It’s not like men’s standards helped the situation. If more men exercised meaningful standards and boundaries, fewer women would have over-inflated self worth.
It’s tragic in some ways that men are acting more like women now. Example: women are infamous for avoiding accountability. Every breakup is the man’s fault. Men are always wrong, women are always right.
Men have always carried accountability. But you look at an arguably deplorable dating environment and suggest that it’s all women’s fault? Men had a part in it too, friend. Nobody’s hands are clean.
If everyone cleaned up their own side of the street, the mess would go away. Instead everyone seems dead set on telling other people what they should be doing to make everything better. That is a VERY feminist attitude. Let that sink in.
I feel absolutely thrilled to be off the dating scene. I see if from the sidelines just based on the stories and experiences of the men I work with who range from young twenties to late forties.
Seems to me that the young women have a very lengthy and high-standard dating standards list. Everything from income to physical appearance to where they live and how they dress. Yet, when men voice the same standards it seems to be regarded as offensive and rude.
In particular women have a vocal
opinion about this topic. Men with standards are greeted with a judgmental sneer and women are greeted with a high-five.
No, I don't think women's standards have ruined dating. I think people not recognizing that they have to put in effort is what ruined dating. You have to have perspective when you're looking for your special someone, and you have to be ready to act like you give a shit. Forget about the mathematical odds of finding your dream catch for a second; are you ready to be that person's partner? What do you do to be the person your dream partner would connect with?
And THAT is where a lot of women are falling short these days (and I assume that a lot of men probably fall short in that department as well).
I think it's good for women to shoot for the moon in terms of who they will date, but they need to be willing to put forth that same energy. An exceptional man isn't going to be able to date a woman who can't be bothered to get off her ass.
The main problem is the shift in the job market and the high cost of housing that has made it difficult for non-college men to find work paying well enough to enable them to form a household.
As a rule, complex phenomena don't arise out of simple causes- and functionally never out of ONE simple cause.
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