a date. In any case, your fear of messing up the dynamic between you could land you in the friend zone forever.

[Asker]

Oh man, do you think so? I'm so conflicted on whether or not to make one, but also unsure how she may react if it's unwelcome... ah well, if i missed the mark, then it's my fault and i'll have to work with that :')

[Asker]

I had originally asked her out to a dinner when we first started talking (about a month ago), and she had ignored that by not responding so I didn't wanna push things, but seeing her take initiative this week made me wonder if things had changed

[laly520]

some take time to get physical n some just dont wanna be touchy

its fine

[Asker]

that makes me feel better that i'm being "too slow" or whatever lol, thank you :)